The Days of my Life--What Happened?

@akalinus (27741)
United States
July 9, 2019 11:41am CST
Once, long ago, I considered myself to be a healthy woman capable of almost anything. I once carried my babies and toddlers on my hips. Yesterday, I had trouble carrying a basket of laundry with one side against my hip. I had to stop to rest several times between the laundry and my house. I used to put my little kids in a stroller, wagon, or buggy and walk for miles. Now, I hear creaking when I walk from upstairs to my desk. In yesteryears, I could swing a 5-gallon jug of water up to pour it into a pail on the wood stove to heat up. Now, some days, I can barely lift a 16-ounce bottle of water from the desk to my lips. So I ask, what happened? As the days of my life slipped by, what happened? Did it happen to anyone else? Are you wondering what happened?
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@UncleJoe (14115)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
9 Jul
Oh, yes, but I KNOW what happened. I seemed to be very active until my late 60's when I slid off the top of a log truck and damaged my lower back. Then I got old real fast.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
Wow, Uncle Joe, I'm so sorry. I do know what you mean, it is just there suddenly one day and you wonder what just happened.
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@Sojourn (5910)
• India
9 Jul
Sorry to hear that Uncle Joe.
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• United States
9 Jul
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@CarolDM (32754)
• United States
9 Jul
It happens to all of us eventually. Just take things slower.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
If it got much slower, I would be in never-ending slow motion.
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@UncleJoe (14115)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
9 Jul
@akalinus If I got any slower I would be moving backwards.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
@UncleJoe That is a unique way of putting that. I like it, the way you stated it, not actually going backward.
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@sharon6345 (185357)
• United States
9 Jul
Old age is creeping up on me. I am going to have trouble picking up my washer to keep washing my clothes.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
It seems to get harder as we get older. I keep wondering that if it is this hard now, how will it be in a couple of years.
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@sharon6345 (185357)
• United States
9 Jul
@akalinus I know how hard it will be since I live alone. I struggle now so I am going to have to just give up a few things.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
@sharon6345 When you give up things, your life gets harder and less rewarding. I am not driving now because I don't see well enough to be driving something as dangerous as a car when I am not sure it is on the road or not.
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@whiteream (6218)
• United States
9 Jul
I fully understand how you feel. I am moving and I have discovered, I can't lift as much as I once could. I could work all day long and not take a break. Now, I need to rest after life heavy loads. Tears run down my cheeks for the dreams that have not come true. I have aged and changed.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
Yes, sadly, that is the worst part of getting older. Hopes and dreams ran down the drain. It is especially true for women who usually defer their needs and wants to others who need more.
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@whiteream (6218)
• United States
9 Jul
@akalinus Yes, woman take care of their families first and often help with other to make their dreams come true forgetting about their own until it seems like it's too late.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
@whiteream There are things I should have done but didn't. Part is my own fault and the rest is being a mom.
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@1creekgirl (16755)
• United States
9 Jul
I know. I guess it's called life and gravity. Lots of changes.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
I don't like gravity pulling everything down. I wish changes were for the better.
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@TheHorse (88316)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Jul
@akalinus That's a part of why I like swimming these days. Gravity is..."diluted."
@akalinus (27741)
• United States
12 Jul
@TheHorse Yes, and everything that flops is supported by water.
@much2say (35677)
• United States
9 Jul
Oh I know it. I know I'm no spring chicken anymore. It's happened and still happening - gradually - I see and feel it on a daily basis. I never thought I'd ever get here .
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
I never thought I would either. But here I am and I think I am trapped. The spring has sprung right out of the chicken.
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@much2say (35677)
• United States
9 Jul
@akalinus Then we are both summer chickens . But I don't think we're trapped - yet. I do think about "maintenance" more than ever before these days - not that I'm doing it to the fullest, but I am eating better (not always) and trying to think of specific exercises for flexibility, agility, strength, etc. Maybe I can't exactly put the spring back in the chicken, but I can give it a jump start .
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@1creekgirl (16755)
• United States
9 Jul
@much2say Great advice! I want to try to walk more and build up my endurance a little before we go on our cruise. I know we'll do a lot of walking then.
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@Corbin5 (149360)
• United States
9 Jul
I find that as I get older, there are some things I used to be able to do but no way can I do those things today due to not being as strong and steady as I used to be.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
9 Jul
I understand completely how it feels but don't know why you can do it one day and the next, you just can't. It is so sad.
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@Corbin5 (149360)
• United States
9 Jul
@akalinus It is sad. I was on a ladder the other day trimming our magnolia tree. I noticed that I was a bit too unsteady on that ladder and got down right away. I suppose all we can do is try not to hurt ourselves trying to do what we used to do.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
@Corbin5 My hubby fell off of a ladder. When the broken bones healed, he was never the same again. It is best to avoid things like that.
