I miss this child. / myLot

Walnut Creek, California

October 25, 2019 8:20pm CST

She has two daddies. She has attitude. She was transferred from one "big kid" classroom to another because she struggled with "listening." But the classroom she was transferred to had a highly directive teacher as Head Teacher, and Teacher from Hell #1 (the one who quit), as the other main teacher. I knew it would not work. Within a couple of months, the daddies withdrew the child from the preschool. They felt the child was being abused. I got along great with her. I admired her spunk and was able to get compliance from her simply by telling her "If you do x, you will get y. If you do not do x, you will not get y." I was firm, but never angry. She asked me one day what my favorite colors were. I said (quoting a musician you may be able to name), "Deep greens and blues are the colors I choose." She made me this picture. If you look at it right, it looks something like a forest! I'm bummed that she left. But there are new kids to get to know every day.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

26 Oct 19

I am so sorry, I am sure you wonder where her dad has moved her. I hope she will find a good teacher, but her father seems to take good care of her.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (502148)

• Italy

27 Oct 19

@TheHorse Poor little girl, I hope she can find a nice place where she is well cared and not bullied.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

7 Nov 19

@LadyDuck The thought of a child being bullied by teachers mortifies me. But that was the case.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

I met both of her daddies (a gay couple) and they seemed like good dudes. I hope they find a place for her with teachers who are consistent but child-centered.

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Kareng

@kareng (80243)

• United States

26 Oct 19

Don't you hate situations like that? I bet you wonder where is she now? What's happening with her? Etc. She sounds like a wonderful little girl who needed some strict instructions but was willing to please those that took the time to understand her.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

You speak the truth. We were on our way. But I don't know where she is now. The "Teacher from Hell" quit. But the other highly disciplinary teacher is coming back from a foot injury next week.

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Kareng

@kareng (80243)

• United States

26 Oct 19

@TheHorse At least one of the bad teachers is gone. Good riddance!!

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

@kareng I worked in that classroom for the last couple of weeks and actually did notice that the kids seemed happier and more imaginative with both ultra-directive teachers out of the room.

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vanny

@vandana7 (102698)

• India

21 Dec 19

There... your teen language.. "bummed"... it is hard to think of you as a grown up... DE sounds older than you.. had I not read your posts, and not seen your pictures...but interacted with you..I would have put you around 17 or 18. It is hard to believe grownups in your world use that kind of language.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

21 Dec 19

"Bummed" would be my natural language for speaking with people of my own age. It's what we used back in the day. In a formal presentation, I might say "disappointed."

Judy Evans

@JudyEv (381739)

• Rockingham, Australia

26 Oct 19

It must be hard when kids leave and you don't know where they've gone to.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

It really is. Especially the ones who came from really disadvantaged backgrounds.

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@acelawrites

@acelawrites (19272)

• Philippines

26 Oct 19

She has a nice drawing.I hope she'll be alright.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

I think she'll land on her feet.

LindaOH

@LindaOHio (222222)

• United States

26 Oct 19

You are to be commended for your caring attitude toward these children.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

I really enjoy the work. And kids are "learning machines," so they're fun to be around.

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (135583)

• Marion, Ohio

26 Oct 19

Sorry she will not be there. But I understand her parents pulling her out.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

I wish she had wound up with better teachers.

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RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (97912)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

26 Oct 19

No photo at present. I am sorry you could not teach her I think the two of you could have learned a lot from one another. The picture showed up I'd say she has great talent for modern art and I do see a forest dense with trees.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (238268)

• Walnut Creek, California

26 Oct 19

Yep. She's a bright gal. With a touch of rebelliousness. And two daddies. My kind of kid. I miss her!

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