Coffee with no company...never mind..
@arunima25 (93194)
Bangalore, India
February 24, 2021 7:15am CST
Good evening from this side of the planet
It's 6:30 PM here and I am done with cooking dinner. We are going to have mushroom masala and chapati. I have some leftover brinjal fry from lunch time
Husband just came down in between his work and made coffee. He handed me a cup and took his upstairs back to his work...I don't drink coffee alone. I only drink it to give him company or to give company to someone else. So why the hell he offered me that when he had no time to spend together.
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Well, after 21 years of marriage, you can read the body language, sense what's going on in your spouse's mind and even listen to the unsaid
. Especially when you had a recent argument. Yes, we had one this afternoon after lunch.. Not a serious issue, but something around financial planning and we differed a bit there. He was adamant about something and I didn't agree with that. So, this offering me coffee without giving me company says loud a lot there
. Well, we will sort it out sooner or later.
And no worries, no better company than mylot
. After this coffee, I need to tidy up my work table, have dinner and then iron a huge pile there that I have collected in last three days
For the time being, it's coffee and mylot
It's 6:30 PM here and I am done with cooking dinner. We are going to have mushroom masala and chapati. I have some leftover brinjal fry from lunch time
Husband just came down in between his work and made coffee. He handed me a cup and took his upstairs back to his work...I don't drink coffee alone. I only drink it to give him company or to give company to someone else. So why the hell he offered me that when he had no time to spend together..
Well, after 21 years of marriage, you can read the body language, sense what's going on in your spouse's mind and even listen to the unsaid. Especially when you had a recent argument. Yes, we had one this afternoon after lunch.. Not a serious issue, but something around financial planning and we differed a bit there. He was adamant about something and I didn't agree with that. So, this offering me coffee without giving me company says loud a lot there. Well, we will sort it out sooner or later.
And no worries, no better company than mylot. After this coffee, I need to tidy up my work table, have dinner and then iron a huge pile there that I have collected in last three days
For the time being, it's coffee and mylot20 people like this
20 responses
@marlina (154103)
• Canada
20 Mar 21
@arunima25 , Good idea to have a good walk and talk
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
You are right. We have sorted out. The difference is still there but we planned to talk about it much later. We had a good walk after dinner and discussed other stuffs.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
@DianneN Me too. I don't like going to bed in angry and bad mood.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
Though we could not work out the difference, we have sorted out. We will talk about it much later as it's not a necessity now. For now we are good. Had a good walk together after dinner
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@anil02 (24688)
• India
25 Feb 21
@arunima25 Yes it wise decision. If we are not coincide on any issue than it is better to postponed it for some time.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
True. Well, we didn't sort the difference. But yes we went out for walk post dinner and we talked about other stuff. We plan to think more and not talk about the issue for a while.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
@anil02 It's not urgent. So we can postpone it for few months.
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@msdivkar (23356)
• India
7 Mar 21
Sorry I missed this post earlier. May be this came when I was away from mylot due to my illness. I found the post interesting. My daughter spotted me smiling while reading this post and asked me about it. I told her I am on mylot and we come across many laughing material. I smiled because I was thinking you are an ideal couple and normally does not engage in skirmishes. I found that what we call in Marathi (gharoghari maticyach chuli) or every household has got chullahs of mud only.
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@msdivkar (23356)
• India
8 Mar 21
@arunima25 I agree with you fully and there could not be hard feelings among couple and even if it is there it should not last beyond a day.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
7 Mar 21
We are imperfectly perfect. I guess that there is no such thing as the perfect couple. And such arguments are a must for a healthy relationship. Two people who are equals and strong-minded will have differences of opinions and arguments. But good thing is that we do not carry hard feelings later on.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
8 Mar 21
@msdivkar We make sure that we sort out things before bedtime. My grandfather always suggested that to couples. No one should retire to bed with anger or negative emotions. It effects our health.
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@rakski (156294)
• Philippines
24 Feb 21
@arunima25 oh nice! I was off to bed after coffee
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
@rakski Caffeine generally keeps you awake. Good to know that you could sleep after a cup of coffee.
Good to know that you could sleep after a cup of coffee.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
Cheers
. My coffee is over. I should be heading for chores
. My coffee is over. I should be heading for chores1 person likes this
@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
25 Feb 21
@arunima25
So you are not having coffee alone. You hare having it while doing My Lot. So enjoy the dinner and the ironing.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
Well, mylot is always there to give a company. And here we can share without feeling the fear to be judged. I have found a comfort here. Anyway we sorted things out before bedtime.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
Yes. Anyway we resolved it before bedtime. Actually we didn't come to any agreement. So we decided to leave it for few days and reconsider it.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
24 Feb 21
Hello! It's 9 Am here.
