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A leftist woman hitching her star to a MAGA conservative... Been having issues with the BF and his temper. When he gets angry, he doesn't give people the benefit of the doubt, and he blasts off even if you haven't done anything wrong. Usually at me. He seems to know pretty well that if he let loose on the kids, that would be it. Don't make me choose between you and the kids. And I've been in counseling for other things, but as those things resolved (step mom's health issues, son's legal issues, ultra micro managing boss), he ended up being practically the only thing I have had to talk about. Positives, he does work around the house and yard, he was there all through the boy's legal problems even when his own father wasn't, and he was there when I broke my ankle. Negatives, temper, passive aggressive behavior, totally different interests from me. and a sex issue that wouldn't be a problem if it weren't for all the other stuff. Last May, we had a situation where he was really grumpy on a day when we were going to go see my family. And I was so annoyed, and didn't want him to ruin the day for me like he did Christmas. But instead of being grumpy with him, I checked myself and asked him if he was OK. So he said he was OK, and I went and asked him if he was up to going and socializing, because he seemed kind of off. He said he was OK again and then, "you should have gone with me yesterday". Turns out he was mad I hadn't gone to a car club event with him that was memorializing someone who had died. Well, I didn't know the person or any of his family, and Tony didn't say he did either. Also, I had tickets for a show with some girlfriends. So I said, you didn't ask me to (he goes to LOTS of car events without me), and he says do I need to? And I said yes, and he said OK. Crisis averted, handled diplomatically, ended up being a pleasant day. But as I told my counselor, I REALLY resented having to tippy toe around him like that, after what was really several years of unpleasant blow ups. Examples: I helped him refi his car, and he blew up at me because the bank said we had to put my name on the title. When the daughter's BF moved in, he told me he didn't like it, but it was my decision, and then when I said yes he blew up at me. Or Christmas when he moped around like a baby after I didn't buy him a $300 speaker that he had showed me once back in November. And don't even ask me about the big blowup over the twins' birthday party that he didn't want to go to because my ex was going to be there. So anyway, I'm feeling like although there are positives, maybe this isn't the person for me, and that is when a certain conservative, Marine, who had helped my son find a job after his charges were dropped, starts flirting right at the point in time when I was already questioning my relationship. And I'm trying to work through the issues in my own way and in my own time and give the BF a chance to shape up, or at least know that I'm having issues. And Mr. Marine, who 3 months ago told me he wasn't a homewrecker, today really pretty much asked me to break up with the BF. OMG. And I had kind of already wondered if that was the direction I was going. I really like this person. He has qualities that the BF doesn't have that would be better for me communications wise. And attraction is off the charts. But are we going to get along with the political polarization in this country. And I feel like a total shyt. How was that for a long, crazy ramble...