Should I let Kitty share her food?

@TheHorse (117964)
Walnut Creek, California
November 18, 2020 1:24pm CST
I had an interesting cat interaction yesterday morning. I gave kitty some wet food for breakfast, and she was pretty excited about that. But when I went out to check on her, she was sharing her breakfast with her boyfriend. She was watching while he ate, and hesitant to chase him off. I gave him a non-angry look and hissed him off. He usually runs away when I come out (even when I don't have my shotgun with me), but he only went about seven feet away and awaited his turn. I made neutral eye-contact with him and gestured with my head for him to sit down. Amazingly, he did so. I let him have a few more bites, but made sure Kitty got "first dibs." I am a horse person, not a cat person. Are cats smart enough to understand nuanced messags like, "I am not your enemy. You may share with Kitty, but at MY house, she comes first"?
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@CarolDM (103139)
• United States
18 Nov
They understand these gestures from each other better than from humans, I believe. She will decide if she wants to share with her man. And you are becoming a cat person.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
Sigh. Maybe it was only a matter of time.
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@CarolDM (103139)
• United States
18 Nov
@TheHorse Nothing wrong with being a cat person.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
@CarolDM But...I'm a horse and dog person! This can't be happening!
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@MALUSE (62994)
• Germany
18 Nov
What do humans know and understand about hierarchy in the animal world? Why don't you let the cats decide themselves which order to follow? Maybe it makes your Kitty happy to let her bf get the first bites.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
I watched them for awhile. He was getting all the bites, and she was being tentative when it came to taking a bite herself.
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@MALUSE (62994)
• Germany
18 Nov
@TheHorse Try to offer the food in two bowls. Don't put them side by side.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
@MALUSE But I don't want her boyfriend to become "mine." "Two cats and the army's too many for me." I'll link the song you made me think of. I find it lovely. The real line is "two wives and the army's too many for me." James Taylor and, I believe, Linda Ronstadt.
Provided to YouTube by Rhino One Morning in May · James Taylor One Man Dog ? 1972 Warner Records Inc. Masterer: Bernie Grundman Piano: Craig Doerge Acoustic ...
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@betlynfrnds (3230)
• United States
18 Nov
Never underestimate the power of a cat. I am an animal person. I love animals in general. Right now, it's all about cats for us. We have numerous cats and they never cease to amaze me as to how smart they really are.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
I'm glad to be learning Cat after all these years. I've had a head start. I always get along with friends' cats.
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• United States
18 Nov
@TheHorse That's really nice; never too late to start.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
@betlynfrnds I hope it doesn't interfere with my continued learning of Hebrew and Spanish.
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@prinzcy (8511)
• Malaysia
19 Nov
Yes, welcome to the club. Come join us at the cat lovers club. Once you in, you'll never get out.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
That's what I suspected.
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@HazySue (35921)
• Inverness, Florida
18 Nov
Cats are intelligent, I am sure he know what you meant. Be careful, you are slowly growing into a cat person.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
I know. I can see it happening. Kitty and I have our own "lexicon" now. We know what each other wants.
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@HazySue (35921)
• Inverness, Florida
18 Nov
@TheHorse Yep, you are getting to that kitty love level.
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• United States
18 Nov
@HazySue I have seen this sort of thing happen many times. Usually I smile to myself until the unsuspecting human gets hooked on cats. Then I give him/her the "ahaaaa, you see?...." I never try to rub it in though; we need as many cat people as we can get!
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@xander6464 (14603)
• Wapello, Iowa
18 Nov
I think cats are that smart. I know they're a lot smarter than they're generally given credit for.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
I think cats rule the human world. But how did they let humans get so stupid?
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@xander6464 (14603)
• Wapello, Iowa
18 Nov
@TheHorse Sloppy leadership!
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
@xander6464 I suspect corruption.
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@WorDazza (15372)
• Manchester, England
18 Nov
I'm sure she'd chase him off if she didn't want to share. We give our cats wet food in the morning but leave a bowl of dry food out all of the time. They seem quite happy to share this and we often see one of them sitting patiently waiting for the other one to finish.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
Aw, that is very sweet. I was trying to discern whether kitty was sharing, or whether she was slightly intimidated by her older and more street-wise boyfriend.
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@WorDazza (15372)
• Manchester, England
18 Nov
@TheHorse Difficult to tell. Our older cat will occasionally batter the hell out of the younger one but does seem to give way when it comes to food. We can only assume he's not too bothered about the food as he's more than capable of fighting the other one off.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
18 Nov
@WorDazza Sometimes I hear the two cats arguing at night. I don't know what they're arguing about. Maybe he tries to get "fresh" with her.