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@LindaOHio (6812)
• United States
9 Jul
Yes, I don't have the strength or flexibility that I once had. I don't know if something else could be going on with you or not.
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• United States
9 Jul
there'd be simple 'xercises ya can do, e'en sittin' from a chair if need be, that can help with yer strength'n flexibility, hon. don't give 'p!
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@LindaOHio (6812)
• United States
9 Jul
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• United States
9 Jul
@LindaOHio yer welcome :) i provided a link to a gal who's videos'n youtube fer such if'n yer 'nterested.
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@kobesbuddy (75870)
• East Tawas, Michigan
9 Jul
Yes, I have fond memories of walking with my two children, down the sidewalk. Now they're both grown-ups and beginning to get aches and pains themselves! I'm stiff most mornings, my joints don't move as freely as they once did. I was strong, as a young adult and now, I've lost most of that. Aging is a normal process, but we don't have to like it:(
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
My kids are feeling the effects of getting older. One is disabled, another one is waiting for PT for an injury, another has had lung problems, and one is in a group home. They were all in great shape once.
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@kobesbuddy (75870)
• East Tawas, Michigan
10 Jul
@akalinus Both of my children are relatively healthy, they work long hours to make ends meet.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
@kobesbuddy One of mine did. He delivered food or packages. He developed tendonitis and now can't pick up anything heavy or raise his arms too high. One who is disabled worked hard for eleven years before he got sick and lost his job. The kid in the group home works in a sheltered workshop.
@moffittjc (56776)
• Gainesville, Florida
9 Jul
I found myself in a similar situation and decided that's not how I wanted my life to be. So I vowed to change myself for the better. I started exercising regularly, eating healthy, and learning relaxation techniques to lower my stress levels. I started having a better positive attitude, and started feeling better as a result. As I continued to exercise, I started to feel younger, and look younger, and act younger. It's been a work in progress. It still is. I refuse to let myself fall apart if I have the power within my grasp to do something about it. And it's paid off for me. Granted, I understand that not everyone is in a position to accomplish these things. But our minds are a powerful tool, and what our minds think up and dream up, our bodies can often achieve. We just have to believe in ourselves.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
That is very wise. Is it okay to ask what you eat? I need to eat better. I am afraid to eat anything because of the food tampering and doctoring going on.
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@moffittjc (56776)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Jul
@akalinus I eat a lot of Big Macs, fries, pizza, candy, soda! haha just kidding. I go nuts eating fruits. Fruits are my go-to snacks. I especially like eating berries such as blueberries, raspberries and strawberries. And speaking of nuts, they are also a main staple in my diet. Walnuts and pecans mostly. Great to nibble on throughout the day. Pineapple is a great anti-inflammatory fruit, so I also eat lots of that. I would say fruits and nuts make up the majority of my diet.
@akalinus (27741)
• United States
12 Jul
@moffittjc That's great, Jeff. I should start buying trail mix again. I sort of forgot about that.
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@JudyEv (164246)
• Bunbury, Australia
10 Jul
I'm sure in a few years this will be my story. I'm already halfway there with so much less strength than I once had. It's just age and I'm not sure there is a lot we can do about it. Thanks to Vicki (@1creekgirl) for the suggestion.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
Maybe you can forestall the ravages of aging or at least, postpone them. Start now.
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@JudyEv (164246)
• Bunbury, Australia
11 Jul
@akalinus I've started walking more so that's a good start.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
@JudyEv I think it is probably one of the safest exercises and does not cost anything. Start slow and keep adding time or distance. I sort of rock-n-roll down the street because I am not all that steady on my feet anymore.
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@ScotMac (72)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
9 Jul
Funny how some days just seem to drag but the years simply fly by - whooooosh, what was that? That was your life mate!
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
I noticed that. Even my grown kids are starting to notice the years whizzing past in a steady stream.
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@velvet53 (19578)
• Palisade, Colorado
11 Jul
I am with you on this. I am finding myself not being able to do a lot of the things I used to do. I am slowing down and I don't like it. My accident two years ago sure didn't help matters. That is when I really noticed the change.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
Most of us do not like the changes as we get older and things happen to us. My hubby and I were rear-ended years ago and that started the ache and pain dance. Then he fell off a ladder and that was the end of his good years. Stuff happens, we don't like it.
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@velvet53 (19578)
• Palisade, Colorado
11 Jul
@akalinus I am sorry to hear about the passing of your husband. Wow I hope that kid learned a lesson and keeps his eyes on the road. How bad were you and your husband hurt? I guess I should ask if it was ok to ask that. If not I would understand.
