Fake it Until You Make It

By Val
@valmnz (17099)
New Zealand
November 19, 2018 2:21pm CST
Yesterday I did what I'm sure many self-published authors hate doing. I visited an unknown to me book shop, a couple of hours from home, to promote my latest book. This independent shop stocks only titles from New Zealand self-published authors and small publishing presses and has a following right throughout our country. The owners had expressed an interest in my books, so off I went. I could have couriered the books, but those of you who know me may remember I like nothing better than a day in Wellington, our capital city - especially when the sun is shining. However, I'm not all that good at placing myself in new situations and so follow the saying, fake it until you make it. Pretending I'm confident usually sees me through. So there I was, armed with two of my three books, ready to sign a contract, pretending I was more confident than I really felt. However, the store owner soon had me feeling at ease and I forgot how nervous I had been. And not only did she take copies of the two books, but asked me to also send her copies of my first book published in 2013. Sometime's it's worth pretending to be brave and next time I won't feel so completely overwhelmed. I managed the new situation. Next time will be easier.
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
19 Nov 18
everything going your way there?
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
19 Nov 18
Hi there Alfredo, yes life is good at the moment! Have found time s well to pop by and catch up with people here.
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@amadeo (111948)
• United States
19 Nov 18
@valmnz that is great .Always looking forward in hearing from yoy
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@xFiacre (12499)
• Ireland
19 Nov 18
@valmnz Sounds like you nailed it!
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
19 Nov 18
Yes, it did feel a bit that way. It was a very interesting book shop
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@celticeagle (159936)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Nov 18
How nice. Glad it was a positive experience. It is worth pretending even if just for our own peace.
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@celticeagle (159936)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Nov 18
@valmnz ......That's true.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
19 Nov 18
There are times in life hen you need to be a good actor!
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@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
20 Nov 18
I am glad that you decided to go and to talk to the store owner. Being brave pays, I am not very good at self confidence.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
20 Nov 18
I'm better now than used to be. I'm also better in work-like situations than I am in social situations.
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@LadyDuck (460403)
• Switzerland
21 Nov 18
@valmnz I am not very good in social situations, I am still pretty shy.
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@just4him (308672)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
21 Nov 18
That's great! How do you earn if you're supplying the books?
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
22 Nov 18
I get paid monthly on sales.
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@just4him (308672)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Nov 18
@valmnz That's awesome!
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@JudyEv (326601)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Nov 18
That's good news. Congratulations. And certainly fake it until you make it is great advice.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
22 Nov 18
@JudyEv yes I tend to do that sometimes too,
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
20 Nov 18
It certainly gets me through situations when I'd rather be running in the opposite direction!
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@JudyEv (326601)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Nov 18
@valmnz I can imagine. My way of coping in some situations is to keep saying to myself 'this time tomorrow/next week it will all be over'.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
19 Nov 18
Excellent, I hope you'll sell lots of books!
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
19 Nov 18
The latest one has just been launched, so time will tell.
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@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
22 Nov 18
Yes, be brave and something wonderful may happen. It sounds like things are going well for you. Keep it up!
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
23 Nov 18
Thank you. Yes, life is good and keeping me busy at the moment.
@xander6464 (40939)
• Wapello, Iowa
20 Nov 18
Good job!
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@wolfgirl569 (96436)
• Marion, Ohio
19 Nov 18
Glad that it went well.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
20 Nov 18
Yes, I wanted to appear confident, although inside I was terrified!
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
20 Nov 18
It's always wise to put on a brave front.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
20 Nov 18
I am sure more of us do this than people think and not just women.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
20 Nov 18
You are probably right
@Icydoll (36717)
• India
20 Nov 18
Very glad it went well
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
20 Nov 18
Thank you
20 Nov 18
Good job! Keep it up.
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@valmnz (17099)
• New Zealand
20 Nov 18
Thank you.
@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
19 Nov 18
It helps if you stop thinking that other people are braver and more self-confident than you. Not many are. The majority of the people you meet is very glad that it's not them who are standing in the limelight.
@noni1959 (9901)
• United States
22 Nov 18
Awesome news. Sometimes faking confidence will actually bring it on for real.
@cindiowens (5120)
• North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
19 Nov 18
Pretending not to be scared, when you are, and doing the task at hand....hmm, that sounds like bravery to me. Good job,
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
20 Nov 18
Good for you!
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