Have You Ever?

@andriaperry (80836)
Anniston, Alabama
June 12, 2019 11:31am CST
Have you ever been pushed to be someones friend? Yesterday Tony volunteered me to help do work, be this woman`s friend. I mean.... she is nice and all but I can feel something from her, about her, like she is fighting a battle within, not sure she said the right things when she speaks. A nervousness. Lack of self esteem, but she tries to hide it. She is around my age, maybe a little older. She is stepping into a life that she has no knowledge of, she is a school teacher and wants to be a landlady or house flipper. She knows nothing about leases and contracts, courts and legal stuff. She deals with children not adults and that is a huge difference. Being a landlady and flipping houses is totally different, she is listening to "so called friends" about why to rent. She asked me why? When is enough enough and more. I told her my why. I am sure she paid to much for the house she bought, it has good bones but I seen a sagging floor, means floor joist is rotten, does it have termites? It doesnt look like it is from water damage, she told me it would take 10 years renting to get her money back. She also told me a lot more, that costs money, new deeds would have to be made, surveyors paid. When she asked what I thought and we were alone in the house, I told her, and I think she will follow my advice about getting it finished inside. At home Tony told me he told her to call me and I would come work. Say What?!?!?! I am thinking "when do I have time to work on someone else`s rental when I am busy on mine?" I kept my mouth shut about that and told him what I told her. Tony even felt her, he said " she doubts her work and needs reassurance." Now .... Hmmmm...... Life is strange. This is just a song I like, that is all.
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@Scrapper88 (1737)
• United States
12 Jun
I have a cousin who has flipped several houses in her life. By what I have heard from her; there is a lot of work to flip houses.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
12 Jun
Yes, people think its easy and its not, you can fix the house nice and it still not sell, the market is down and so many houses just sitting.
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@wolfgirl569 (16318)
• Marion, Ohio
12 Jun
It sounds like she has a lot to learn. Hopefully before she buys more houses she will.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
12 Jun
She will!
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• United States
12 Jun
I think that lady is in for a big surprise. Being a landlord/landlady isn't easy and although you gave her some good advice I don't know how much of your time you can give to help her?
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
12 Jun
I don`t have any time. I am actually trying to get out of the business of rentals.
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@whiteream (6093)
• United States
12 Jun
She has a lot to learn, but I know you and I know you will help her as much as you can. I am sure if this is something she really wants to do she will learn what she has to do.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
Today broke me, I cant help her, I cant help myself.
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@whiteream (6093)
• United States
13 Jun
@andriaperry You are doing too much again. You need to take time for yourself.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
@whiteream I am and I announced this to Tony too. To many demands, to many places and only one of me. Everything, I mean everything is on hold till I get my home in order.. I cried a few times today.
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@Gillygirl (31051)
• Sutton, England
12 Jun
Sounds like she wants to earn on the job
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
I cant spare time from my job to do hers. She needs to hire help.
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@Gillygirl (31051)
• Sutton, England
13 Jun
@andriaperry Are you going to tell her to get hired help!
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jun
@Gillygirl If she calls, I dont have time to stop my life to tell her how to run hers.
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@porwest (14746)
• United States
12 Jun
Oh man. I get this all the time about financial advice and stock market tips. Sometimes I just want to be left alone. Most people don't take the advice anyway.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
I would!
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@porwest (14746)
• United States
13 Jun
@andriaperry From time to time I try to post something here about it...but they just fizzle out. But for you? I'd take the time.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jun
@porwest Awww, thank you. Because you know I want to be good with my hard earned money and I hate to throw money away on so many things.
@LindaOHio (5066)
• United States
12 Jun
I hope Tony didn't bite off more than you can chew! Sounds like she's going about this project all wrong.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
No because I can`t do it, I am at the boiling over point now. I walked away from a project today because I just cant.
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@LindaOHio (5066)
• United States
13 Jun
@andriaperry I'm glad you can say "no" or you're going to burn yourself out. Did you get Suzy?
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
@LindaOHio No and I am about to write what happened.
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@Corbin5 (146193)
• United States
12 Jun
I am sure your advice would help her a lot but I think it probably would take up too much of your time.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
I need to be paid! This is information I have learned since 1995!
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@Corbin5 (146193)
• United States
13 Jun
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@amadeo (95987)
• United States
12 Jun
Good afternoon andrea.Stopping by to say hello
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
Hello!
@amadeo (95987)
• United States
13 Jun
@andriaperry Hello and good morning on Thursday
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@snowy22315 (68998)
• United States
12 Jun
I think I would tell her you may be available for some phone consults, but you have enough to do with your own properties.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
12 Jun
That is what I will do.
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@snowy22315 (68998)
• United States
12 Jun
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@DocAndersen (4613)
13 Jun
sometimes that which is close is too far away to see.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jun
I just woke up, don`t mess with my head.
@thelme55 (18335)
• Germany
13 Jun
It is not easy to be a landlady. You have to do a lot I am sure. I am sure you have given her good advice about what to do.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jun
Mostly how to get this one house ready.
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@Janet357 (17131)
13 Jun
well it.is hard to.engage herself in something she has no knowledge of
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jun
Yes and it`ll take longer than a month.
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@GardenGerty (111959)
• United States
13 Jun
The public, many inexperienced friends, and the internet want us to believe a lot of things are easy. They are not, though. We have fallen for a few things ourselves and sometimes I cannot shake hubby loose from them.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jun
Tony says that I don`t have quitting sense. he said I don`t know when to give up and walk away, that I always stay and fight, when I should just give up.
@Susan2015 (24473)
• United States
13 Jun
You gave her advice so that was helpful. But you also have your own work to do. I guess you could give her advice if she needs it, but tell her you are just too busy for anything other than that. At least you helped her.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
14 Jun
Yes I did. Some people want to rearrange a house when all they have to do is clean it paint it and rent it.
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@marlina (84343)
• Canada
12 Jun
"The lady will get down from her cloud soon. Not so easy to be a landlady.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
Not flipping houses in today`s dry up market.
@Juliaacv (42884)
• Canada
12 Jun
She could probably be a good property manager, but that takes some experience and is a far cry from teaching. And even a property manager needs to know the costs and time frames involved in renovations and repairs. And they need to have a list of trustworthy contractors. I cannot even imagine you taking on any more. You have your own agenda that you are working on with opening the physical store. I would hope that you aren't expected to do any more then you already are.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
No. Just no. I can`t and I won`t.
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@CarolDM (29436)
• United States
12 Jun
Not enough hours in the day for you. She could learn a lot from you.
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
I should change, it took me almost 25 year to learn it.
@Aansh13 (4405)
• India
12 Jun
Firstly being friends with someone is a very natural process and comes from within... This pushy thing is crazy
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@andriaperry (80836)
• Anniston, Alabama
13 Jun
Agreed.
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