Some people they can&#39;t take decisions for themselves

Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (306236)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

15 May 19

@Mulidi If more people would force her to make her own decisions, she would gain the confidence she needs.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

@just4him but she don't want to

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

But she doesn't want that she want to be babysit and she's old enough

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Aanshi Raghava

@Aansh13 (11251)

• New Delhi, India

15 May 19

Oh my bestie is somewhat like this... It sometimes become a baggage and it's tough to deal with her. But what to do, some people actually lack self confidence

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Diana

@dya80dya (33512)

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15 May 19

They can't be blamed for this.

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Aanshi Raghava

@Aansh13 (11251)

• New Delhi, India

15 May 19

@dya80dya No, obviously not. It's just their trait, it's how they are.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

But she must learn to stand for her own issues I can't make decision for her because I have my own issues too

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Gary Marsh

@garymarsh6 (23393)

• United Kingdom

15 May 19

You were right not telling her what to do. IF it had all gone pear shaped she would have blamed you! WE all have to learn to make our own choices and mistakes It is what makes us who we are. Obviously if it is something that is going to put her in danger you would be reckless not to say something. But Point out the choices she has then it is down to her to make that choice!

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

But she don't want to be her own

DianneN

@DianneN (246838)

• United States

15 May 19

You were only giving her advice that she asked for. It's up to her to take it or leave it.

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DianneN

@DianneN (246838)

• United States

17 May 19

@Mulidi You tried your best. She sounds difficult.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

But she don't want to decide what she want

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

@DianneN a burden to me

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LindaOH

@LindaOHio (156157)

• United States

15 May 19

It's OK if she asks someone's opinion; but she must make the final decision.

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LindaOH

@LindaOHio (156157)

• United States

15 May 19

@Mulidi That's not good.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

She don't make final decisions for herself she want me to make final decisions for her

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Faye

@FayeHazel (40248)

• United States

15 May 19

No, I think you did the right thing. In the end it is her life and her choice to follow or not - other people's advice

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Faye

@FayeHazel (40248)

• United States

15 May 19

@Mulidi But you did help her. You gave your opinion. She sounds like a difficult person to be around … and like not a good friend, herself, at least with that attitude

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

But she doesn't think so she says I'm useless friend because I'm not helping her

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

@FayeHazel she's so difficult she don't want to think for herself

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Porcospino

@Porcospino (31366)

• Denmark

15 May 19

I don't think you were too harsh, I would have said the same. We can get ideas or suggestions from other people, but we must make our own decisions. Some time ago my friend had to make an important decision, and I told her she had to find her own answer. Yes, I could tell her what I would have done in her situation, but maybe that isn't the right choice for her. She needs to find her own answer. I will listen to her and support her, but I will not and can not make the decision for her.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

16 May 19

She don't want to take final decision for herself

she behave like she's two years old

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Arthur Chappell

@arthurchappell (45002)

• Preston, England

15 May 19

sadly many such friends - all you can do is offer advice. It is their choice if they act on it or not

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

But it's embarrassed if that person she/he old enough

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Bojel

@jobelbojel (34729)

• Philippines

15 May 19

You are in telling her to follow her heart. She can ask for suggestions but the decisions are all her's.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

She can not take decisions for herself but people around her and she doesn't want to grow up

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Bojel

@jobelbojel (34729)

• Philippines

15 May 19

@Mulidi then there is a problem.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

@jobelbojel I will figure it out mybe she need seriously help

Hate2Iron

@Hate2Iron (15730)

• Canada

18 May 19

All through my childhood/teen years, my parents made all of our decisions for us and for the longest time, it was incredibly hard for me to make a decision of any sort at all in case I choose wrong. When I got married... I let my husband make all the decisions. It's been only the last few years when I decided that I had to learn how. I might make mistakes, but that is how you learn. No, you probably did her a favor!!!

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

18 May 19

She behave like two years old sometimes.she keep on yelling on me

Judy Story

@jstory07 (134465)

• Roseburg, Oregon

17 May 19

She need to think for herself and believe in herself. You did the right thing.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

But she's no longer talking to me. She said I'm useless friend

Shifa

@ShifaLk (17817)

• India

16 May 19

Oh. No You are right. Not everyone is a well wisher even. I just listen to my heart and brain , although I take suggestions sometimes but do what seems right to me

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Shifa

@ShifaLk (17817)

• India

17 May 19

@Mulidi yeah I understand that she completely relies on others. That's not good.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

But she don't take it the way you think

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

@ShifaLk maybe she need serious help

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Diana

@dya80dya (33512)

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15 May 19

You were not too harsh on her. You did the right thing.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

She's no longer talking to me she said I'm useless friend

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Nocturnal Writer

@Nakitakona (56302)

• Philippines

15 May 19

Thete are some people who couldn't make decision for them and of course they need help until they could stand with their two feet. If we could, we help them to make or develop themselves their self-confidence.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

15 May 19

She's not a child any more I can't baby sit her and her child also that's enough

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Nocturnal Writer

@Nakitakona (56302)

• Philippines

15 May 19

@Mulidi

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Sanna_S

@psanasangma (5884)

• India

16 May 19

You need to leave their own so that the blame will not on to you

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

16 May 19

I tried everything to distance myself to her but she keep coming back to me I don't know why she behave like this or mybe I'm to soft to her

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Oshy

@TiarasOceanView (70035)

• United States

16 May 19

Yes I have friends that will not stop asking me what to do.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

Yoh those people they don't want to be their own even with little issue they need advice

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GreatMartin

@GreatMartin (23676)

• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

16 May 19

Yes I do and I tell them what I think and like all people in the world they go and do what THEY want to do!

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

But she don't take finallydecision she want me to take decisions for her

Judy Evans

@JudyEv (325798)

• Rockingham, Australia

16 May 19

It is hopeless going through life depending on others. You really have to depend on yourself.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

Exactly I must listen my heart

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Simone

@Janet357 (75656)

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16 May 19

Im not a fan of people who cannot decide for themselves.

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@Mulidi (1979)

• Cruz Bay, Virgin Islands (U.S.)

17 May 19

Atlest you are stress free those people are burden

DEBJANI BASAK

@debjani1 (7207)

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16 May 19

Sometimes I also can't take proper decision and depends on others. But we forget that they can suggest us the opinion only. Because different people have different decision. So we should know to take the decision of ours .

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