Mending A Broken Heart

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@askme123 (6150)
March 22, 2022 12:43pm CST
Today I have a new approach to life when it comes to relationships. I will not malice the people that have done me wrong. I have forgiven my significant other for cheating on me and breaking my heart. I think I have matured greatly in the last two years. Things that use to bother me are so insignificant now. Why have I taken this new approach to life? The reason is life is too short to be wasting my time and energy worry about the bad things that people have done to me. I have come to the realization that you cannot change people,you can only change yourself. If people donot appreciate the good you have done for them it is their loss.Just move on you cannot force someone to love you. I realize when I worry less my blood pressure is normal and I am not stress out. How to mend a broken heart is to focus on taking care and improving yourself.Eat healthy, exercise and do your regular check ups.Your healing depends on you
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22 Mar 22
That's good. Live and let live.. better things will come your way.
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
I agree.I stop worry about it
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22 Mar 22
@askme123 Cool..
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22 Mar 22
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@LadyDuck (460469)
• Switzerland
23 Mar 22
So true, we cannot change people and starting a relationship thinking "I will be able to change him/her" is totally wrong.
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@LadyDuck (460469)
• Switzerland
24 Mar 22
@askme123 You are right, you cannot change a cheater, cheaters will always be cheaters.
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@askme123 (6150)
24 Mar 22
@LadyDuck Would you be able to forgive your husband if he cheated on you?
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@askme123 (6150)
24 Mar 22
Yes that is true. He was like my bestfriend but he betrayed that trust. We were not on speaking terms.I think if he was able to do this ,he can do it again so I will not let my guard down.Once a cheater always a cheater as the saying goes.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Apr 22
To heal the misery is love itself . I mend my broken heart by dancing and swimming in deep sea. I'm a deep sea swimmer.
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@askme123 (6150)
6 Apr 22
Ok that is very good. I am not a great swimmer. I can only swim in the shallow pool. I am afraid of the deep sea.
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@askme123 (6150)
16 Apr 22
@cacay1 I have avoided beaches and crowded social events due to the pandemic. I have not been to the beach for about 4 years now.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Apr 22
@askme123 that's also okay swimming in the shallow pool.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
8 Apr 22
That's the best thing you can do for yourself. It's very freeing!
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@askme123 (6150)
9 Apr 22
Oh yes it is.It gives me peace of mind.I stop putting men on pedestal and worrying about them. I am concentrating on me and taking care of myself.
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@askme123 (6150)
9 Apr 22
@DianneN Yes I would love to be treated as a queen. However some men are very lazy. They rather lie in bed and be on their computer while you have to stress out over all the house work and cooking.
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@DianneN (247216)
• United States
9 Apr 22
@askme123 Yay! Men should put you on a pedestal anyway
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@kobesbuddy (75137)
• East Tawas, Michigan
22 Mar 22
Your attitudes are great, even though someone has broken your heart. I went through this in the 1970s, the pain has finally gone away and I'm free to love again:)
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
I am still on the mends. The pain from a broken heart is something you can never forget. I am happy you got over it. I now put God first in my life now.
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
@kobesbuddy I was in a similar situation.Then I got the shock of my life.A little girl who just leave school.In her early twenties was tearing my relationship apart .My husband had lost his mind.
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@kobesbuddy (75137)
• East Tawas, Michigan
22 Mar 22
@askme123 Bruce was the center of my life for twelve years. For ten years, I thought my marriage was secure, but it wasn't. Were we fighting? Nope.
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@MarieCoyle (29529)
25 Mar 22
This is a hard lesson, to forgive him for cheating. Been there, done that. It truly does hurt terribly at the time. One of the hardest things ever sometimes is to forgive. I try to not look back. As the saying goes and I say it often, don't look back, you're not going that way. You are growing and learning, sometimes that hurts. But you do have a wonderful attitude, good for you.
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@askme123 (6150)
27 Mar 22
Thank you.To be quite honest it still hurts but I try to forget it.
