My Ex-Husband Got Married Today
@Kouponkaren (5486)
United States
June 12, 2021 7:05pm CST
My ex-husband got married today to his long-time girlfriend of about 10 years. My grown kids went to the wedding and filled me in a bit, and put a photo on Facebook.
I am very happily married to my second husband so didn't think it would bother me, but it has more than I expected.
It might be that they got married on June 12th, and my wedding anniversary with him was June 11th, which was yesterday. It would have been 33 years, but I filed for divorce after 16 years. I secretly (jokingly) think he picked that date so he can basically remember their anniversary since it's so close to ours, especially since her birthday and my birthday are the same! That way he doesn't have to remember any new dates, ha ha!
I felt rejected by him and disliked by him for a long time in our marriage so the only thing I can think of is that it bothers me subconsciously because this is the final rejection?
What do you think? Have you ever had an ex that got remarried?
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@wolfgirl569 (95474)
• Marion, Ohio
13 Jun 21
It didnt bother me when my ex did. But I think he mostly did it hoping it would as she was a lot younger than me.
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@wolfgirl569 (95474)
• Marion, Ohio
13 Jun 21
@Kouponkaren It only lasted about 2 years. I think he just has a problem with young almost girl age women. He is in his 50s now and still tries to find those.
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@wolfgirl569 Wow, really? Younger is not always better. Does that mean his relationship with her was to spite you also? Are they still together?
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@wolfgirl569 I guess some men just bever grow up, and finding younger women makes them feel good about themselves?
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
13 Jun 21
I can imagine that it might be a struggle to contain emotions today.
It's only a final rejection if you were hoping to reunite. It's clear that you're happily married now with a person you love. It's just a milestone.
You may be onto something about the dates closely coinciding though lol.
I have been married for almost 36 years so I can't say how I'd react if I were in your shoes.
I can barely remember any of my ex partners lol.
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@Vikingswest1 Oh no, I have never wanted him back. In fact, we don't even talk anymore. Not that we can't...but our kids are grown now so we don't really have a need to. I guess maybe if he had ever apologized for the way he treated me when we were married, it would have helped. Or if he apologized for his part in my having a heart attack when we had a fight in the middle of going through our divorce. I mean if HE had had a heart attack right after a fight we had, I certainly would have at least said I was sorry for that happening.
@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@Kouponkaren
You're right. He should have put differences aside in your hour of need and took the time to check on you. It sounds as if you're in a much better place now. I would say his actions have never been in your best interest. You deserve a husband that still goes on date nights anyway ;)
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@Vikingswest1 Awww, that was very nice of you to say about the husband I deserve and I am glad I have the one I have now!
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
14 Jun 21
@sjvg1976 Well, now that the event and the weekend are all over, I am feeling a lot better. And I feel as though I can move on from it.
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@LadyDuck (458651)
• Switzerland
13 Jun 21
@Kouponkaren You are right, may be she picked the date, but I know I would have been annoyed.
@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@LadyDuck Thanks for your understanding. I really think he picked that date so he could remember it easier, but who knows, maybe she picked it.
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@Hannihar (129507)
• Israel
13 Jun 21
@Kouponkaren
I was married once and married the wrong person and we have been divorced for a very long long time now. I can understand how you felt when he got married on the day after the day that would have been your Anniversary. You can be happily married to someone else but things can still bother us about our ex's. I am glad you are happily married. I have no idea if my ex will remarry and if he does he will pick someone he hates just to spite all of his ex's . I am glad you found a good one the 2nd time around. The ex sounds like a horrible person and who knows if the marriage will last. Take care and enjoy your life with the right one.
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@Hannihar (129507)
• Israel
13 Jun 21
@Kouponkaren
He certainly was and is. I hope I never lay eyes on him again. You are welcome. I hope you have a good life with your second one. It sounds like you got a good one this time around. I am glad for you.
@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@Hannihar I am glad you are not with your ex anymore. He sounds like a pretty horrible person as well. Thank you, and I will enjoy this life now.
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@Rashnag I am okay now. I really think that it had something to do with our anniversary being the day before. I was bothered about it on Friday, but not so much yesterday, which was the actual wedding day.
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@kaylachan (57929)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Jun 21
No. And as much as you would love to convince yourself otherwise, it does secretly bother you. Like a final slap in the face, because of the relationship you once had. Despite the bad, leading to your devorice, you had to have good (otherwise marry him in the first place)?
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@kaylachan Yes, there was some good, many many years ago. But the bad piled up so high it's hard to even remember the good. "Slap in the face"...yeah. I guess because I am really happy in my current relationship, it never occurred to me that this would bother me.
@LeaPea2417 (36474)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Jun 21
I think it is like a final rejection type feeling. Luckily, my husband and I have only been married to each other and don't plan on divorcing. We have been married 33 years.
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
16 Jun 21
@LeaPea2417 Well, that's great. Congratulations. I have a much better marriage the second time around so that makes me happy.
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@marlina Well, good for you. I am very happy for you. That is the ultimate goal when everyone gets married...to live happily together for many years.
@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@JudyEv Thanks for understanding how I am feeling. It really was unexpected but I guess we can't help having the emotions we have.
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@a_jerobon (2304)
• Eldoret, Kenya
13 Jun 21
I think feeling a bit uncomfortable when your ex marries is normal. I have never experienced this exactly but I have had boyfriends move on to other relationships and it never feels good even if I have moved on. But it does not last long, you will feel better within a short time.
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@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@a_jerabon Thanks. I actually do feel better about it today. I think it had something to do with it being the day after our original wedding date.
@Kouponkaren (5486)
• United States
13 Jun 21
@miftha What? Really? Do you mean she has literally cut her throat? Or that it was a bad decision?