I think him offering you the coffee is part of a peace offering even if he isn't ready to make amends.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
24 Feb 21
@arunima25 I'm glad you will have it sorted out. I am like him as it can take me awhile to calm down. I always think I'm right.
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
I would say. It takes time for him to calm down. And he is man with few words. So definitely sorry is not there in his dictionary. We would sort it out before sleeping.
. We would sort it out before sleeping.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
We always do that. He has some office call going on. We either talk about it or we talk about something else. We will sort it before sleeping.
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@LadyDuck (502210)
• Italy
24 Feb 21
@arunima25 I am sure you will, it happens not to agree on something.
I am sure you will, it happens not to agree on something.
@Marilynda1225 (91044)
• United States
24 Feb 21
Hope things mend between you and your husband. Quarrels happen
I usually have my morning coffee with my daughter now that she's working from home and then my second cup with myLotters.
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@Marilynda1225 (91044)
• United States
24 Feb 21
@arunima25 hopefully you'll be able to come to an agreement when you decide to discuss it again. Glad you both enjoyed your walk and talked about other things
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
Today I enjoyed my coffee with mylotters. It was refreshing and actually helped me distract. We have sorted out things. We planned not to talk about it for some time. Went for our walk after dinner and chit chat about other stuff but not the issue.
We have sorted out things. We planned not to talk about it for some time. Went for our walk after dinner and chit chat about other stuff but not the issue.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
@Marilynda1225 We are still putting it to hold for few months. It's not urgent and we can postpone it for few months. We need to think over it and then discuss it again.
@JudyEv (381904)
• Rockingham, Australia
4 Mar 21
@arunima25 I suppose I give in on the small issues but I stand my ground if I believe strongly about something. Occasionally something will happen which makes the decision for you, or at least makes the decision easier.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
7 Mar 21
@JudyEv I too stand on my ground when I am sure that I am right.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
A relationship with no tiffs is no way healthy. Two equal and strong individuals are supposed to argue and disagree. Anyway we don't carry hard feelings later. We couldn't reach any agreement here. So, we decided to keep it aside for some time, think over it and then discuss with cool mind
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
You are right. Differences are out to be there in any healthy relationship where there are two equal and strong individuals. But there should be no hard feelings later. We always resolve things before bedtime. Here we didn't reach to any agreement and so decided to keep it aside for some time and think over it before we talk about it again.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
Coffee with mylotters was good. We always sort things out before bedtime so that no one goes to sleep with hard feelings.
. We always sort things out before bedtime so that no one goes to sleep with hard feelings.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
We always do it before bedtime. No one should sleep with hard feelings.
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@Nevena83 (66063)
• Serbia
9 Mar 21
@arunima25 You're right. Here is a saying: The bed solves all problems.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
24 Feb 21
I have always said it and that is activity is our best company Talking about arguments it took to our own . Yes. arguments are a part of life and without them life would be boring And "After the storm, comes the calm, after the calm comes the sunshine" So please wait for the sunshine.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
You are right. In 21 years of marriage and 27 years of knowing him, we both have been through such storm few times. Good that we resolve it soon and move ahead with no hard feelings.
@psanasangma (7910)
• India
25 Feb 21
As soon as I reached " 21 years of marriage", it makes me smile because I remember my parents how they always argue with each other and sometimes even point me and my siblings for no reason in the mid of their arguments. Their reason of argument is always about disagreement on plans with regards to budgets
Whenever we were home and overheard " what's now', and now, who is next to be name
Hope you had a wonderful coffee!!
Hope you had a wonderful coffee!!1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
Coffee with mylot..it was good. Disagreements are bound to happen in a healthy relationship where there are two equal and strong individuals. Good that we don't carry any hard feelings later.
I guess every marriage goes through phases as life goes through with age and stages of lifeSo in a marriage we grow together.
And marriage is always that motichoor laddoo...you eat it or don't eat it, you will have your share of guilt and remorse
..it was good. Disagreements are bound to happen in a healthy relationship where there are two equal and strong individuals. Good that we don't carry any hard feelings later.
I guess every marriage goes through phases as life goes through with age and stages of lifeSo in a marriage we grow together.
And marriage is always that motichoor laddoo...you eat it or don't eat it, you will have your share of guilt and remorse 
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
That sounds yummy. And you give me idea about my dinner tomorrow. Since lunch is already decided. I have bhindi and aloo there and so I can go for it
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 21
Hmm...that can be one interpretation. But other can be too angry to share my coffee time with you...have alone coffee to feel guilty
Anyway we tried to sort things later before bedtime. No hard feelings
Anyway we tried to sort things later before bedtime. No hard feelings
@freelancermariagrace (29342)
• Philippines
24 Feb 21
Arguments are the spice of relationships
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
We do get our share of spice every now and then. It's all sorted out.
. It's all sorted out.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
24 Feb 21
We should be able to resolve it before bedtime. We always do that