My New Friend
By DianneN
@DianneN (254926)
United States
February 8, 2020 9:55pm CST
Hi peeps!
I met a new friend at the Super Bowl party last week at our condo. I’m not exactly sure if I like her.
She texted me so much during the week, the worst being the night I met her. I was in bed and watching TV. At 10:58 PM she sent me the first text message saying how much she enjoyed meeting me, my husband, my brother, and my sister-in-law. I thanked her and said that it was nice meeting her,
I got back into bed, covered up, and received another text. I got out of bed and replied.
I crawled back into bed and once again, received another text and got out of bed to reply. Again I received her third text and replied! I got smart and sat on the bed, when her next text came in. My poor husband was sound asleep at that point. I replied one last time and told her that I was going to bed.
During the week, I received texts daily.
Today I walked with her. We did have a nice walk.
Tonight we had dinner at my brother’s house, and I told him what has been going on with my new friend.
He thinks she’s what he calls trailer trash and didn’t get good vibes from her.
This is a decision I must make for myself. I will walk with her next week as planned, and decide if I want our friendship to blossom or not. She seems a bit needy to me, but I made a career out of working with needy people.
I really don’t quite know if she can be a friend. Time will tell.
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40 responses
@DianneN (254926)
• United States
9 Feb 20
I hope she’s nothing like Dr. Jay, that S.O.B.
I decided to see how the week goes with her texting. Otherwise, we have a date for walking next Saturday. If all we do is walk, then I’ll be content.
I can always say I’m busy and slowly drop her and block her on my phone.1 person likes this
@wolfgirl569 (136006)
• Marion, Ohio
9 Feb 20
Try letting her know that you dont like a lot of texts. That might help.
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@wolfgirl569 (136006)
• Marion, Ohio
9 Feb 20
@DianneN Mine know I prefer a phone call. I hate typing on the phone.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
9 Feb 20
@wolfgirl569 I use my iPad to type. It’s a tiny bit easier.
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@LindaOHio (222806)
• United States
9 Feb 20
She is definitely needy. Maybe she doesn't have a lot of friends.
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@LindaOHio (222806)
• United States
9 Feb 20
@DianneN Sounds like me...and they're both out of the state and out of the country.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
9 Feb 20
Uh oh. From what you've described, "needy" came to my mind too. It's nice that she seems to like you a lot, but do you feel the same way about her? I have a feeling that you may be like me . . . that people meet you and like you so much that they want to hang out and be best of friends off the bat. For me, it is difficult when people require more time from me than I can give them back - and these days you know I just can't do it. I still have my share of needy friends, but I can only take them in little doses 
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It's a blessing and curse at the same time, right?
Exactly! You hit the nail on the head.
@averygirl72 (38848)
• Philippines
10 Feb 20
You are right time will tell if she is worth to be a friend or if she should be avoided
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@averygirl72 (38848)
• Philippines
10 Feb 20
@DianneN It takes time to really discover the personality of any person
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Thanks!
@jobelbojel (36796)
• Philippines
10 Feb 20
One thing is for sure, two most important words to take note of YES and NO.
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@jobelbojel (36796)
• Philippines
10 Feb 20
@DianneN Sure. Let us know. I hope I can read that update.
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
9 Feb 20
Pardon me for asking. Why did you give your phone number?
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@Alexandoy (65302)
• Cainta, Philippines
9 Feb 20
@DianneN oh I see. The hazard of giving your phone number, waheehee. This reminds me when I am dealing with a company. When they ask for my number, I would give our home landline. If they insist on my mobile number, I would say that I don't give it because you may just spam it. Nice, waheehee.
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@moffittjc (128842)
• Gainesville, Florida
11 Feb 20
Find out how much she's worth, and then become such great friends with her that she leaves everything to you when she passes! haha
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@moffittjc (128842)
• Gainesville, Florida
11 Feb 20
@DianneN Haha, so you've already figured it out. I take it that it's not worth pursuing friendship for her money.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
11 Feb 20
@moffittjc Not for money, lol, but we will see how it goes.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
9 Feb 20
My husband hates that, too. I hate it as well. It’s such an irritating sound and people all over the world don’t realize it’s our bedtime.
I deleted the Facebook messenger app once for that very reason, but put it back again. So far, so good.
I’m going to seek how the week goes and decide if I still want to be acquainted with her.
I already know I can’t become dear friends. She’s not my type.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
10 Feb 20
I just lay in bed and my phone is next to me on a chair. It goes on silent when I go to bed. I think she sounds very nice. I just message people back when I have time. Since we are so connected we need to be able to not have to text back an instant reply if we are busy or don’t feel in the mood to chat.
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@garymarsh6 (24078)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 20
Oh lord that is being a bit forward. Well people from all walks of life need friends but there are of course boundaries to be set one of which is not texting that time of night in future! That is you time unless of course it is an emergency! Don't let others influence your friendship! You are wise enough to know if she is good or not!
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@garymarsh6 (24078)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 20
@DianneN Yes just as an acquaintance. There is no harm in that but keep her at arms length! Some people do not know where boundaries lie!
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
9 Feb 20
perhaps she is lonely? Or was really impressed with you?
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
9 Feb 20
@DianneN that isn't always good. good luck!
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