The Next Leg of the Journey

By Val
@valmnz (15520)
New Zealand
July 12, 2019 1:24am CST
The winter here in New Zealand this year is cold and wet, a dismal sort of existence. There's been no chance to weed the garden and days of sunshine have been rare. I too feel sad and dismal as I watch my husband come closer to the end of his life journey. It's not easy watching the one you love die slowly. The damp weather matches my heart.
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• United States
12 Jul
oh, this jest breaks my heart to read'n now i feel most foolish'n somewhat 'f a cad fer my comment'n yer response to my discussion. please fergive me, hon. i wish i'd words to ease yer pain, to bring ya comfort. i fear i'd be 't a loss fer such. jest know i'll hold y'all close't heart whilst ya go through this most horrible time. i wish the sun to shine fer ya, 'nside 'n out.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
You are such a wonderful friend, thank you. It's wonderful having people like you around.
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• United States
12 Jul
@valmnz yer welcome, hon. 'lways here if'n ya need. sometimes a diversion 'f such goes a long ways ~
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
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@LadyDuck (230002)
• Switzerland
12 Jul
I am so sorry Val, I hoped your husband was recovering, I can imagine your sentiments and your pain. You and your husband reminds me so much our couple. I send you a big hug.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
Thanks Anna, this is a time you don't think about when you are young.
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@LadyDuck (230002)
• Switzerland
13 Jul
@valmnz You are right, this is something you start to think as you age, when the first health problems show up.
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@JudyEv (163933)
• Bunbury, Australia
12 Jul
I'm so sorry you're going through this. There is nothing anyone can say that can make you feel better And of course, such dismal weather wouldn't be helping. Sending hugs.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
Thanks Judy. As well as my real life friends I knew that my friends here would be supportive. I think I need a diversion from reality.
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@just4him (161971)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Jul
I'm so sorry to hear your news. I thought he was doing better. I've noticed how the weather matches our feelings.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
it's like the tears are matching mine. I think I knew all along this was where we were heading but I tried to stay brave. I didn't realise it would be this bad.
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@just4him (161971)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Jul
@valmnz You had a good life together. It will be hard. My prayers are with you.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
@just4him thanks Valerie. I'm appreciating the support of people here and its good to have a place to come to as a diversion from reality. Yes, we have had 48 wonderful years.It's hard watching this happen. Thank you for being there.
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@HazySue (30117)
• United States
12 Jul
I was hoping that things would get better for him. I am so sorry. It is hard to watch someone you love come to the end of his life. I pray you have the strength to endure.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
Thank you for that. I'm trying to keep busy.
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@Corbin5 (149127)
• United States
12 Jul
Oh, Val. I am so saddened by this news. I am sending prayers of comfort your way. God bless you and your dear husband.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
Thank you. It breaks my heart watching him like this.This place is going to be my sanctuary when my local friends are not around.
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@Corbin5 (149127)
• United States
12 Jul
@valmnz I wish we could all come to be with you to ease the heartbreak a bit. I am so glad to know that your local friends provide support when they can. I do believe myLot will offer comfort. My heart is broken because your heart is broken.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
@Corbin5 thank you. Yo know, being here on and off this morning has been a blessing.
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@xFiacre (7842)
• Ireland
14 Jul
@valmnz Wish there was something I could do to brighten your day and make things alright. Hoping you've some real life friends who can give practical support.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
14 Jul
Thqnks Fiacre, yes I do have some wonderful friends and family here. And I've known some of you so long here online I include you in my support system too. Keep writing things to make me smile
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@xFiacre (7842)
• Ireland
14 Jul
@valmnz Oh that’s a lot of pressure!
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
16 Jul
• Midland, Michigan
13 Jul
Sorry to hear that your husband's journey on Earth is nearing it's end. I've not been around a lot this year and didn't know. We had an awful winter too although we kept getting hit with ice everywhere. So many people got hurt that not everyone could see a provider right away. If you needed cheering up from your weather and maybe to help your husband's frame of mind too if he's aware is to listen to perky music. In fact I should put some on here and maybe I'd get more done.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Hi Marsha, thanks for dropping by. I haven't been here much either. This is a good place to be right now though.
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• Midland, Michigan
13 Jul
@valmnz is your husband at home with you or in some type of care facility.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
@MarshaMusselman in a small hospital level care facility. He needs 24 hour care.
@DWDavis (17638)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
13 Jul
My heart goes out to you and I am keeping you both in my prayers.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thanks. I hope your writing is going well?
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@DWDavis (17638)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
14 Jul
@valmnz I'm still writing. Been working on a new book during summer break and I think it could be one of my best yet.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
14 Jul
@DWDavis that's good to hear.
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@CarolDM (32493)
• United States
12 Jul
I am so sorry. Enjoy the time you have with your husband. I know you are doing that. Thinking of you Val.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
Thanks Carol. These are difficult times.
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@CarolDM (32493)
• United States
12 Jul
@valmnz I know and my heart is so heavy for you my friend.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
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• United States
13 Jul
I am very sorry, they say it makes it easier if you know someone is slowly passing, but no it does not. I don't think you can ever be prepared, and will still grieve. Very sorry
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thank you. We take each moment as it comes.
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• United States
13 Jul
@valmnz that is the best way, one day at a time.
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@LeaPea2417 (25654)
• Toccoa, Georgia
13 Jul
I really am sorry about your husband.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thank you for dropping by. We are making the best that we can of the moments.
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@LeaPea2417 (25654)
• Toccoa, Georgia
13 Jul
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@smileyhema (2985)
• United States
13 Jul
Sorry about that. It surely pains and no words can explain what you've in your heart and mind now. But, please please please - don't give up. Each and every moment is so valuable now. Please enjoy with your husband and be bold.. God will bless you both for more of your togetherness. My sincere prayers and regards to your husband. Hugs to you dear.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, we are treasuring the good moments.
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• United States
14 Jul
@valmnz That's cool and stay positive .. take care ...
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@sunrisefan (24173)
• Philippines
13 Jul
I am out of words Ms. Val but I wish you and your husband well.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thank you Sunrise. We are all finding ways to cope and life is a bit more settled today. I'm treasuring the good days.
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@sunrisefan (24173)
• Philippines
14 Jul
@valmnz That's a positive attitude Ms. Val
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@Gillygirl (32762)
• Sutton, England
13 Jul
I am so sorry Val, I too feel foolish for my comment on your response to another discussion. Sending you big hugs
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thanks Gill, I realised you hadn't read this. Anyway, I'm trying to keep pat of my life normal!!
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@Gillygirl (32762)
• Sutton, England
17 Jul
@DianneN (122142)
• United States
12 Jul
My heart breaks for you. It must not be easy, and I'm so sorry.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thanks Dianne, we have lots of wonderful support, but life has definitely changed.
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@DianneN (122142)
• United States
13 Jul
@valmnz I’m certain it has.
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@Susan2015 (24906)
• United States
13 Jul
Very sorry to hear about this news.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thanks Susan, being here is helping me feel a bit more normal!
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@much2say (35773)
• United States
12 Jul
I am saddened to hear this. You and your husband are in my thoughts, Val.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thank you. I'm finding being here so relaxing in between everything.
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• United States
12 Jul
I'm so sorry Val. My heart and prayers are with you
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
13 Jul
Thanks Marilyn.
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@wolfgirl569 (17974)
• Marion, Ohio
12 Jul
So sorry.
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@valmnz (15520)
• New Zealand
12 Jul
Thank you. It's not the best time of my life but we'll get there
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