Please help me explain to my husband what period pain is like!

Andalusia, Alabama
April 26, 2019 8:02pm CST
Hello ladies, I (33F) get really bad cramps every few months as my period starts. My husband (39M) has trouble empathizing because he has never experienced period cramps before. I’ve tried to explain it to him two ways: Imagine a million tiny goblins stabbing you in the genital region with fiery swords Like the stomach pain you get as a really big poop is a brewin’, but lower I know that every woman’s period pain is different, but I am hoping for better descriptions so this guy can at least get a glimpse into our lives of monthly hell. Thanks!
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
27 Apr 19
Grab him by his nuts and twist them @paynecaitlyn . When he comes back from unconsciousness; ask him, "How was it?"
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
28 Apr 19
@lovebuglena I know; I'm so ornery.
@lovebuglena (43191)
• Staten Island, New York
27 Apr 19
That's mean.
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@Mulidi (1979)
• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)
27 Apr 19
Lol
• United States
28 Apr 19
I had a boy friend who told me that period pain was a piece of cake and that I was exaggerating about the amount of pain from my period. That is not a smart thing to do to a woman who is having her period and is in horrific pain. I happened to be in just the right frame of mind...I had just bought a 5 pound bag of potatoes with just the right length handle for swinging it, and I had been cleaning the basement earlier in the afternoon and came across a...rat trap. If any of you ladies are thinking about what I am thinking about what I am possibly doing...you're very close. I did dinner for the man, and of course he was in the "mood". My being close to having my period didn't matter (I had had a tubal ligation several years earlier). I finished doing the dishes and found the man in the bedroom, scantily dressed...well not dressed at all. I had the potatoes and trap with me. He patted the side of the bed and told me to take it off baby. I complied of course, and told him that it really wasn't a good evening for doing much of anything. He said it didn't matter. I stood beside the bed and the fool stood up and wanted me to do a dance for him. So I started dancing and worked my way towards the bag of spuds. I picked it up and swung it hard and nailed him in the abdomen. He fell onto the bed groaning. I looked him in the eye and stated "this is what a light cramp day during my period is like, you're about to feel the bad cramps". I slipped the trap under his male parts and sprung the trap. They heard his shriek four blocks away! Within five minutes I had the police knocking at the door, I slipped my robe on and answered the door and let the lady officer in. I explained that we were having some fun and I slipped and accidentally hit my boyfriend in the genitals, he was in the bedroom with an ice pack on them at this time. I asked if she wanted to check, she tried to stifle a giggle but failed and she simply said to take care of him and if the swelling got too bad take him to the ER, and she left. Needless to say we broke up that night (fortunately I removed the rat trap "BEFORE" the police arrived!!!). He wasn't that much of a boy friend anyhow.
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@BarBaraPrz (45665)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
28 Apr 19
• United States
27 Apr 19
make him exlax brownies and lock the bathroom.then tell him to try to do housework holding that happiness in.maybe then he'll figure it out.
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@BarBaraPrz (45665)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
28 Apr 19
I was gonna suggest the exlax treatment, too.
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@resukill22 (25052)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
27 Apr 19
That is part of our life having period a, and your husband should know that,
• United States
29 Apr 19
My exhusband was a total idiot when it came to women's bodily functions. He never believed in PMS or any of the other women's problems. One night he came home stinking drunk after I had asked him to come home early to help me with some of the heavy work because of my PMS. I was furious to put it mildly. I played along with the idiot and waited until he crawled in bed and fell asleep...very deeply sound asleep. I fished out the super glue and carefully pulled down his shorts and gently pulled down his "sack" to the full extension. I then carefully spread the super glue around on his inner thigh and attached the sack to the thigh and waited for it to dry. I then applied some more super glue to his thigh and ever so gently stretched his "member" just enough so it would point upwards and I held it in place to dry. When I was sure everything was dry I gently pulled up his shorts and tucked him into bed and allowed him to sleep. The alarm went off at 6 a.m. for my Ex to get ready to go to work. His first action was to get up to go to the bathroom. He let out a loud groan as it was rather painful to try to walk....he managed to get to the bathroom and he tried to get his maleness out and go to the bathroom and relieve himself of all the fluid that he consumed the night before. Of course he was in a hurry so he didn't realize that the fluid wasn't aimed "down" and he ended up with a face-full. Needless to say with a hangover and a face full he wasn't happy. He didn't have time to argue about what happened, he had just enough time to get shaved, showered and dressed and get to work on the military base where he was a cook. He worked his shift with his "privates" glued in their position, and as soon as he finished his day's work he went to the ER to get them undone. It took a couple of hours and when he got home he was beyond angry....UNTIL, I explained to him that was what my periods were like each month. I also told him that we had two options. We could either have the bitter war over how he treated me each month and if we had that war I would guarantee he would lose each month, or he could treat me with respect and love and understanding and we could work together through the pain I suffer through for a week each month. He opted for the latter and he discovered how nicer life was when he respected me as a human who suffered bitter pain that was like someone trying to turn me inside out the hard way once a month. I've heard of women who squirted super glue up the man's member and stopped the hole up...it caused serious problems that were extremely difficult to deal with medically. The women also spent many years in prison for their using super glue in that manner. I lucked out as my ex was so embarrassed that he didn't want to admit that I super glued him so he told the doctors that he was drunk and spilled the super glue on himself.
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@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
27 Apr 19
I am wondering, are you looking for a description or you want him to understand... ??? Because no matter how well you describe not every man can understand that. I think, why talk about period cramps, generally also man should be considerate towards the woman he has married.
• United States
5 May 19
In general when you try to explain to a man about PMS they close their mind to the descriptions. It's like was said long ago, if men had to go through labor, there wouldn't be any babies born. Many men are fine with their wives as long as they are healthy and there are no physical problems and as far as they are concerned PMS and cramps are NOT physical problems and aren't to be taken seriously. But if these same men had them they would be in the doctor's office faster than you could spit.
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@Aansh13 (11251)
• New Delhi, India
6 May 19
@BearArtistLady Absolutely correct, I am in agreement to every single line of yours. Men are like that, you have described everything so perfectly.
@pumpkinjam (8546)
• United Kingdom
30 Apr 19
You could punch him in the stomach - that would give him an idea!
@mayka123 (16582)
• India
27 Apr 19
I dont think men would understand womens problems.
@Lolaze (5093)
• St. Louis, Missouri
27 Apr 19
For me - add nausea and vomiting!
@MALUSE (69390)
• Germany
27 Apr 19
Take your husband with you when you go to a gynaecologist the next time and ask him/her to explain things to your husband.
@lovebuglena (43191)
• Staten Island, New York
27 Apr 19
Does telling him that it's hurts like hell and is very uncomfortable not good enough for him to get it? Ask him if he wants to be you for one day.
• United States
27 Apr 19
I've described it multiple times as something scraping away my insides with a dull spoon or being jabbed with needles. I feel like bloating aspect is much harder to describe than the pain.
@debjani1 (7207)
28 Apr 19
Ask him not to let the sperm out for one month. Make him a promise in front of the Lord. After 1 month ask his feelings. Or do what Nanette told.
@Tonietta (1179)
27 Apr 19
My friend usually do hot compress,and you're husband should understand it.