To Be Honest or Not To Be Honest, That is the Question

i say just be honest, some people may not like to hear what is said but most will enjoy you being honest///

Many don't appreciate how hard others have worked. I like Dave Ramsey's expression, "Live like no one else so you can live like no one else."

I prefer to be treated the way I treat others. =) I am honest but in a nice way...or I try hard to be nice anyway. I'm far from perfect of course though.

I like your honesty and I agree about money and smoking. And we all know about relationships etc that are bad and no amount of advice will change. Same whining different day, I usually avoid those it is a waste of time and energy. They just enjoy their misery or they are making it up, I am never sure which.

to be or not to be is the question there.Honest plays a part.When to be honest depend if your not hurting anyone. This can be sugar coated as you say Good morning Andrea

I want you to lie and say sweet things about me ok, really I would rather people be honest, maybe sugar coat it a little. Honest but not go out of the way to make people feel bad. Does that make sense? I do smoke and don't even want to think about all the money I have spent over the years. I do enjoy it, at least sometimes I really enjoy a smoke but a lot of times it is just habit or out of boredom. But yea the 35 years I have smoke I probably could have bought a lot of other things with all that money.

It's better to be honest, as long as you can do it in a way that is not rude. What gets me is when people are being "honest" but just use it as a guise to be rude and demeaning.

My husband and I do not smoke and do not allow smoking in our house and that make some people mad. Will if you want to smoke do it before you come over or go outside and smoke.

I know many like that too. They want everyone else to make them feel good or give them something.

@andriaperry It is hard to know what to do in situations. I think people would prefer honesty over not being honest but then they get very defensive so then I think it was not the right thing to do.

I have found that people on this site don't always want you to be honest. So it just depends on what the subject matter is. I'm usually honest; but I don't want to hurt someone's feelings either. I'm so sorry about Tony. One thing you've never said (at least as long as I've been here) is what relation he is to you? Spouse? Brother? Friend? Hugs! Why would people hate you? You are a likable person.

I like your honesty. And I often wonder how people spend so much on cigs and then complain when they have no money. No sympathy! Love the video and music.

You gotta be you. Smoking is bad news. I would personally prefer you be honest!

Yes, that is the question. No one is honest. Even I am. I fooled myself.is there an honest person?

Cigrette cost 14 years ago wasn't $3600, so it might be less unless you use it in profitable business.

I did the same thing when I gave up smoking. I used to keep the money aside and then realized that I had wasted so much of it while I smoked. I actually did the very same thing when I bought a thermos and quit stopping to buy my coffee for work. At $500 I stopped putting the money in a jar and haven't looked back. I have to be honest, I wouldn't sleep at night if I wasn't this way. Its part of our J20T DNA I think.

To be honest, we would need to know what being truthful is, I think. Sometimes, we can think that we are being honest, but really, we are just stating our own opinion about something. How do we know we are being honest then, or not? What is honesty? Is honesty always the best policy, as they say? If we are religious, or Christian, we might connect truth and honesty to God. We might say that to be honest is to walk straight in the Lord, because the Lord is upright and truthful at all times, and when you are not aligned to his truth, you cannot really be honest then either, for truth lives in honesty, and honesty finds its home in truth. If we are not religious with that type of a guidestick to compare ourselves against, just how would we really ever know what is the truth, and what is honesty? It would be then more of an ethical or a philosophical debate, I would think, or maybe, we might use our conscience as a yardstick to see if we are feeling good about something that we have stated, as being our honest opinion about something. If I say that I have no fashion sense, for example, is this honesty, a true assessment of myself, or more just a cop-out type of a response, because I do not want to assess someone's dress sense as either good, or bad. For me to say someone looks nice in a green dress, I would not be sure if I honestly meant it, or if I was just being nice, or not. I just don't know myself well enough to know when I am being honest or not, without my using a yardstick standing next to me. I use the truth of "God" to do this mostly, as I do not know what my own truth is. I honestly do not know myself, at this stage in my life. I do not know who the "real" me is, or even if there is one. I liked what you said there about this though. If I am not me, who am I? If I am not yet the real me, what, and who am I now? Sorry about the long response. I constantly battle with what honesty and truth is in my life, and what they really are, and if they have any real value, where does that value really come from, and how I can live from them more consistently and truly, or how I can be more truthfully honest, or honestly truthful.

I love that song

Sometimes it depends upon the situation and who you are dealing with.

Hmm. There is a way to be polite and honest. As long as the person in question not trying to hurt someone's feelings or make someone agree with them ... I enjoy honesty. It's a good point about smoking. It's a dangerous "hobby" or "habit" and expensive. But then, so many things are. Sodas, sugar, fast and junk food, - all not good for you but all things people commonly indulge in. I'm not supporting smoking by any stretch, but when a "smoker" friend of mine mentioned this I realized that I too induldge in unhealthy stuff