Family Reunion and Uncle
@Positive333 (9)
Puerto Rico
January 22, 2022 11:36pm CST
So I want to get into it straight away, I was m0l3st3d by my uncle. I won't tell the details cause it haunts me, specifically yesterday on our family reunion.
I saw him and he always find a way to have any type of contact with me. A touch, a bump on the shoulder, a tap on my sneakers, anything!
I don't know if that is considered !nc3$t he is my aunt's (from the side of my family) husband. I've always wanted to confront him but I'm scared of what might happen.
Any advice on this situation?
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@Vikingswest1 (6305)
• United States
23 Jan 22
Years from now, you'll regret keeping silent.
Don't be afraid of what might happen, you did nothing wrong.
Go to your parents and tell. Go to your aunt and tell. Then go with your parents and aunt and confront your uncle.
It will be out and you won't have to carry that baggage with you for the rest of your life. Your uncle can suffer the consequences.
Talk to someone you can trust outside of your family too if you need to.
Do not let it fester inside of you. Hold your uncle accountable.
I wish you all the luck in the difficult task ahead.
Remember this... YOU did nothing wrong.
Oh. And welcome to MyLot.
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@MarieCoyle (29404)
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23 Jan 22
I am tired of molesters getting away with this. Don't be afraid to tell on him. He is at a family reunion, and i am sure there are children there he doesn't need to be around. It's bad enough you have to see him. Is there a family member you can confide in, to possibly see if he has done this to someone else? If you were to have children, would you feel safe if he was around them? Don't let it go. It won't be fun. But you don't want it to happen to anyone else, either. I am so, so sorry this happened to you.
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@Positive333 (9)
• Puerto Rico
23 Jan 22
Thank you for your kind words. This happened to me when I was 9, now I'm 30 years of age. Yes I'm no kid, I thought I would never see him again, it's very difficult on how I can break it down since this happened years ago, my family won't believe or they will accuse me of being dramatic or imaginative. I've always been "the black sheep" of the family that's why I Don't attend family reunions, I am only went cause my grandparents are fading away from this life, it was their 60 anniversary as a couple, so I had to fake I was glad to be there.
I will try the letter method, wish me luck.
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@MarieCoyle (29404)
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23 Jan 22
@Positive333
I truly wish you the best with this.
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It won't be good if you remain silent about it. You need to tell it to anyone whom you consider to be closed. You need to restrict him otherwise he may not stop what he is doing with you at present.
@soymex (1097)
• Glasgow, Scotland
23 Jan 22
Face-to-face discussion is the best method!
Welcome to myLot @Positive333
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@stewartclint (205)
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23 Jan 22
Chances are you are not his only victim, and his most recentt would not be the last. Speaking up will help put an end to that and help others to stand up as well. This is a painful chapter in your life, I hear you. But thinking a little of others may also help you.
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@jstory07 (135066)
• Roseburg, Oregon
23 Jan 22
Have a talk to your Uncle about what you are feeling.
@Kouponkaren (5495)
• United States
24 Jan 22
Maybe you could share what happened to you with a friend or someone special that you can trust. Then go with that person and confront him as to what he did, how it affected you, and in confronting him, you will no longer allow his actions to hurt you. Or if it's hoo hard for you to confront him personally, you could write him a letter and let all your feelings out and be done with him. Avoid him afterward. I am so sorry this has happened to you.