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@Torunn (7128)
• Norway
19 Nov
I think this depends on how much wet cat food you want to buy. I'm most definitly a horse-person too. When people ask "cat or dog-person" I just look pitifully at them. Not that I wouldn't have had both a cat and a dog if I had lived differently/had more time, but if I had to chose, neither would make it.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
Kitty was pretty excited about the wet food. But it's more cumbersome and stinkier.
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@Torunn (7128)
• Norway
19 Nov
@TheHorse Definitly stinkier. We had some cats that only ate the sauce and left the rest, or only certain types of wet food. Or cats that would always leave one small piece and get very upset when you took it away
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
@Torunn Do you know why they would leave that "last piece"? Kitty tends to leave "a bit around the edges," whether it's wet food or dry food.
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@porwest (34083)
• United States
20 Nov
I think cats do understand. I just think they don't give a s*it. lol
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
21 Nov
They know they rule.
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@porwest (34083)
• United States
21 Nov
@TheHorse lol. Perhaps. Or they ARE the rule. I am not sure yet. But our cats kind of ruled the roost. The new one, Grayson, we will have to see. We're still getting to know each other.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
22 Nov
@porwest How is Grayson fitting in with the other kitties?
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@LindaOHio (51873)
• United States
19 Nov
Love makes you blind to your hunger I guess. :-) I think you are becoming a cat person.
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@LindaOHio (51873)
• United States
19 Nov
@TheHorse Yes, now that you're a cat daddy you must look after the chastity of your cat "daughter". :-)
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
@LindaOHio Sigh. she can be a cat trollop as long as he treats her right.
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@LindaOHio (51873)
• United States
20 Nov
@TheHorse lolololololol
@Hannihar (106544)
• Israel
19 Nov
@TheHorse I would say with an animal and not just a cat that you have to show them that they have nothing to fear from you. You have to be kind to them and treat them with respect. I guess that is how I would answer that. Animals whether cats or dogs are smart in their own way. My Sophie listens to me when she wants and is attentive and if she does not want to listen she will turn away. She does not know tricks but she is very smart in her own way.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
Yep. One animals know you don't to eat them, then tend to be pretty trusting toward you. Do you have a picture of Sophie?
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@Hannihar (106544)
• Israel
19 Nov
@TheHorse Yes, I do and will put it here for you to see her.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
@Hannihar Heh! What is she asking for?
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• Midland, Michigan
19 Nov
Lol, I've no idea as I'm not a cat person either. Maybe it picked up on your vibes. So the boyfriend doesn't live there to then?
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
No, I think he lives elsewhere in our apartment complex.
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• Midland, Michigan
19 Nov
@TheHorse got it.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
@MarshaMusselman She's asleep by the stereo right now and I have not seen him today.
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@moonandstars (46737)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
19 Nov
she has him as priority, it seems
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
She is the queen. When he's around, SHE decides whether to go play with him or come inside and nap.
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• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
20 Nov
@TheHorse every queen needs a king
@sophie09 (32494)
• Indonesia
19 Nov
i dont have a cat and never had one, but as what i saw in my neigborhood, yes they share food
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
I haven't seen Kitty's boyfriend since this morning, so she's had her bowl to herself most of the day. Right now she's doing what she does best--sleeping by my stereo.
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@sophie09 (32494)
• Indonesia
19 Nov
@TheHorse wow kitty has a boyfriend?
@snowy22315 (102195)
• United States
19 Nov
Well if kitty wants to share with her "boyfriend" I think you need to respect that..lol. I hope kitty is neutered.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Nov
She is.
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@GardenGerty (128634)
• United States
19 Nov
Just as with people, some cats are more intelligent than others. You seem to be an animal and kid person.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
I am.
@wolfgirl569 (35485)
• Marion, Ohio
19 Nov
In cats just like their bigger relatives the female will often let the male eat first. They do understand many things but most times ignore us petty hoomins. Maybe being a horse will help you.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
Ah, I didn't know that! I'm going to have to read up on lions and lionesses!
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@RasmaSandra (36820)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Nov
What can you do if Kitty likes having her boyfriend around you have to get used to her sharing the food, And I agree as long as you show that Kitty is first in your household,
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
Yep, that's what I'm trying to communicate with him. I hope to pet him one day. He's pretty skittish around me.
@JudyEv (227953)
• Bunbury, Australia
19 Nov
I should think he'd get the message once it's been reinforced a few times.
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@TheHorse (117964)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Nov
That's my hope. He's also less afraid of me than he used to be. I want to establish my boundaries (Kitty comes first) but not be his enemy.
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@Nevena83 (55651)
• Serbia
18 Nov
You had a fun day with the cats.
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