My little sister has replied and wants to be in touch with me on Messenger

In this case I think you should accept her invitation. Be careful and think twice every time you write something.

You did not mention me, but I´ll give a piece of advice. You will hate yourself for the rest of your life if something happened to her and you had not made your peace with her. We often fight with our siblings and not all of them are as close as our friends. But there are times when we have to be there. I have your tongue too. But old age has told me to hold mine in certain moments. Be generous. I know you are.

Dear Vanny, I deliberately delayed my response! having gone through the discussions I have made my own conclusions (which may be wrong too) 1. She is not your Blood Kin. 2. Though she is not responsible for the cause of your mother's departure, that will always remind you when ever you see her or interact with her. 3. Your adorable father never liked that family. 4. You really don't carry very positive impression about her as you feel that she can betray you any time. 5. like your father you also don't like the family members of her. 6. Remember sympathizing some one is different and helping them on the grounds is a different thing, but taking a new responsibly with so many constraints can be a big challenge for you and your father. 7. Don't forget she is under depression and it is not easy to manage such people, be prepared for the worst eventualities. 8. I am really wondering what made her to reunite after 20 years, that too only after initiation? 9. You are a vulnerable Prey with so many factors which you understand very well, which I don't want to discuss here! 10.Already you have a lot of bad experiences in the past from one of the Mylot friend...so why are you interested in inviting for another trouble! I am really sorry if I have given you any hurt with my response! We are grown up and experienced all shades of life, so please use your wisdom and discretion before taking any decision. impulsive decisions can be really dangerous at times! Thanks and God bless!

You did not mention me but try to make peace with your sister and family. I'm sorry that you lost your mother and it created a rift in the family. People are only here for a short amount of time, what if you suddenly lost your sister. How would you feel? It would be too late. That is my advice that you did not ask for.

You did not ask me! Yes you should, you paint yourself dark and mean but if you were that bad she would not want to associate with you. You got nothing to lose, go for it!

I'm so sorry! I don't know if you only want those you listed to comment or you want whoever to offer insight. Family is family and if you really do love her, then there is no reason you should avoid contact/ talking to her when she is depressed and needs comfort. If you know you are a B with a nasty tongue, why make her suffer when you can work on correcting your behavior and can try to be nice to her?

You possess a good quality to listen to others so I think you can be of help to her :) With this long disconnect, past will crop up in conversations sooner than later... Avoid it completely at this juncture. And as you said, keep this limited to you and her and don't involve 'folks'. Also, IMO writing is the best way of communication, it gives the to reflect by slowing down our ever-so-fast thinking. I might or might not know about FB Messenger as I believe in social disconnect! :D And DJ is already taking care of that. She wants or wanted to believe in her strength, so you will have to be patient and considerate. Your affection is going to be put on a test ;)

Has she invited you to live with her?

I see you have already decided what you will do. I apologize for taking so long to appear on this discussion.

I wasn't invited to give my opinion, but I'd accept her invitation to be on messenger. After all, she is your sister.

@vandana7 Can you write to her and see what is going on with her and not accept the invitation? If you feel you want to keep in touch with her after you hear what she has to say then accept it?

Think before speaking. Messenger is a good way to keep in touch. I hope it goes very well for you.

You have to accept the invitation, its not good to revenge and in this case she's innocent.

Your blood sister can never be compared to any folks. She has your blood love her that's it. She does not expect anything more. Get in touch with her am sure she means no harm be nice and listen to her.

Accept her invitation and see what happens.

accept her... Try to talk to her about happy things... About good memories of your mom! If you can recognize inside of you those bad attitudes, you can FIGHT against them! Be STRONG! Stop thinking about the bad things you could do in the past and try to think you have the intentions to improve yourself! Help her and you'll help yourself... :)