Would you accept a fake gift from someone?
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (52170)
Staten Island, New York
February 10, 2020 2:46pm CST
My MIL showed me a fake of a high-end brand name handbag (MCM) and told me how much she paid for it ($35). And then shortly after she went ahead and gave me that fake handbag as a gift for New Years. I accepted it but I will never use it. I do not like its quality. And I would never wear a fake anyway.
I wanted to give it back but did not want to hurt MIL's feelings. After telling me yesterday that my hubby gave her a mouthful about gifting me that fake handbag, she asked if I will use it. I said maybe as that's what came out of my mouth. What I should have said was "no way!".
I want hubby to give it back to her. No point in keeping it if I will never use it. I also wonder what made her want to gift it to me, especially after she admitted it was a fake and how much she paid for it, and why she would even consider gifting it to someone... I'd never do such a thing.
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@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
I am not much into brand names, especially high end ones. A person can gift me a lesser brand bag and if it is nice and good quality I will wear it. I'd maybe even wear a mock off of a brand. What I don't want is a fake that you can tell is a fake.
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@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
@porwest It wouldn't feel right to me to donate someone's gift.
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@porwest (112876)
• United States
10 Feb 20
@lovebuglena I guess I know where you are coming from, but in my world it is the thought that counts, and it simply would not bother me no matter what someone gave me, fake or not. I just wouldn't care. Worst case scenario if it really was something I could not use, I still would not care. I would just donate it.
@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Feb 20
I don't think you should give it back. Donate it to a charity. She never should have told you the price and that it was a fake before gifting it to you.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
I cannot donate it to a charity. I either give it back or keep it and I don't want to keep it.
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@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Feb 20
@LindaOHio I don't wanna get rid of it. What if she will ask me about it or ask to see it. Then I am screwed.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
11 Feb 20
I would also have mixed feelings about such a gift.
I cannot tell a fake from a real thing anyway.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
12 Feb 20
@lovebuglena
Over here they are really good at making those kind of fake things and they can look very real so I cannot tell one from the other really unless I was shown the original of course that would be another story altogether.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Feb 20
Some fakes are so close to the real thing you cannot tell. Now, while I've never seen this brand handbag in person in the store, I can tell it is not the real thing. It doesn't look very high quality to me. And I am not a fan of the inside lining.
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@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Feb 20
@lovinangelsinstead21 Wow! Interesting! The hanging tag on the bag I got looks like it's all written in Korean, unless it is in Chinese.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Feb 20
Since I'm not hip with current name brands, I probably wouldn't really know the difference 
. That being said, I do know that I would or would not use a particular style of handbag. Even so, I just say thanks for a gift and if I don't like it, I pass it on or donate it. But if it were a known fake, I wouldn't gift it 
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. That being said, I do know that I would or would not use a particular style of handbag. Even so, I just say thanks for a gift and if I don't like it, I pass it on or donate it. But if it were a known fake, I wouldn't gift it .@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Feb 20
@lovebuglena I've never had that happen before . . . but I'm sure I could make up some excuse 
. My mother in law did ask me once about a sweater she got me and why haven't I worn it. I think I told her I do wear it - just not that day - but that wasn't the truth as I had donated it a long time ago (too tight, too itchy). She would be crushed if I told her it's gone . . . at the same time, she easily buys a story and forgets anyway .
. My mother in law did ask me once about a sweater she got me and why haven't I worn it. I think I told her I do wear it - just not that day - but that wasn't the truth as I had donated it a long time ago (too tight, too itchy). She would be crushed if I told her it's gone . . . at the same time, she easily buys a story and forgets anyway .@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Feb 20
@lovebuglena My mother in law is always the type of person who gives a benefit of a doubt (too much though which is not good). She is forgetful and easily distracted too .
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@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Feb 20
What if you donate it but then that person asks to see the gift they got you... what then?
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@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
I wanna give it back to her. I will not use it and don't want it taking up space in my house. And I am certainly not going to give it to anyone else.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
@NJChicaa Technically, so is not using it. Better to give it to her so she can wear it.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
I don't know why she mentioned the price. I would not feel comfortable gifting someone a fake gift... Unless I told that person it was fake, said they can have it if they want, and they were okay with getting that thing, I'd not gift it.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
I think she gifted hubby a fake Ferragamo belt. At least I think it was fake.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
10 Feb 20
Some people don´t mind brands if they like something. So it is not her fault unless she knows that you only wear brand items.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
It's not about a brand name for me... it's about the fact that the bag is not a real MCM bag but a fake. I don't mind getting a less priced bag as long it is good quality but not a fake.
@Hate2Iron (15724)
• Canada
10 Feb 20
The fact that she made a point of telling you that it was a fake kind of makes you wonder???
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Feb 20
If you give someone a gift and you do not know or realize it is fake that is one thing. But if you know it is not real why gift to someone, even if you admit it's not real?
@moffittjc (128837)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Feb 20
I would think that for the sanctity of your relationship with your MIL, that it's best to accept the gift and leave it at that. Nobody says you have to use that handbag every time you go out. I would just hold on to it for a while, maybe use it only when you're dong something with the MIL, and the rest of the time just let it sit in your closet or something. Then, after about a year of so, get rid of it, and if the MIL says something about it again in the future, just tell her that it broke, ripped, tore, fell apart or something, and you had to get rid of it.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Feb 20
Thanks. Not a bad idea. For now, maybe I will keep it in the garage where it will be out of sight.
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@florelway (23339)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
11 Feb 20
As long as it's sincerely given to me. Some people are not aware of brands.
@lovebuglena (52170)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Feb 20
Even if some people are not aware of certain brands they should be able to tell if something is fake or not.
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