I Need A Advice Please
By Janeth
@janethwayne (5193)
Philippines
June 10, 2019 8:12am CST
Okay this is my problem and I need a advice please.I have a new friend from Uk who will come next month for some business trip and venture and he want me to be his companion during his stay in my country Philippines.But I have a boyfriend and he is in the states now but my Uk friend want me to pick him up at the airport as it is his first time being in this country and knows no one.
I feel very confused and bothered about the situation because he is already married of course and I don't know what to do.And I know it is not nice also to leave him alone waiting at the airport during his arrival and that is what I am thinking that can make him upset but my boyfriend will not be happy either so what will I do?
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
10 Jun 19
This is a rather uncomfortable situation. I wouldnt be able to handle something like that myself.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jun 19
@janethwayne you need to be careful. you don't know what this person might do if it's first time meeting him. could be anything he has in mind.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
10 Jun 19
I am so stressed now and can't hardly concentrate.I wish he want somebody else he said he don't want than me picking him up.
@allknowing (130064)
• India
11 Jun 19
As long as you are not sharing a bed with him all is well.
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@smileyhema (4606)
• United States
11 Jun 19
Th best solution is - put the same scenario to your boyfriend and seek his opinion or ideas.. By that, you're already giving a clue of who is coming to your place. 
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
10 Jun 19
Ask a girlfriend of yours to go with you. Then your British friend will have someone to show him aroung and you won't have problems with your boyfriend.
You can tell your boyfriend about this arrangement and even give him the name of your girlfriend if he knows her.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
10 Jun 19
@janethwayne You're welcome. Drop us a line after the meeting and tell us how it went.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
10 Jun 19
Yes because it is also not nice to just leave him there.That is what I m thinking.Thanks.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
16 Jun 19
so where will he be staying while he's here? did he book a hotel or at your place?
have you told your boyfriend about all this by now?
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@TiarasOceanView (70035)
• United States
11 Jun 19
Have you met this person before? I will be worried for your safety number one Janeth. I am sorry but I would not cater to this man. And yes your boyfriend will be worried about you too.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
10 Jun 19
Well my boyfriend now is in US he is working there and I am here in the Philippines and yes he wanted me to tour him around and don't want others that I am that is the problem.And he said I should have meet him because he will wait at the airport and it is not a small problem that I am facing now and he arrive July 1.
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
10 Jun 19
@janethwayne make the best of it.Do not worry about others.Be yourself
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@just4him (306381)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Jun 19
If you pick him up and drop him at his hotel, I see nothing wrong with his suggestion. You can show him a good time without compromising your relationship. If it's a business trip, he will be busy most of the time anyway with work. I'm sure you can show him the sights without compromise to you or him and his marriage.
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@just4him (306381)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Jun 19
@janethwayne You're welcome.
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@arunima25 (85328)
• Bangalore, India
10 Jun 19
Have a talk with your boyfriend. If he is comfortable, I don't find any harm in it. I am not sure what kind of friend is this guy to you and to what extent you would like to go for this friendship.
I have some very old male friends and they are very dear to me. Sometimes when they visit my city I definitely call them for some get together. Many a times my husband is out of town but he has no issues with it. In fact once one of college friend who chose to stay a bachelor has even stayed with us for a month when he came to India. My husband was ok with it though he did go for some business trips during those times.
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@janethwayne (5193)
• Philippines
10 Jun 19
Yes that is true and right.Thank you.
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@florelway (23141)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
10 Jun 19
That's a difficult situation. Tell your boyfriend about it. If it's ok with him go ahead, otherwise have second thoughts, if your uk friend is on business trip then some Phil. Counterparts would be there to pick him up.
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@pumpkinjam (8540)
• United Kingdom
11 Jun 19
He is your friend and you seem to have already made these arrangements. In hindsight, you should have told your boyfriend before making the plans. Then again, as long as this person is just a friend then I don't see why it should be any more of a problem than if the friend was a girl.
It wouldn't be very nice to leave your friend stranded in a strange place when he was expecting you.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
13 Jun 19
Can you help him but take a friend or a family member with you at all times?
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@porwest (78761)
• United States
13 Jun 19
Well, so long as there is nothing else...you know...in mind, the whole situation should be fine. But you tend to suggest he may be looking for something a little bit more intimate, and that would not be fair to your boyfriend or his wife. Not sure what to suggest here. If it's benign, fine. If it's not...I'd leave that alone unless you want to be tangled up in a real mess.
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@Beaser (385)
• United States
12 Jun 19
An important part of any relationship is trust. So if you've been totally honest with your boyfriend and he know that you have a good friend in the UK then everything is on the up and up and your boyfriend shouldn't have a problem with this. However, if your boyfriend doesn't already know about your good friend in the UK and you're springing all this on him at once, I can see where he may be a bit concerned.
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@BootstrapWill (147)
• India
12 Jun 19
Go with your boyfriend to pick up your UK friend by this way you can make everyone happy
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