Bullying at school.
By marguicha
@marguicha (230349)
Chile
October 10, 2021 8:19am CST
Yesterday my youngest granddaughter had to be changed to another school. The girls of her class were bullying her.
What is confusing is that the leader used to be her only friend during the pandemia. While we were all in lockdown, the girls talked to each other every day through their tablet. Even the mothers invited the other girl for a day a the other´s house that included a pajama paety.
Sofía friend returned to school before she did. During some time it was not mandatory to take the children to school and Sofía (not vaccinated) stayed at home.
The other girl made other friends at school and when Sofía started to go bullying started.
From what Claudia told me the girls even cornered Sofía at the playground and spit her.
That´s when Claudia started to look for another school.
I still don´t know how this can happen. When I was a child there were always grownups checking the children and not only to see if there was bullying.
From the day before yesterday, Sofía is going to another school. It is a very special school, a Waldorf school, based on the ideas of Rudolf Steiner. I hope she is happy there.
Sofía has suffered several loses lately. And although she is a resilient child, they all leave a scar.
Today Claudia will come for a cup of coffee and will tell me the details.
See you. I have to get up.
That´s when Claudia started to look for another school.
I still don´t know how this can happen. When I was a child there were always grownups checking the children and not only to see if there was bullying.
From the day before yesterday, Sofía is going to another school. It is a very special school, a Waldorf school, based on the ideas of Rudolf Steiner. I hope she is happy there.
Sofía has suffered several loses lately. And although she is a resilient child, they all leave a scar.
Today Claudia will come for a cup of coffee and will tell me the details.
See you. I have to get up.11 people like this
13 responses
@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
10 Oct 21
There´s never a reason to be a bully. I remember that my classmates bullied me because I pronounced too well. But bullying then was not as terrible or violent as it is now. They mocked how I spoke. Now I think that they would have done better if they learned how I spoke then.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
@LadyDuck Everything now is more violent than in my days. Imagine girls 11 year of age spitting at another! I´m glad that Claudia did not let Sofía go to school any longer and got another school immediately.
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@LadyDuck (502573)
• Italy
11 Oct 21
@marguicha It was not a serious problem when we were in school. Some girls were more rude and bullied the others because how they were dressed or what they ate, but it was not a real problem.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
Claudia complained to the principal but also started to check a very different school for her.
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@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
11 Oct 21
@marguicha here in India it's tough to change the school in the middle of the session. I dont know what the situation there?
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
@sjvg1976 It was very difficult too. But Claudia did a great job and Sofía is a very nice and intelligent child.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
10 Oct 21
I agree. And those girls are 11 years old. I cannot accept them being so gross at to spit at a classmate. Not even monkeys do it.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
@vandana7 Sofía does not live in the US. And as for that, I think that the US has as much violence as my country.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
12 Oct 21
@TheHorse It seems that some girls started going to school again before the others (after lockdown) and they became best friends. The leader of this mob had been Sofía´s only friend for over a year. while they were at home. They communicated through their tablets and they were invited to each other´s houses once in a while. I don´t know what Izzy had to prove to the other girls. But they were very cruel. And there was no grownup there to put an end to this.
I don´t think that things get well if Claudia in this case only talks to the head of the school. Parents usually take the side of their children and that could be worse.
Claudia talked to Sofía and this new school, a Waldorf school, is a wonder in Sofía´s eyes. They have animals including a horse.
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@TheHorse (238330)
• Walnut Creek, California
11 Oct 21
@marguicha What did they bully her about? I wasn't bullied at school, but I was bullied "on the streets" because of my race/ethnicity. It was a pain in the butt.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
10 Oct 21
I know. That´s why Claudia decided to take Sofía to another school. The grownups were also at fault.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
@vandana7 It is a complex problem. But cleasrly the child should not have to be a victim of the solution too.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
11 Oct 21
Bullying is a big problem everywhere. Being a counselor, I often get to address such incidents in the school. It can be really traumatizing for the victim. I am glad that she has an understanding mother to take care of it. Some children don't feel accepted and don't share. That can be really bad.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
I´m glad that my daughter took Sofía to another school. A complaint to the school would not have been enough.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
11 Oct 21
@marguicha I know...a single complaint would not suffice. But it needed to be taken to the level that some action would be taken.
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@ptrikha_2 (49766)
• India
11 Oct 21
That is very bad and annoying.
Such things happen here as well.
Didn't the parents made a complaint with the teachers?
If the schools do not take any action in such cases, what are they doing?
This is a grave matter if one thinks seriously.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
I don´t know whether my daughter said why she was taking her child out of the school. And on thinking about it, it is a loss for the school as every parent has to pay for the child to be educated there.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
11 Oct 21
@marguicha I am not concerned about loss or gain of the school.
I am concerned about the psychology of the child or for that matter even adults who are abused. Having gone through abuse, I know what I am talking about.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
11 Oct 21
Thank you for suggestion. Very good post, and as usual I have some inputs on this.
I feel shifting the child elsewhere is not the right thing to do. That tells the child there is no remedy to the issue. The child will become timid, fearing which action of hers will lead to such behavior from others. As she grows older and into marriage, she might "learn" to "accept" physical abuse. Her self confidence will take a beating if parents don't support her at this point of time by getting bad behavior punished.
I am not ok with that.
Instead, parents should approach the school head, tell them of this, and ask them to isolate the child for a week or fortnight. Usually, bullies are folks who want others to appreciate them, and they feel like they are heroes when others in the group follow them. They may also be from homes where there is some abuse. Once the reality sinks, that it can be opposite too, they may change their behavior.
School teacher should also accompany the parents to the homes parents of the bullies and others who aped them. Explain that children are learning such things and need to be told this is not good, and can happen to them also.
My tuppence.
Pony the great is the best advisor of course. @TheHorse please help us.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
10 Oct 21
I hope she does. Children can be very cruel. But bullying has escalated lately.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
@vandana7 I don´t know if it helps for every child. But I do know it helps my granddaughter. You see, Sofía is not part of a study. She is a unique person and we who have lived with her all her life know what is best for her.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
There was no reason. Specially from her former best friend.
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@rakski (156496)
• Philippines
12 Oct 21
@marguicha true, sometimes they hust bully someone just because....
that is really sad 
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@RasmaSandra (98026)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Oct 21
That is terrible and I am glad she got into another school. I hope she will be happy there, I was such a shy child that if I had been bullied I would have refused to go to school every again. I go lucky never any bullying in my schools,
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
It is so sad I´m glad that Claudia took her to another school immediately.
I´m glad that Claudia took her to another school immediately.1 person likes this
@RasmaSandra (98026)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Oct 21
@marguicha I really hope she will be happy there
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
12 Oct 21
@RasmaSandra I´m sure she will. They have all sorts of animals including a horse to pet.
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@LindaOHio (222527)
• United States
11 Oct 21
How awful! The parents should be alerted. There is no excuse for bullying.
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@marguicha (230349)
• Chile
11 Oct 21
@vandana7 I am sure that schools are not doing their work respecting bullying. And that they are not checking bullies and what sort of homes they have.
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