Feeling down lately
@shaggin (74988)
United States
September 19, 2018 12:03pm CST
Sunday I had to go get groceries so I stopped at a few cemeteries along the way and found some letterboxes. That was the only good thing this week.
When I went to Lowes to see if they could replace the glass in a window I broke while mowing the lawn (a week or so ago) they told me that the way the window is put together they cannot take it apart and cannot special order me another one. I've had them repaired before locally so I was a bit annoying Lowes couldn't do it.
Suddenly while I was out my van shut off. I never realized that when a vehicle shuts off like that the brakes don't work either. Thankfully I pulled off the road into a parking lot until I came to a slow stop. It started right back up so I got my groceries at Walmart and went home. I made it home with no more problems. However I did drop it off at the garage this morning to have it looked at and then I walked home.
My boyfriend and I have not been getting along. Yesterday he asked me if I wanted to feed his beagles for him while he is away for a week in October. He said he was going to have the neighbor kids do it for $40. I said to let them do it so I don't have to drive all the way out there (10 minutes out and 10 minutes back).
He then replied with "I don't know why I even bother with you" and blah blah blah. He said he tries to offer me money to do things all the time and I say no but then he says I tell him how its hard because I have such limited income.
I have never told him I cant afford something. I have never complained that we didn't have enough money or needed more money. The only time I have ever said anything was when recently he asked me how much money I get from social security (survivors benefits) and how much I have left after all the bills are paid. He asked all this to see combined how much money we will have if we live together.
He used to borrow money of ME all the time and he has 5 times the amount of money I do a year. I have never asked for or used a drop of his money.
What this boils down to is he is mad that I didn't jump to help him out for once. Years ago when I babysat his son for him for free and then he started treating me bad and I refused to watch his son for free he treated me the same way all nasty and rude. Earlier in the week I drove out to his house and picked up his son and took him two school two days that he missed the bus. How easy he forgets the things I do for him yet get mad over one thing I didn't want to do.
Photo is of a really neat plant I saw while on vacation in August. I kept forgetting to post about it here wondering if anyone has seen it before.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
21 Sep 18
@DianneN I guess since I never tell him no to helping him it would have been a shock to hear me finally say it lol. He shouldn’t have gotten mad about it. When you ask for a favor someone is allowed to say no. If he just asked for help I would have done it but he said he was going to have the kids next door so I figured he might as well go ahead and let them. He did apologize two days later and said he was stressed with work and took it out on me. I have to go vehicle shopping this weekend 
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 Sep 18
I am sorry you had problems with Lowes. I have heard lately other complaints about Lowes. And , I had something happen similar to my Van some years ago. It had to do with the steering column. It was fixed. And your boyfriend, I hope it works out with him.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
25 Sep 18
@LeaPea2417 luckily I posted about the window needing to be fixed and a local shop owners wife saw my post and told me her husband thought he could fix it for me. He did and it was only $11.79! My van has a bunch of things wrong with it and for the age of it and high mileage it's not worth fixing so I am shopping around for something else.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
26 Sep 18
@LeaPea2417 thank you very much! I will be sure to post about it when I do find something.
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 Sep 18
@shaggin I hope you find a good car or van to buy.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
25 Sep 18
@LadyDuck My boyfriend is nice most of the time and all couples fight now and then. He did apologize and went out of his way to make up for it so it's water under the bridge now. We rarely fight. But you are right he is more and more rude. Seems like the longer we go without breaking up the more he gets like this toward the end. He insists he wants to live together and have a wife in 2019 and I'm not sure about that at all.
I need to look online somewhere to see if I can identify this plant. I'd love to learn more about it. The bottom is all green and the top a bright yellow. I wonder as it starts that way and then turns completely yellow. It's quite late about 3-4 feet tall.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
26 Sep 18
@LadyDuck that stinks he has a bit of a temper but really good that he calms down fast and apologizes. My boyfriend hates being wrong so I was pretty surprised recently after he was rude to me that he apologized. Maybe he is maturing a bit!
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@LadyDuck (502394)
• Italy
26 Sep 18
@shaggin My husband has a bit of a temper, he can get angry easily, but he also calms down almost immediately and he always admits if he was wrong and apologize. I have learned to be patient and not to fight when I see he is in a bad mood. If you think this can work for you, if you like to stay with your boyfriend I think you can plan to be a family.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
3 Oct 18
@shaggin I will say, love is not enough to stay with someone. but I too have used that excuse. hope things get better, and stay better.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
20 Sep 18
My boyfriend is the same way with forgetting the things I do for him yet getting mad at the few things I don't do. It's mad annoying. But not something to break up over. Least not by itself.
