Family Drama
By Amber
@AmbiePam (85461)
United States
May 19, 2020 1:04pm CST
My sister texts me, and tells me she is no longer talking to my dad. She ends up calling me, detailing to me why she is upset with him. I thought they had a blow up, but he has no idea she's even upset with him. I'd say about half of her grievances are legitimate, but no where near to the level of ceasing to speak to him. Plus, if you don't tell someone what they did to upset you, how can they fix it?
She asked me not to tell him anything we talked about so my hands are tied. I can share one thing I think she is wrong about. She said she doesn't think they spend much on her children for Christmas. She's right about that. However, they don't because my niece and nephew are spoiled rotten. If their parents don't buy them everything, their other grandparents (who are rich) will buy it for them. My dad had said he prefers to give them attention more than presents.
It's a mess.
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@snowy22315 (169929)
• United States
19 May 20
I hope they can work it out, personally I would keep encouraging her to talk to him and work it out..even if they need a neutral party as a mediator. If someone is going to take a radical step like that, they should at least tell the other party..what they have done to upset them..and give them a chance to make ammends.
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@snowy22315 (169929)
• United States
19 May 20
@AmbiePam Yes, FYI I think my mom is upset with me since I told one of my cousin's about my dad's ALz. It isn't like it is a secret. I did her a favor really. I could have asked first, but people will have to know eventually, it happens. Plus maybe I thought the cousin would have some useful info, since she is a nurse practitioner.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
19 May 20
Sounds like she let her frustrations build up - and it's all blowing up now. At this point it's probably not about one particular incident - it's just everything including the little things, Christmas peeves being part of it. She really needs to talk to your dad, especially if he doesn't know what's going on - otherwise for her to just not speak to him means nothing except confusion.
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@maggs224 (2320)
• Alicante, Spain
20 May 20
It is what it is, it sounds to me like you are doing a good job of figuring it all out ok, all you can do is love them both and be there for them.
Give your sister the love and understanding that she thinks her dad at the moment isn't giving her. It doesn't matter if what she thinks isn't true because at this point, to her it feels like it is. She is lucky to have a sister like you who is there for her even when you don't agree with all she is saying.
Trust your gut when you talk to your sister, you seem to be quite intuitive and from what you have said here you seem to have the knack of saying the right thing at the right time.
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@andriaperry (116860)
• Anniston, Alabama
19 May 20
Material isnotwhere it's at. Love is
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 May 20
Oh I'm sorry to hear what you're dealing with. =(
Life is too short to hold grudges I think.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104632)
• United States
19 May 20
Family drama usually is. I hope she cools down and atleast talks to your dad about some of these things. My niece and nephew have always been spoiled by their parents too! Makes gift buying so difficult.
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@cmoneyspinner (9221)
• Austin, Texas
20 May 20
Not talking to each other in my family is something I grew up with. Don't all families stop talking to each other? Isn't that normal? 
You can't choose your family but family can somehow manage to do something that pisses you off and makes you stop talking to each other. I think that's how it is with families all around the world.
You can't choose your family but family can somehow manage to do something that pisses you off and makes you stop talking to each other. I think that's how it is with families all around the world. 3 people like this
@LindaOHio (156056)
• United States
19 May 20
Family drama is so unavoidable some times...and some times it's fabricated. I hope your sister talks to your dad and airs her grievances.
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
20 May 20
Aw. I'm sorry. But you're right. Your hands are tied. About all you can do is try to give sister some guidance. Is sister particularly stressed out at the moment (can be anything else, not to do with your dad) - because that seems to bring out the worst in people at times.
I don't fault your dad for not giving lots of gifts, it sounds like a deliberately thought out move.
Best of luck with it
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@FayeHazel (40248)
• United States
21 May 20
@AmbiePam Hm... thats probably what driving some of this. Still doesn't make it go away though
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
20 May 20
Sounds pretty par for the course where families are concerned. Ours has dramas as well which is one reason Yvonne and I moved away and came here.
I dont do family any more. At all. Neither does Yvonne.
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@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
22 May 20
I am glad not to have the "gifts" drama. She should always strive to be at peace with your dad as one day she will not have him.
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@GreatMartin (23677)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
20 May 20
I am so glad I 'divorced' my family when I was 16--never regretted it!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60330)
• Perth, Australia
1 Jun 20
@AmbiePam I'm so sorry for the family drama going on. I hope that it's settled down now! I really do agree with what you said. I believe communication is a great thing amongst people so it would be best to let people know if they have upset you so then the next step can be trying to resolve it.
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