Putting your size tens in!
By Gary Marsh
@garymarsh6 (23979)
United Kingdom
September 29, 2019 9:17am CST
Have you ever said something to someone meaning to complement them only for it to be taken the wrong way! I have a few years back not quite what is written in the picture but near enough!
Some people really are far too sensitive at times. Most people who know me know what a joker and a tease I am. Ok sometimes it is erring on the side of being juvenile but that is what I am like. I freely admit to having a mental age of an 8 year old.
For example on my facebook page I knocked 10 years off my age when I reached 50. One of my colleagues at work who does not quite appreciate my sense of humour told me to grow up and put my correct age on the page. I thought oh blow you so I took another 6 years off so I will for ever be 16 years younger as facebook warned me if I changed it again I would not be able to change it back!
My colleague no longer talks to me but I think it is hilarious and the sad thing is I am unlikely to change and will probably keep my schoolboy humour until the day I start pushing up daisies!
Have you ever said something to someone trying to be kind but it went the wrong way?
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
29 Sep 19
Some times it happens on the social sites because of difference in the culture and also because of misunderstand the English language I use as English is not my native language and often people misunderstand my writings which I realize later on!
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
29 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 , since I am from India and we are taught in English medium where we follow British English, there is no problem with the British English as I can manage with it. But it becomes bit difficult with American English ...
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
Yes language can be misconstrued by people especially if English is not your first language. Of course if we were sitting in front of each other talking then there are different clues to observe such as posture, facial expression, word intonation and how something is said. Whereas the written word is often flat with no intonation as to what you actually mean! As for you, I think you written English is excellent!
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
29 Sep 19
i suffer from foot in mouth disease. Apparently according to my spouse, there is no cure.
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
OH well that makes the two of us.I can't understand if my wife asks do I look nice in this is it not better to say no rather than let her embarrass herself??? Apparently not but there you go a no win situation Scott. Damned if you do and damned if you don't! 
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
29 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 we call that the Husband job in our house. In the words of the kenny rogers song the Gambler
You have to know when to hold.
Know when to fold them
Know when to walk away~
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
@DocAndersen On crutches with an answer like I have given! 
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@rebelann (117196)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Sep 19
Yes, more times than I can count. The biggest problem here is that many of those people I worked with were learning English as a second language and sometimes I would say something I deemed normal only to have them take offense because they had to look up the words in a translator dictionary and that made what I said come out really different from what was intended.
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
OH yes of course that would be true because it would be given out of context.
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@rebelann (117196)
• El Paso, Texas
29 Sep 19
So many here have a limited grasp of English @garymarsh6
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
29 Sep 19
Your colleague has zero sense of humor, I know that sometimes trying to be kind (adding a bit of humor) is not always appreciated. My niece, when it was her birthday, loved to say I am turning 18. That was fine until she was 22, 23, 24... When she turned 30 I looked at her and said "stop saying I am turning 18 if you want to hear, but you look younger". Can you believe she did not appreciated. I wanted to be nice.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
30 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 I hope my niece got the message, there is nothing more ridiculous than an aged woman who wants to show up like a teenager.
I hope my niece got the message, there is nothing more ridiculous than an aged woman who wants to show up like a teenager.@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
Haha as I said some people are just far too sensitive. I would think you have a great sense of humour! As for my colleague well she can continue to be her usual miserable self! 
As for my colleague well she can continue to be her usual miserable self! 1 person likes this
@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
That is because you are a kind man Alfredo! Hope you have had some of that Apple pie now. It looked delicious!
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
29 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 I am confused as to why your colleague got uptight about this! I don't really see the harm in you doing this. I'm curious to know why this was such a big deal.
I am sure I have said some things that was taken the wrong way but I'm sorry that I cannot think of anything right now.
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
IT is because she has no sense of humour and is as miserable as sin!
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
@VivaLaDani13 Don't worry I would never lose any sleep over her and neither should you if you know someone is a misery guts!!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
29 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 ah ok! I see! I know there are people like that. Again, wish I knew why but some times I don't even care to know when their behaviour is just too harsh! Well I think you're funny! I'm sorry she couldn't see the humour in it!
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
29 Sep 19
Nothing comes to mind, but I am sure I have. I almost not the most diplomatic person..although at times, I am..it kind of varies, on the day, the person and a host of other things.
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
Good answer. Some people are just irritants and it is like holding a red rag to a bull. I totally get where you are coming from!
@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
1 Oct 19
Doesnt talk to you over that? My God get a life already ..blinking sod.
@Tampa_girl7 (54714)
• United States
30 Sep 19
It's a shame that some people have no sense of humor at all.
@xFiacre (14782)
• Ireland
29 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 My daughter, bless her cotton socks, got a job going door to door selling phone contracts. She’s the kind of person who could sell combs to a bald person. A young mother asked her to come in because she was interested but her child was just out of the bath. When my daughter saw the toddler she very genuinely said, “Oh your little girl is just lovely - my youngest sister has Downs Syndrome too”, to which the horrified mother said quite curtly, “My child does NOT have Downs Syndrome”. My daughter thought it best to retreat.
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@garymarsh6 (23979)
• United Kingdom
29 Sep 19
OH lord! Your poor daughter. I am not surprised she scarpered bless her! Never mind! I saw a patient who was praising how good her son was. I saw she had a visitor one day and went to introduce myself and said so you must be mrs. so and so's son. My colleagues made a hasty retreat. It was a very macho looking daughter! I did not live that one down for a week or two I can tell you!
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@JudyEv (381739)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Sep 19
I agree that some people are just too precious. They miss out on a lot of fun and happy times.
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 Sep 19
@garymarsh6 It happens, as you can tell from the comments.
@crazyhorseladycx (39503)
• United States
29 Sep 19
purty constant 'round these parts. dunno why yer co-worker got their drawers'n a knot o'er the age ya put'n facebook?? seems they'd be the one needin' to gain a bit 'f maturity.
