I'm Feeling Silly
By YoghurtGal
@flapiz (22403)
United Kingdom
February 10, 2022 9:55am CST
I was so excited to prepare for our early valentines dinner when I got this text from my boyfriend. I now feel so silly for putting in so much effort when the other person seem to be conflicted about me.
Here's what it says:
I know that I am acting a little off towards you. I'm not doing it intentionally, I'm just struggling to find that spark/connection between us. It hasn't quite seemed the same between us the last few weeks we've spent together. There are some massive differences in our lifestyles and I think they have shown a little more recently. I love you Floraine but I'm not quite sure where my head is....I'm trying to work out if it's me that's the problem or us x
I don't understand how someone can say they love me and yet sound like they are breaking up with me. Part of me wants to just pack my bags and fly back to Guernsey but the mature part of me want to have a proper conversation when he gets back from work. I really feel so gutted by this and I'm dreading our conversation later. Does this mean he's breaking up with me?
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11 responses
@LadyDuck (458091)
• Switzerland
10 Feb 22
I feel so sorry, allow me to say that this man sounds immature.
If he had something to discuss, he had to wait to be with you, sit down and discuss his problems, his sentiments, the reasons why he feels that there is something he misses. Sending a text message is just WRONG!
Wait for him and discuss this matter.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 22
Yeah I know I feel like it's quite inconsiderate considering I only texted him to ask him what he fancies for dinner. Now I don't know what to do. I'm just going to Uber it as my heart don't feel like cooking and I was having difficulty of breathing as I was showering. I seem to be having anxiety attack.
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@Fleura (29129)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 22
It does sound rather as if he feels it isn't working for him. It is possible to love someone and yet feel as if they are not the right 'match' for you, for whatever reason. I'm sorry to say this but it doesn't sound good. But whatever happens, just try and keep your dignity and self-respect. Maybe he really isn't the right one for you.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 22
I know I'm trying to save my self respect and be really mature about it. But he really chose the wrong timing. Now I'm miserable half way to valentines preparation and not even sure I'm in the right mindset to cook. He could've told me the past couple of weeks then.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 22
Oh dear.
I think he rather doubts he will have a future with you
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 22
@JimBo452020 I see I think the Covid brought out the bad in the both of us. And yes I do agree with you about spark and connection. It is something that can't be manufactured or bought.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 22
Does look like it. But he says he loves me? I don't know if we can work it out. I'm waiting for him to come home so we could have a proper conversation. Although part of me just wanted to leave and not say anything. I feel like the relationship has potential but I guess it was one sided of me. He could at least elaborate what differences he meant.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 22
@flapiz
I think it has potential
To be a disaster.
I can't mince my words.
I sort of saw troubles ahead when you posted about the relationship before.
If he can't find a spark/connection with you now
He never will
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@askme123 (6150)
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12 Feb 22
Yes he is trying to break up with you gently.I posted a lengthy response to you in an earlier post because I didnot see this post as yet.I know you are hurting but don't worry.As women most of us has experience brokenheart before.
Make sure the next person you fall in love with is mature and ready to settle down.
