Is that love?

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@Kandae11 (54959)
April 11, 2018 4:16pm CST
I wonder how many women harbor a secret desire to be tied up or dominated by their partner. Before the movie "fifty Shades Of Grey" hit the cinemas in 2015, there were many demonstrations from various women's groups hoping to have it banned. Not only were their efforts futile, but the movie drew large crowds including women in droves - and sales for duct tape and other paraphernalia used in the film rose dramatically. It should also be noted that the movie was directed by a woman - and based on a novel written by a woman. Did you see the movie? Was it much ado about nothing? Can any form of abuse be a part of love?
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
11 Apr 18
I refuse to see the movies, but did read the books. To be honest, I enjoyed all three, but would never let myself be abused like that. It takes two to tango.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
11 Apr 18
Some say the movie was boring, and the books are more entertaining. Yes - it does take two to tango.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
12 Apr 18
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@Kandae11 (54959)
11 Apr 18
@DianneN Okay. I see.
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@just4him (317027)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 18
I've never seen the movie, and don't plan on it. I don't approve of abuse of any type and that kind is insane.
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@just4him (317027)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Yes, they do.
@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
People do get up to a lot of weird stuff.
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@LadyDuck (469258)
• Switzerland
12 Apr 18
I have seen the movie and I found it extremely boring. I would never let a man abuse me.
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@LadyDuck (469258)
• Switzerland
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I bought the DVD, I had to stop the movie and continue the day after, it made me sleep.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Many have said that the movie is boring.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
@LadyDuck Then I guess it was - much ado about nothing.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 18
I think that anything people do in private is fine, as long as both partners enjoy it equally. Personally I would run a mile from that sort of thing.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
I would run too.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
11 Apr 18
I try to see this movie but shut it off.this is from the younger generationn What ever happen to Mae West
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@Kandae11 (54959)
11 Apr 18
I agree - those old movies are classics - and I think the stars back then were better looking.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
12 Apr 18
Definitely would not have wanted to see it; although my husband at the time probably sure would have @Kandae11 .
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
13 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Yeah, no kidding. I don't want to remember mine actually raping me.
@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
I doubt if women who have been treated roughly by men (and I don't mean play rough) would want to watch this movie - I won't.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
12 Apr 18
I did not see the movie nor do I want to. Not my kind of movie.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 "Can any form of abuse be a part of love?" I personally don't think so. I think it is a sick mind that views abuse as love.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
@1hopefulman It is amazing the kind of things that turn people on.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Not my kind of show either.
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@marguicha (221168)
• Chile
12 Apr 18
I have heard but not read or watched the book and movie. I think that there are all sorts of people in this world. There are men who want to be dominated too.
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@marguicha (221168)
• Chile
13 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I don´t trust statistics in those subjects. People don´t tell. And I´m not much interested.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Yes indeed, From what I have read it would seem that more men are into it than women.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
13 Apr 18
@marguicha You are correct - people don't tell . And they don't have to - it is their business.
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
12 Apr 18
Wow! really? the sales of duct tapes? .. I haven't seen the movie.. But I have the books because I was curious about the fuss .. It's like 4 years now that I have the books but haven't read it yet .. LOL! .. Now I have to go and find where they are ..
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Yes indeed, the hardware stores did brisk business with the sale of duct tape and rope among other things.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
12 Apr 18
I have not seen the movie nor read the books but as long as both parties agree, who am I to tell them what is acceptable.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
If both parties agree of course. What they do when they are together is their business.
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@LeaPea2417 (37336)
• Toccoa, Georgia
12 Apr 18
I refused to see the movie and read the books. I think that bondage stuff is a perverted form of sexuality. I have never had that desire to do any of that. No, bondage is not love.
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@LeaPea2417 (37336)
• Toccoa, Georgia
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I don't understand the popularity of it.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Hard to understand why the movie was such a hit.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
13 Apr 18
@porwest That's quite true - otherwise the movie would have bombed. And not forgetting the increase in sales of duct tape, rope and other stuff used in the movie. And two sequels following soon after.
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@JudyEv (337143)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 Apr 18
I didn't see the movie or read the book. After hearing so much about it I decided I didn't want to.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
I read the reviews - and neither the book or the movie would be my cup of tea.
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@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
12 Apr 18
No, I haven't seen it. It's not Romeo's kind of movie...
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
That's nice to know.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
13 Apr 18
@Bullshark What would that be?
@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
13 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Romeo loves watching romcoms...
@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
11 Apr 18
No, I havent because I am not thrilles with the story. People become oblivious of the fact that abuse is never okay. We were conditioned to believe that these abuses are okay. This is money and they profit out of it.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
11 Apr 18
It was such a big hit - they decided to make two more.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 yes, thats right. But I still would not watch it.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 Neither would I.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
12 Apr 18
How can there be love, when you experience being battered by your husband physically. Though, even being battered by hurting and foul word is even much more hurting. It could make a wife like to kill her husband when she experiences those. Hatred not love is the result.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
There are some brainwashed women who actually feel that the husband who beats his wife, loves her and doesn't want to see her err. I have not watched this movie and have no intention of doing so, but from the reviews I have read - this is different from everyday domestic violence - because both parties are agreed and get some kind of fun and stimulation out of it.
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@Hannihar (130222)
• Israel
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I saw it on Neflix. It took awhile for me to get it out of my head. I thought it was very sick. He would not let her touch him and only he could touch her. He never learned about relationships but he was willing to try for her but in the end it just did not work out and she walked away and did the right thing I feel.
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@Hannihar (130222)
• Israel
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I never read the book or books. I only saw the movie. I cannot say if liked it or not.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Some say the movie was boring and not as good as the books.
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@nela13 (57949)
• Portugal
12 Apr 18
It is just a movie and a story, don't know why there were women's groups trying to ban it from the cinema. I read the first book but I couldn't finish it as it wasn't my style.
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@nela13 (57949)
• Portugal
12 Apr 18
@Kandae11 when will the third movie be on theatres?
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
@nela13 Not sure - sometime this year I suppose.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Their efforts were uncessful - and two sequels were made.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
14 Apr 18
Oh this is funny, you're not going to believe this but I'm watching "Fifty Shades Darker" as we speak. I don't think that the relationship between the 2 main characters, Christian and Anastasia is a healthy one, but I do think Domination and submission can be part of a healthy relationship, as long as boundaries are respected and communication is constant, with no effort of manipulation. Hypothetically speaking I would think it would be most fun to be the sort of person who likes both ;-)
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
16 Apr 18
@Kandae11 I actually liked "Fifty Shades Darker" moreso. There is a mystery story in there along with all of the, ah.... other... content .... and "Darker" focused more on the mystery. :-)
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@Kandae11 (54959)
14 Apr 18
Some say the movie was boring - is Fifty Shades Darker any better? Well, it is their business, couples who are in agreement can choose how they wish to be stimulated.
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@YrNemo (20255)
12 Apr 18
I read about this by accident (they interviewed the main actor and actress, I followed the interview, but didn't know about the movies they were in.) but have no intention of watching it or the sequence movies. Just not the type I like.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
12 Apr 18
Not my cup of tea either.
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@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
13 Apr 18
I have watched the movies but the last part haven't watched it yet.
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@Kandae11 (54959)
13 Apr 18
Yes, I read there are two sequels following the first movie.
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@rheicel (7065)
• Philippines
13 Apr 18
@Kandae11 Did you watch the movie?