Boom is the right word but sin

@vandana7 Mom had 4 siblings, Dad only one sister. No one is anymore alive now, but I have many cousins, we are friend, but we never meet, they live in another country and 3 hours driving from us.

I for one ..flee from relationships. LOL.

@aninditasen My father is flip flop. Kinda, sometimes he is very nice and caring, at other times impossible. 70 percent, difficult I would say.

@vandana7 That's because you have suffered a lot from relationships. We have good and bad in every family. I had a tough but caring father and a quiet mother who was at times tough. I had a honest and possessive husband. Sons are caring but a horrible daughter-in-law and her horrible parents. I hate some relatives and have a cordial relationship with some. Until my husband was alive no one dared to interfere in my life. But I have to be careful of some relatives who are good outwardly but are very scheming.

I have to agree there. :) I wish I was younger and less bitter and more trusting.

@vandana7 If you were all those things, would you still be the Vampire Queen?

@wolfgirl569 I ended it long ago. They still try to re-enter every now and then. That is annoying. Extremely annoying.

My father has had issues understanding rights and wrongs. He does not understand monies at all. So kinda, he is generous with it whether he has it, or whether it is my earnings...or my mother's inheritance. LOL. Ironically, he also has miserly tendencies...I don't understand him. He wants to give to others to get praises, that kind. My mother I hardly knew. My father kept me away from her from age 3 or so, since he wanted to divorce her. The family I am talking of, is extended one. They want me to care for them, they were never there when I lost my mom at five and half. The brief periods I was with them, they molested me, or were nasty with me because I was not trained normally since there was no lady at home, and my father is very difficult to get across to. But now, they want me to sprout love for them, so that they can inherit, and don't understand why blood is not thicker than water for me. It is not supposed to happen like this they feel, after all, in movies they show family is family..all obligations are mine, all goodies are theirs...yeah, my father maintained the family of his sister whose husband never worked, and gambled away everything, and his brother who never worked and was drunkard. These people physically abuse me for monies and don't understand why I cannot care for them, when they were never in picture for me.

@vandana7 I personally would just end all contact with them. You owe them nothing. You have already had more than enough trouble in your life. But only you can decide what will work the best

Some are really lucky. But why is it that we need to be like those some or behave like those some when rest of the conditions are not fulfilled? All conditions being the same, if we are not then we are wrong. Otherwise, we are not, I feel.

That too when it is an extended family. My father's sister's family and my father's brother's family. If they have not been in my life for 18 years except for a brief period after my mother's demise, when too the pedophile molested, how do you expect love to come. Is it a movie? Kabhie Khushi Khabhie Gham type? Jaya Bachchan in that instinctively knows when the guy is arriving. I have to instinctively feel for them despite their absence because blood is thicker than water. The rule incidentally is valid only for me because they want to inherit. LOL

@arunima25 I am not making efforts. I banned them. They keep on trying to gain entry. LOL Now that I have re-established myself, from almost scratch, and am unmarried, and they all need somebody to look after them, I am valued...kinda, for the honor of looking after us, we will oblige you by inheriting from you. LOL

@vandana7 I do not know how to react to that, I can not even say that I feel you. You have gone through a lot. Those people are not worth your efforts.

Long time no see...yeah ..doing better .. maid is sick ..so two days off... sigh. How are you doing?

Would it be ok to say I feel a tinge of envy?