Question: 'What would you do if your friend is ill?'

@Shavkat (141906)

Philippines

April 21, 2021 12:38pm CST

A friend was asking me to visit him today. I am sorry that I need to refuse to do so. You might be thinking that I am a bad person. Let me explain my side, I did this because I cannot afford to get sick. Of course, he might be infected with a virus. Am I a bad friend? Image Credit: miro.medium.com

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@Laurakemunto (13787)

• Kenya

21 Apr 21

No. It's good to keep yourself safe and healthy first I hope your friend recuperates and get well soon.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I just took the liberty to say that I am busy for the day. I do not want to be so frank as to tell him my real reason not to come.

@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

21 Apr 21

You must take care of yourself. If this is a true friend, they will understand.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

You are very much right. If he is really my true friend, he will understand the current situation why it shouldn't be.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

23 Apr 21

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

22 Apr 21

@Shavkat Yes indeed.

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@kaylachan (84736)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

21 Apr 21

No. I don't think you are. Before COVID, I might've said differently, because of the fact that you could still work if you got sick. You could still provide for yourself and your family. Now, in the "new" normal, not only do you feel miserable if you get sick, but employers have to give you time off , but don't pay you for it. If you get sick, the first thing people think of, is COVID and refuse to think of anything else. You need to protect yourself now more than ever, and should be ashamed.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I also told him that we both are not vaccinated yet. Being persistent will not work for me due to this pandemic. In the end, he was able to understand my point.

@sjvg1976 (42727)

• Delhi, India

21 Apr 21

No.. you are fine. These days as coronavirus is spreading so fast so it's advisable not to visit anyone's home specially those who are not well/ill and I think if your friend is mature enough he will understand the same.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I am not sure if he is making a prank with this coming to visit him. Regardless, I am not going to give in to his request this time.

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@sjvg1976 (42727)

• Delhi, India

22 Apr 21

@Shavkat [/b][/i]this time?[i][b] Means you visited him previously when he was ill?

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

@sjvg1976 Before the pandemic, I do visit him anytime.

@DianneN (254949)

• United States

21 Apr 21

My friends and I won’t see each other. We don’t want to get ill either. I hope your friend understands.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

He knew the fact that I do not want to go out as much as possible since the lockdown. I was jokingly said that he needs to conceal his feelings about this matter. I will call a frontliner to come to visit him if he wants to.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

23 Apr 21

@DianneN (254949)

• United States

22 Apr 21

@Shavkat You are hilarious!

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@Shiva49 (28371)

• Singapore

21 Apr 21

It is better to be safe than sorry. He should understand that these are not normal times.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I agree. I hope he will not misunderstand me. It is better to keep safe than to be in a difficult situation.

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@prinzcy (32299)

• Malaysia

25 Apr 21

No, you're not. You have responsibility to protect yourself and your family. Your friend should know better.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

I agree. I need to protect myself and my immediate family not to be infected.

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@RebeccasFarm (91299)

• United States

21 Apr 21

No you are correct absolutely.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I do think that it was a good judgment not to come. I, myself is trying to be safe and this is not the right time to visit him.

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@DaddyEvil (174296)

• United States

21 Apr 21

OMG! You're a terrible person! What you need to do is call your friend, cough a little as he answers the phone and then tell him you have Covid but are on your way over to visit him.

If he's sick, he shouldn't have ask you to visit.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

That's a good idea. I will pretend that I am sick, too.

He doesn't make sense for asking me to come.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

@DaddyEvil He is just being weird today. I thought you are not going to have this shot.

My mom still does not want to have it. We are planning to have these shots next year.

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@DaddyEvil (174296)

• United States

22 Apr 21

@Shavkat Does your friend think he's dying? I might ask you to come visit me if I thought I was dying.

Pretty and I had our first vaccination shot for Covid yesterday. She has an upset stomach, headache and her arm hurts. I have been very tired but otherwise feel fine.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

22 Apr 21

By Rufo @Shavkat You are not a bad person or bad friend because you did not visit your sick friend. You have your reasons and it is called Corona. I do not blame you. I have a friend that was not feeling well and talked to her on the phone. Talking on the phone is just as good right now as to visiting in person. You are right you might catch something and then bring it home to your family and catching things right now is not safe. You need to be safe.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

He seems so weird to ask me to visit him. He is trying to persuade me but it did not work. You said it right with the idea of audio calling or video calling instead.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

@Hannihar He must be doing a prank to me. He is known to be a joker in the crowd.

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@Hannihar (130150)

• Israel

22 Apr 21

@Shavkat I am glad that I helped. He must be very lonely that he insists that you come visit and is not thinking clearly. I do not know him so do not know if that is true or not or if he is always like that not thinking of you and try and understand why you cannot visit him when he is sick.

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@Rashnag (30597)

• Surat, India

22 Apr 21

No dear you aren't. You are a logical person which we all need to be in the times we are in. Have a good day. Take care

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

For the current situation, we need to be logical in every move we do. I hope he will not have some grudges against me.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

@Rashnag I think he is fine now. There is no need to see him.

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@Rashnag (30597)

• Surat, India

22 Apr 21

@Shavkat True indeed. If he is sensible then he won't have. Take care

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@freelancermariagrace (29342)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

You aren't a bad friend at all. Just call him up to check.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I talk to him later this afternoon. He is doing fine now.

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@Belexhanns (3431)

• Kampala, Uganda

21 Apr 21

Its good to protect yourself but a real friend is always there for you,there are ways you can protect yourself even though you have visited your friend

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

On the other side of this situation, it is possible to visit him with a face mask and the like. Deep inside, I do not want to take the risk.

@arunahara (59)

•

22 Apr 21

No, it's okay and I think your friend might understand your situation. I hope your friend a quick recovery.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

23 Apr 21

As of today, he is fine now. There is no need to visit him.

@JudyEv (381905)

• Rockingham, Australia

22 Apr 21

No, you are not a bad friend. As you say, you can't afford to get sick.

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

He is a good of mine, but I cannot take the risk, too. That's the problem of having a Facebook messenger sometimes.

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@Lucky15 (37391)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

your reason for me is valid. sending your friend some wishes for the recovery will be great

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I am sure he will recuperate soon without my presence. Besides the point, I offered him that we can do video calling together instead.

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@db20747 (43419)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

22 Apr 21

You need to stay safe. Calling him is best for you both

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@Shavkat (141906)

• Philippines

22 Apr 21

I agree. I even offered him video calling will be fine as well.

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