Finding the right words
By Toni
@toniganzon (77064)
Philippines
September 1, 2021 9:32pm CST
I have been holding off sending someone a message. I have this proposal that in my mind might be a normal thing but might be offensive to the other person.
So i have been contemplating on what to say or whether I should tell him at all.
I’ve been thinking about these for two days already and still haven’t made up my mind.
It may be a foolish idea and he might not take me seriously but i really do want to do it for him. Now I’m just afraid of rejection and loosing a friend.
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15 responses
@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
2 Sep 21
I understand that. Sometimes you want to do this to someone but the other might take it negatively. But you will never know if you will not give it a try. Maybe before you tell him that, you emphasize that if he does not like, then all is well and good. Good luck to you!
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
2 Sep 21
Yes that’s part of the plan but I would still rather that he accept my offer.
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@rakski (156200)
• Philippines
2 Sep 21
@toniganzon And I hope he accept your offer. I am sure that you are offering that for a good intention because you are a good friend. A good friend will not offer something that can result to bad things
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
It’s more than just that. It wouldn’t be a dilemma if it were that easy. My offer is a financial offer and people don’t accept that quite easily. I mean not everybody. It could be seen as something offensive. @rakski
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@jobelbojel (36791)
• Philippines
2 Sep 21
That is a difficult decision to make. But hopefully you will find the guts to tell him.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
2 Sep 21
It’s either that or i won’t push through with it.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
So true. That’s why until now i am still trying to find those right words to say to him.
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@LadyDuck (502148)
• Italy
6 Sep 21
@toniganzon I understand that it is not easy, you need to take your time.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
@LadyDuck my proposal doesn’t have an expiration date anyway. So it can wait but i hope I might be able to do it before the year ends.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
3 Sep 21
I think you should go for it.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
I am not really quite sure now. I still find it hard to find the words to tell him.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
@moffittjc I’m sorry to break your heart but nope it’s not you. You’re not that old and you’re super healthy with all those sexercises so my proposal won’t work for you. But i can make another proposal if you wish. Another appetizer maybe? 
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 Sep 21
@toniganzon You can tell me anything without fear of rejection or loss of friendship. Oh wait, I'm not the guy you want to tell something to, am I?
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
2 Sep 21
Thank you Judy. I hope i find the perfecting time.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
My gut tells me i should tell him. I don’t want things to be awkward between us. My intentions are pure and good but I’m afraid he might see it differently.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
Yes i do. I’m not in a rush though and my offer has no expiration date. I guess i just have to find the right time to tell him. @CarolDM
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
6 Sep 21
@toniganzon We cannot control it all unfortunately, but you know this.
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
6 Sep 21
Maybe you could practice what you want to say with someone else Sometimes it helps to rehearse these things.
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@allen0187 (59648)
• Philippines
2 Sep 21
Speak now or forever hold your peace dear sister!
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@allen0187 (59648)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
@toniganzon you'll know when is the right time to do it.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
Great advice brother. Will wait a little more.
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
6 Sep 21
I am sorry you are having this time of hesitancy. I know you will realize the right thing to do. Let us know.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
7 Sep 21
Yes, I will let you know when that time comes.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
Exactly. Didn’t post this to ask people’s advice coz i know I’m the only one who can decide on that and nobody could. That’s exactly why i didn’t ask.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
no and if it was I’m pretty sure he’d turn me down for several reasons. One, he has had too many marriages that didn’t work in the past. Two, i can’t commit bigamy. Three, he’s thousand miles away from me.1 person likes this
@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
In my mind it’s a good idea. But not sure he might think the same way. I might trample on his pride and he might get offended.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
I know but i must tread softly. No rush. @just4him
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
6 Sep 21
@toniganzon You won't know that though unless you tell him what's on your mind.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
It’s something that shouldn’t be rush. It will come when I find the right words. It’s too sensitive of an issue.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
2 Sep 21
If it is important to you and you think that is the way to go you should.
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@toniganzon (77064)
• Philippines
6 Sep 21
It is important for me that i won’t offend him at all. I don’t want to ruin the friendship that we have now.
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