How do you feel when you meet with strangers?

@dya80dya (33510)
October 14, 2022 10:51am CST
My mom's work colleague wants to meet me. My mom told her about my problems (panic attacks and depression). Now I am anxious because she wants to meet me as soon as possible. I am very anxious when I meet with strangers. I am shy and this woman insists a lot. She can make me feel even worse. I don't know if I should meet her.
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@moffittjc (118433)
• Gainesville, Florida
14 Oct 22
Why does your mom’s co-worker want to meet you, and why is your mom so insistent on it? She should respect the fact that you have anxiety.
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@marlina (154166)
• Canada
15 Oct 22
Yes, I agree.
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@moffittjc (118433)
• Gainesville, Florida
15 Oct 22
@dya80dya Help you what? Get over your anxiety? Help you find a job? Help you fall in love with somebody? haha
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
She wants to help me as soon as possible.
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@sickly09 (861)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 22
It's normal but also not normal, I Guess....... I myself don't really like meeting strangers, It makes me try to be friendly, And I don't really like being friendly to strangers, draining.
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
I think it's draining. This anxiety made me very sensitive. After interacting with strangers I feel exhausted.
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@Treborika (17259)
• Mombasa, Kenya
19 Oct 22
You are very right. Some people are not destined to be friendly to others. So I would advise don't force yourself to doing things that you can't stand. Just call a spade and not a big spoon
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@sickly09 (861)
• Indonesia
19 Oct 22
@dya80dya same here.
@celticeagle (159002)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Oct 22
How you are feeling is normal. Meeting new people is good for you. I was diagnosed with major depression with panic attacks back in about 2005. It is no fun. But, unless you reach out you may never get any better. It is a decision you have to make for yourself. Slow and steady is always a good plan.
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@celticeagle (159002)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Oct 22
@dya80dya ......... I do have them but they aren't as bad. I have learned some techniques I use and they help or I have medication I can take if things get real bad. Maybe your doctor can prescribe some for you. I take 25 mg. of Hydroxyzine. It does the trick.
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
I decided to do this a few months ago. I met my aunt and her husband. It was awful. They put so much pressure on me. I wanted to call an ambulance. I had three or four panic attacks there. How do you feel now? Do you still have panic attacks?
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@Treborika (17259)
• Mombasa, Kenya
19 Oct 22
Quite impressive and good advice here
@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
14 Oct 22
Why would your mom put you in a stressful situation like that?
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
She wants to help me. But she puts so much pressure on me.
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@manandez (24)
• Petropolis, Brazil
14 Oct 22
I don't know the degree of friendship your mother has with her work colleague and why she wants to meet you so much. Anyway, if there isn't a good reason for her to meet you, why is she insisting? If you feel uncomfortable, tel your mother and, respectfully, makes her understand how you feel about this situation. No one can be forced to "meet" someone just to "meet". Can you understando the situation? I myself am a very introspective person, but when I am out, and this is very seldom, I tend to be nice and talk a little to people which are introduced to me, but in a normal situation. I would never put myself in a place where I would feel such a disconfort. Hope all goes well with you and you can figure out what is best for you! Wish you a lovely day!
@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
Thank you. She wants to help me. But she puts too much pressure on me.
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• Petropolis, Brazil
15 Oct 22
@dya80dya, pressure is never good as things should be done calmly. I do hope you can figure out how to manage it with your mother and her friend. Have a wonderful day!
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
@manandez Thank you. You too!
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15 Oct 22
I usually feel nervous when meeting new people, especially if I'm not sure how they will react to me. I often try to gauge a person's reactions and feelings before approaching them so that I can be sure to have a positive interaction. In general, though, I am friendly and outgoing, so I usually don't have too much trouble meeting new people.
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
Good for you. I am the opposite. I am friendly after knowing a person for many months. I think anyone is nervous when meeting new people.
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@kaylachan (57630)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
14 Oct 22
Sometimes you need to push through the anxiety and you might learn something new.
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@kaylachan (57630)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Oct 22
@dya80dya No one can force you.
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
I will think about it. This woman wanted to meet me today. She puts a lot of pressure on me. I am already exhausted.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
14 Oct 22
I look at it as 'going to see another therapist to help with my brain.'
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
This woman is not a therapist. I can understand that she wants to help me. But she doesn't have any patience.
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@RebeccasFarm (86757)
• United States
14 Oct 22
Yes I understand..it may stress you to meet this person. I am not sure if it is good for you.
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
I think it's not good because she insists a lot. She doesn't understand my limits.
@askme123 (6150)
14 Oct 22
You mom should have gotten your permission before she told her friend.Her friend is not a doctor.I know how anxious you feel . Why didnt she just give your mother some advice as to what to do?
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@askme123 (6150)
15 Oct 22
@dya80dya If it gets too much for you. Tell your mom how uncomfortable you feel. Whatever advice this coworker intended to give let her impart the knowledge to your mom.You don't have to see this stranger. Your mom will then pass on the treatment to you.
@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
It is true. Her friend doesn't know how to help and she insists too much. I am not sure if I can handle this.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Oct 22
Don't meet her she better be the one to meet you in your home with your family to assist you. It's not good to meet strangers.
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@mysimplelot (1347)
• Calcutta, India
15 Oct 22
Same here. But if it is for good you can meet her. Sometimes Strangers may pose some threats also. So firts try to do your own research.
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@dya80dya (33510)
16 Oct 22
I am not sure. She is not a dangerous person. But I don't know her at all. She works with my mom.
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@MarieCoyle (28461)
14 Oct 22
You have talked about your extreme depression and anxiety. Maybe this could be a stair step in getting you the help you need. Yes, it might make you very anxious. But if there is even a chance this person could help you, if it were me I would take that chance. Evidently your mom is reaching out to find help for you. The only reason I am saying what I said is from reading your posts, you just stay home all the time and don't interact with others. In order to live fully, you need to get help with your issues. I hope you try it.
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@dya80dya (33510)
15 Oct 22
I tried meeting new people in the past. They made me so anxious because they put too much pressure on me.
@Inplay123 (119)
• Nairobi, Kenya
25 Oct 22
Truth be told, no one feels comfortable around strangers, but as the friendship grows the weird feeling just fades away. Maybe mommy wants you to meet her colleague because she trusts that she can help you out of panic attacks and depression.
@porwest (78761)
• United States
19 Oct 22
I used to be more nervous around new people, but these days I just go with the flow. I am confident in who I am and feel no need to impress anyone or even have them like me. If they don't like me I really don't care. I am just going to be me and that's it, and don't feel any need to be anxious or otherwise nervous. I am just a person and they are just a person, we all put our pants on the same way... So, it does not matter.
@Treborika (17259)
• Mombasa, Kenya
19 Oct 22
I am that kind of a person can easily get along with anyone that comes on my way. So I don't have any problem in meeting with strangers.