@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
@velvet53 Hubby wasn't hurt but I had a lot of aches and pains in back, neck, and shoulders. Had to end up getting PT. Pieces of vehicles were all over the road.
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@Hannihar (66127)
10 Jul
@akalinus Every time when I would go to my doctor and tell him something was wrong he would tell me it is part of getting old. I know it is because I am getting older.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
I don't like that. Growing old does not explain everything and doctors that say that are not being responsible. They are probably the same doctors that tell overweight women that their weight is the cause for everything or tell women it is all in their head if they don't know the cause of their problems.
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@Hannihar (66127)
11 Jul
@akalinus My doctor used to just say I need to lose weight.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
@Hannihar Some doctors use that as a convenient excuse so they don't have to figure out what is really going on. Sometimes, weight loss will help a problem.
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• United States
9 Jul
i feel ya, hon. i went from workin' out'n the pasture with cattle'n horses 10-12 hrs a day, haulin' my own hay outta the fields/loadin' 'em 'nto my flatbed trailer/bringin' 'em home'n unloadin' 'n stackin' such'n the barn to i cannot open my chapstick, much less walk. such 'twas not age related, 'twas cipro toxicity destroyin' my body. don't matter, same effect. there's thingies ya can do to regain yer strength'n flexibility. i started off with the gal who's link i'll provide - from a chair, 's i couldn't not stand without help.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
You went from doing it all to can't do much. How did that affect your ranch and animals? Life is a beach. Cipro is a kick-butt medication. It is tough to take. I had it once when I had MRSA. They wanted to put me in the hospital but that was not an option because I did not have insurance.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
@crazyhorseladycx Oh, wow, that is some heavy stuff. It sounds like a lot of hard work and hard to take all those losses. I am so sorry.
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• United States
11 Jul
@akalinus thanks, hon. jest 'nother chapter to my life filled with rainbows'n glitter.
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@Shivram59 (11191)
• India
12 Jul
@akalinus It happens to us all as we grow older.I'm now 29, quite fit and well..Being young I don't have these problems now,but am well aware a day will come when I'll grow old and problems of old age will overcome me.The bitter truth is we begin getting old right after we are born.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
13 Jul
Wow, I thought you were much older. No reason, it is just what I thought.
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@Shivram59 (11191)
• India
13 Jul
@akalinus I'm 29 now.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
13 Jul
@Shivram59 You are just a kid. Have the best kind of life you can so you have great things to remember when you are older.
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@LadyDuck (230436)
• Switzerland
10 Jul
I am sorry you feel like this, some people get problems aging, some are lucky and they continue to lift a 5-gallon jug, walk for miles and to bring weights up and down the stairs.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
10 Jul
I could do those things once, but am much less able now. The weight of the years, the tears and tragedies have all taken their toll.
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@LadyDuck (230436)
• Switzerland
11 Jul
@akalinus I imagine it's genetic in my family, my mother and my grandmother before her were still strong in their mid 90's.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
@LadyDuck That is good but sometimes things happen in life that just sap your energy and drive. One more thing can sometimes make you give up.
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@thelme55 (19463)
• Germany
10 Jul
It happens to me sometimes. My excuse is my age.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
Yes, it is age but also the wear and tear on your body over the years and add an illness or accident here and there and suddenly you are older.
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@thelme55 (19463)
• Germany
12 Jul
@akalinus Yes. That is true. I can relate to that.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
13 Jul
@thelme55 That is one of the cruel things about life. Why does it have to be this way?
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@Nakitakona (8499)
10 Jul
As we grow older, our physical body becomes weak.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
11 Jul
We are the same person but we just can't do the same things the same way anymore.
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12 Jul
@akalinus Because we grow old.
@akalinus (27741)
• United States
12 Jul
@Nakitakona Yes, we want to do things but the body creaks and asks you what were you thinking.
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@bunnybon7 (41414)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul
yes !! I certainly am. It's almost like we aged and started falling apart all at once. I was exactly the same for years I could do so much. I used to walk 16 blocks big 7 months pregnant pushing a stroller or packing one on my hip and carry 2 or 3 bags of groceries at the same time. Now I am lucky if I can walk to the bathroom with a walker. When did it get this bad? I sure feel for you sweetie and hope you get help with it soon. Maybe you will have better luck then me.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
13 Jul
I once carried a dresser up three flights of stairs by myself. That won't ever happen again.
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@bunnybon7 (41414)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jul
@akalinus I also used to move furniture around in the whole house, big couches dressers, heavy tables, etc. now I am lucky if I can pick the garbage bag out of my tiny trash can here and change it. Have you seen that show on Netflix called The Last laugh? It is something you could identify with as I did.
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@akalinus (27741)
• United States
13 Jul
@bunnybon7 I don't have Netflix. Maybe you could tell me a little about it.
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