I hope things get better for you, and you guys as a couple. If that's what you want. 
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
20 Sep 18
@Courtlynn I don't plan to break up with him over this. I think most people are to quick to give up on relationships rather then working through them.
I wasn't speaking to him yesterday and at night he asked if I was still not speaking to him. I said my head hurt and I was angry so I didn't want to have to deal with anymore from him.
Today he messaged me asking if we wanted to go out to dinner with him. It's a school night and we take the school work seriously so I said no. He then wrote me a lengthy apology for going off on me yesterday and saying he was stressed about work and took it out on me. He never apologizes so I was pretty surprised by it.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
24 Sep 18
@Courtlynn For the most part he’s good to be and we rarely fight. He gets upset he said because he’s working so hard for a future for us ( marriage and a house together etc) and I bring him down with how negative I am. It’s just so hard with the trust issues which mostly are due to him!
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
23 Sep 18
@shaggin People are definitely way too quick to end things. and way too quick to ask others why they'd still be with someone who did this or that. you need the good and the bad. in everything. but also need to know when to walk away / when you deserve better.
that's good he apologized!!
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@snowy22315 (208848)
• United States
19 Sep 18
Pretty plant..sorry you aren't feeling happy today..we all have days like that.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
20 Sep 18
@amadeo I comment on people's posts here more often then I make my own posts. I never have much time to be online in the summer. Back to doing cyber school with my son so while he is next to me doing his live classes I pop in here when I can.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
19 Sep 18
Looks like a hard day. Maybe you two should sit down and try figure things out because if you accumulate all of them it will be a big burst at the end.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
25 Sep 18
@Missmwngi that's true when I bottle things for a long time then I blow!
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
20 Sep 18
@JudyEv letterboxing came before geocaching. With letterboxing they tell you directions to where to park such as in front of a cemetery. Then they give you hints of what to look for that will lead to where the container is hidden. In the container is just a hand made stamp and a notebook.
With a geocache you are given coordinates to where it is hit and a little bit of information on the size of the container and a terrain rating (1 is wheelchair accessible and a 5 you need extra tools like underwater gear, a boat, climbing gear etc). Sometimes you get a hint of where to look such as "magnetic" or "eye level". Inside the containers is a notebook or rolled up piece of paper to sign and in average to large containers there are things inside you can trade.
I prefer geocaching but letterboxing can be fun now and then and I love seeing the beautiful stamps people carve. I attached a photo of one of the recent ones I found.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
20 Sep 18
I really don`t like giving relationship advice, but y`all been together for a while, I think its time to just sit down and talk, let him know what hurts your feelings and what you each expect of each other. Leave the discussion of kids out of it. Soon they will be grown and gone anyways.
You car? It was an electrical pulse sent down by the aliens.
I really need to learn about your adventures, I did not know people did this sort of treasure hunting.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
21 Sep 18
@andriaperry most the things we disagree about are to do with the kids. He did apologize about how he treated me and said he was stressed from work and took it out on me.
There’s so many things wrong with the van. It’s so old and has so many miles on it that spending $2000 to fix it isn’t worth it so I have to go vehicle shopping this weekend.
Geocaching and letterboxing is a lot of fun. I prefer geocaches though. There are geocaches hidden all of the world so I bet there is a lot of them where you are as well.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
24 Sep 18
@andriaperry wow a 2011 car for that low price was an awesome deal! I’ve never paid over $2500 for a vehicle but mine have always been older then 10 years.
@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
21 Sep 18
@shaggin Yes, that is what I did when th P.T. went down, with 300,000 plus I had to have another. I called on all my facebook friends and one knew a wealthy lady that was selling her hubby`s car a 2011 kia soul for $2,800 it only had 160,000 and those were highway miles that he drove to work and parked all weekend. It was a God Send since I had just got Tony and he had not got treatment for the cancer, I was driving a borrowed car.
I hope you find one as cheap and in excellent shape.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
19 Sep 18
@Kandae11 I love him more then I have ever loved anyone but am definitely not planning on marrying him. I think he was in a worse mood today because yesterday he said he wants a baby for his birthday and I won't give in on it. I have to many trust issues from him to bring a child into our relationship.
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