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@askme123 (6150)
29 Mar 22
@MarieCoyle I agree.That is exactly what I am going through.
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@MarieCoyle (29529)
27 Mar 22
@askme123 it will hurt for a long time. People just can't turn their hearts on and off. But that's ok. Every day is a new chance to forget a little bit more.
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• Jamaica
5 Oct 22
You go girl!!! So proud of you. For me I use my studies, my job, my wonderful husband to be, my beloved daughter and my precious granddaughter. My time is so full I have no time to think of the hurts and rejection that were meted out. I just enjoy life and the beautiful lives God has surrounded me with. Kudos to you madam. You will be alright.
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@askme123 (6150)
5 Oct 22
Thank you
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Mar 22
You have certainly grown wise my friend. Glad you are feeling better about things. Your title made me think it was going to be about that very sad song, How can you mend a broken heart, Bee Geeshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpZuAtwDfag
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Mar 22
@askme123 good for you.
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@askme123 (6150)
23 Mar 22
@bunnybon7 Yes I am happy that I was able to get over it. It happen to me in 2018. I am just getting over it. Can you imagine!
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
Well I am not sad anymore.My heart is on the mends.I am in a better state both emotionally and spiritually.
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@jobelbojel (34730)
• Philippines
2 Apr 22
Great attitude. Being mature is what it takes to understand the situation and make a sound decision.
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@askme123 (6150)
2 Apr 22
Yes it is a hard reality to accept. I realize that most men cannot stick to one woman.They love to spread their wings so to speak. Not many men can remain loyal even when they have a good woman.
@1creekgirl (40650)
• United States
22 Mar 22
Those are such wise words. I'm sorry your heart was broken, but with your outlook, you'll do well in this life.
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
Thank you. I hope I will get the loving that I deserve.
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@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
27 Mar 22
I'm sorry that he cheated on you. And I admire how you're dealing with it. It would take me a long time to forgive if it happened to me
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@askme123 (6150)
27 Mar 22
Yes it took me a long time too. It happened from in 2018.
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Apr 22
That's the spirit, you are right, we should only try to change ourselves inordt to be happy. I also learnt alot this past few years keep being positive life is all about positivity.
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@askme123 (6150)
25 Apr 22
Yes having positive thoughts help to make life less stressful. Words such as where there is a will there is a a way. Teaches us that whatever difficult situation we face we will can overcome.
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Mar 22
I also learned this important lesson. Life is too short for bitterness. Glad to read this.
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
Thank you.It was a painful lesson to learn. But I survived.
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@askme123 (6150)
23 Mar 22
@CarolDM Thank you
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@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Mar 22
@askme123 We all have been through those lessons. Glad you survived.
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@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 22
If someone hurts you, don't get too close to someone like that. because people like that are toxic to you. Keep doing good with people like that, but only naturally. I'm afraid that if you continue to be nice to him, you will be taken advantage of. What you said is correct. It all depends on each individual. Have a nice day, be healthy always and don't forget to smile :))
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@askme123 (6150)
27 Mar 22
You are right. I had a conversation with one of my male cousin and he was basically telling me that most men cheat. Some of them do it for real while some just do it in their minds. Do you believe this statement?
@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
22 Mar 22
Nice post - it doesn't mean you are condoning bad behaviour or allowing others to take advantage of you. Forgiveness can benefit you by releasing the bitterness that can do more harm to the person who has already been hurt. You might enjoy this article - gives some great suggestions on this very important topic. It even has a section on How To Forgive, which I think is really helpful - never thought of a "how to' on this issue!
https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/what-is-forgiveness/
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
Thank you. I will certainly read it. Thank you for the advice
@Kandae11 (53782)
22 Mar 22
You are so right. When you feel good about yourself and your health you could face the world with a smile.
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@askme123 (6150)
22 Mar 22
Yes there is so much more to enjoy in life.I was just focusing on the wrong things.
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