How do you react to misunderstandings on mylot?

@myklj999 OK, so you're an obvious exception to my assumption!!!

@myklj999 I think I'd want fight if I was forced to listen to Chicago

@myklj999 That's not half bad! I only knew Chicago as a poppy ballady band!

I couldn't have said it better. It really does depend on the person / individual situation.

@vsai2008 Oh, I've done that as well. Sometimes people are looking to argue, and I am not that type of person.

@ScribbledAdNauseum if the confrontation goes on, then I say sorry and stay away

@ScribbledAdNauseum Yes. It all depends on the situation.

Yep, I agree. The situations vary as do the people, sometimes it's just not worth it to clarify. Other times it is. I've kept my mouth shut here just to keep the peace.

I think it's best to try to explain whenever possible. Especially when it comes to people who do not speak English fluently. I like to think that if I were speaking their langauge, they would do the same for me.

Yeah, I agree with your last line. It is definitely not worth the energy or worrying about it a second longer. You do what you can and if they want to be difficult, then let them be difficult.

So you will remove a comment if it leads to, or begins to lead to hurt feelings, misunderstandings, or debate?

@ScribbledAdNauseum You said it right.

@ScribbledAdNauseum I have never had an issue understanding you quite the opposite.

I can be a confusing person to talk to sometimes, and i know that I can be. I'm pretty sure I've even confused myself with what I say sometimes. Just a family trait for me though. Tongue-tied-itis

@TiarasOceanView Well I am glad!

I am not going to lie, I can think of a time or two when I have gotten offended. For the most part I try to keep an open mind and even if I am offended I try not to show it or act it. However, I have seen some people who get offended act out and become insulting.

@LadyDuck I don't think people should be rude on purpose here. We are here to have fun, to learn, to educate an to earn a little money. It's silly that people have squabbles here.

@ScribbledAdNauseum I have also noticed that some got offended, but I think there is no reason. I understand if someone is rude on purpose, but for a misunderstanding there is no reason.

I've had my fair share of negative responses. I do not help people or point out things as much as I used to be because there are too many that negative responses.

@lovebuglena Oh wow! Maybe they were just trying to be helpful but it sounds like they came off as assertive and know - it - all.

@lovebuglena Ah I see. Yeah, it sounds like they were definitely one of thsoe know it all's who think their way is the only way.

That is the best way to go about things. Sometimes we offend people without realizing it or intending to at all.

@thelme55 Sometimes people are just having a bad day. I have had people come back and apologize, and I try to apologize if I've reacted in a way that isn't my usual.

@ScribbledAdNauseum Yes, I think that is the best thing to do. That´s true.

I will ask you to clarify if I don't understand you, and I know you ask me the same when you don't understand me. I'm not sure why people get upset first instead of asking for clarification.

@JustBhem That might be it.

@ScribbledAdNauseum Maybe because we are different from them. And I think, they want their opinion must be heard rather than opposing them.

I probably talk to about 7 people regularly. There are some I just won't talk to anymore but not really because of miscommunication.

@thislittlepennyearns I have not seen DW around in awhile. I guess he's busy with teaching and writing.

@ScribbledAdNauseum You, JJ, Felicia, Coral, DW when he's around. That's pretty much my main list lol.

I think that's the best way to go about it, for the most part. Sometimes I have even apologized when I didn't think it was necessary.

@amitkokiladitya i agree with you there as well, I will shy away from conflict and sometimes just leave a discussion if I find it with too much conflict.

@ScribbledAdNauseum yes...I prefer peace over conflict so better to try to sort it out.

You can only do so much before you just have to walk away. I try to keep the peace here, you know I don't like confrontation if I can help it. I'm only human though and can be quick to temper.

@CarolDM This place is supposed to be about fun. That's how I see it atleast.

@ScribbledAdNauseum I completely agree.

I was just noticing that there is newer member here who has a different sort of humor. One that can be easily misunderstood at first. I've insulted a few just by trying to help them with their English. I guess they are too proud of what they've learned and think that I am mocking them. For this reason, I no longer clarify.

Atleast she realized that how she reacted was wrong and was willing to apologize for it. You do not always get that here on mylot.

@sol_cee It happens. Even anger happens here, and we just have to learn to move on from it.

@ScribbledAdNauseum yeah. She simply misunderstood and I’m okay with that

I think it's better to clarify, but then I think we all learn who is receptive of clarification and who isn't.

I have found that sometimes even clarifying doesn't work. Either the person is insulted and refuses to take the clarification, or they are even further confused by what I have said.

@ScribbledAdNauseum exactly.

I find that sometimes people do not want to be confronted with the facts.

This is one reason why I do not often write opinion type pieces or political posts. Along with simple misunderstandings can come fiery differing beliefs. It's easier to stay lighthearted here than to try to step back on something.

@ScribbledAdNauseum Yes, I mostly agree with your approach there. Sometimes, I post religious pieces though, but to my mind, in that type of writing, misunderstandings are usually better tolerated, because the whole subject is pretty well hard to understand anyway, at times. As long as we state that it's only how we think, or it's only our opinion, it usually goes over alright. Then again, some people seeing the title, steer away from that type of discussion naturally anyway, altogether. I do not mind hearing different beliefs, shared in a friendly manor. Fiery, differing, dogmatically, righteous types of beliefs expressed in the same way, (righteously, inflexibly, dogmatically) seldom help anyone to better understand anything, nor make for a win/win, friendly discussion.