It's Worth Trying

By Jabo
@jaboUK (64956)
United Kingdom
January 30, 2021 1:36pm CST
When my husband's cousin Jim died recently his widow Marisha asked me to read a poem at his funeral service. She said she'd been impressed when I'd read one of my poems at my own husband's funeral 2 years ago, and she wanted to do the same. She'd written the poem but felt she'd be unable to read it out herself as she'd be too emotional. I said that of course I'd do it but perhaps she could try, and I'd take over if she faltered. I told her that she'd probably find the strength from somewhere, just as I had done. But no, she was adamant that she couldn't do it. When the time came for the reading I went up to the pulpit and said a few words about Jim, then explained to the congregation (limited to 30 because of Covid) that Marisha had asked me to read her poem as she felt she wouldn't be able to manage it herself. Then I looked directly at Marisha in the front pew and said "Do you want to try?" I was really pleased when she said she did. I stood the requisite 2 metres behind her, near enough to take over if necessary. I'm happy to say that she sailed through it, no problems at all. We were all so proud of her, but best of all she was proud of herself. On such a sad day it gave her a lift to have been able to do this last thing for her beloved husband. It's an old but true saying that you never know what you can do till you try.
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@DianneN (243866)
• United States
30 Jan 21
That’s a very touching story, and your advice is so true.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
It really enhanced the day for everyone.
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@DianneN (243866)
• United States
30 Jan 21
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@NJChicaa (106570)
• United States
30 Jan 21
How wonderful that she was able to do it!
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
Yes it was - everyone was impressed that she'd done it.
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@thelme55 (75009)
• Germany
30 Jan 21
That was nice what she did. I am glad she was able to read her poem.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
Yes it was really good, especially as she was sure she couldn't do it.
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@myklj999 (62969)
• Olney, Illinois
30 Jan 21
All I can say is
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
Thank you JJ.
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@Juliaacv (65532)
• Canada
30 Jan 21
What a remarkable way to give her confidence and support, that was amazing quick thinking on your behalf. I know that your hubby's anniversary is approaching, I'm thinking supportive thoughts and sending you hugs Janet.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
That's sweet of you, thank you Julia. It will be 2 years on 9th February.
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@Juliaacv (65532)
• Canada
30 Jan 21
@jaboUK Feels like yesterday, but I'm sure you already know that.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
@Juliaacv So true
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@eileenleyva (27797)
• Philippines
30 Jan 21
She mustered the courage because you assured her of moral support. You are the perfect assist.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
You're right - having me there gave her the confidence she needed.
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@eileenleyva (27797)
• Philippines
30 Jan 21
@jaboUK Which actually tells much more of the admirable person that you are. I, for one, wouldn't participate in such a gathering this pandemic time. But you were there, selflessly offering whatever you can do to alleviate the grief of another. Gosh, you do make the difference in someone else's life. Others like me can only send condolences. But you were there in thoughts, in words, and in deed.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
@eileenleyva It's kind of you to say that but we were all masked up and kept the social distance. This was some weeks ago now and no-one there has contracted the dreaded virus.
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@vandana7 (90206)
• India
1 Feb 21
The soul roams around for a while. Feels the feeling I suppose. Tries to console and leaves. At least, I believe it to be true.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
1 Feb 21
@vandana7 I know there are some things that are hard to explain but I am a realist. My daughter, on the other hand, is like you - she sees signs from my husband (her dad) everywhere.
@much2say (53843)
• Los Angeles, California
31 Jan 21
Oh that made me tear up. I don't know her, but I am proud of her too. Such a difficult and emotional time for her, but she did it. You're a good friend for helping her find that strength.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
I didn't really do much, I was just there in case she couldn't get through it.
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@much2say (53843)
• Los Angeles, California
31 Jan 21
@jaboUK But you were definitely there for her. And you asked her at that time if she'd like to try . . . maybe she needed that to give her that boost to do it.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
@much2say Yes, I'm really glad I asked her so that she had the chance to change her mind.
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@xFiacre (10477)
• Ireland
30 Jan 21
@jabouk Excellently handled. So you’re allowed 30 mourners? We only get 25.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
Yes, 30 mourners but they must be two metres apart. Family groups are allowed to be together though.
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@xFiacre (10477)
• Ireland
30 Jan 21
@jaboUK It's a real slap in the teeth to families who keep the rules when others just do whatever they like and dozens turn up, all hugging and kissing.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
@xFiacre You're right - we'll get through this pandemic a lot quicker if people stop being so stupid.
@mom210 (8754)
• United States
3 Feb 21
we just lost someone very close to us from Covid, what an incredible idea.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
3 Feb 21
So sad to lose someone close, no matter the cause.
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@mom210 (8754)
• United States
5 Feb 21
@jaboUK yes, he will be so missed.
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@TheHorse (153102)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Feb 21
I'm glad she made it through. And that you were there for her as back-up.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
2 Feb 21
Thank you - I think me being there gave her the confidence to do it.
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@TheHorse (153102)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Feb 21
@jaboUK I would have to agree.
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@LadyDuck (386562)
• Switzerland
31 Jan 21
This is a nice story and I am glad you invited her to read her poem, it was the right moment and she felt she could at least try.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
Yes, when the moment came she felt up to doing it, and everyone was pleased about that.
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@LadyDuck (386562)
• Switzerland
31 Jan 21
@jaboUK I am sure that everyone appreciated to hear the poem from her.
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@msdivkar (23485)
• India
31 Jan 21
Very true. You know what you are capable of only when you try.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
We have more inside us than we realise.
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@msdivkar (23485)
• India
31 Jan 21
@jaboUK It takes somebody else to create awareness in you.
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@Hannihar (121035)
• Israel
31 Jan 21
@jaboUK Good for her. I bet it was very hard for her but she wanted to do it. That is what is important. You are right you never know you can do something until you try it.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
It was harder for her thinking about it than actually doing it. Once she started to speak she was fine.
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@Hannihar (121035)
• Israel
31 Jan 21
@jaboUK I am glad that she was able to do it.
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@rakski (103069)
• Philippines
31 Jan 21
It is much better that she tried. It is really worth it
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
What you say is quite true, she was really pleased that she'd been able to do it.
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@rakski (103069)
• Philippines
1 Feb 21
@jaboUK and it is most heart felt for sure plus I am sure her husband is very happy
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@RebeccasFarm (65740)
• United States
31 Jan 21
It was very good that you encouraged her Jabo a wise move. You are a kind lady. Bless
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
Thanks, it pleased me very much that she was able to do it.
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• United States
31 Jan 21
@jaboUK She was great to be able to.
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@marlina (143944)
• Canada
31 Jan 21
I am impressed by both of you!
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 21
That's sweet of you to say that, thank you
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@marlina (143944)
• Canada
31 Jan 21
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• United States
30 Jan 21
I think it's important to try even in distressing instances like this. I am sure he heart swelled with pride in herself for doing it. I'm sorry for her loss. Grief hits us all differently.
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@1creekgirl (31275)
• United States
30 Jan 21
I'm so glad Marisha was able to pay that final act of love for her husband.
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 21
It's something that she'll always remember.
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@1creekgirl (31275)
• United States
31 Jan 21
@jaboUK A very special memory for all of you.
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@sol_cee (31491)
• Philippines
7 Feb 21
That’s very heartwarming. I don’t know why I’m teary-eyed now. That’s crybaby me
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@jaboUK (64956)
• United Kingdom
8 Feb 21
It just shows that you have compassion