Is it just me..
By solxee
@sol_cee (38223)
Philippines
November 4, 2022 6:06pm CST
who doesn’t like attending parties anymore? I’m no recluse whatsoever. I like having fun. I’m a Gemini for God’s sake. We like our table talks. Our chitchats about nothing. The exchanging pleasantries, shooting the breeze. But recently, I just don’t have the desire to go to anywhere.
It’s my brother’s birthday and we are supposed to be there for his birthday dinner. I want to be there but I don’t feel like going there. I’d rather be in the house, mind the store, myLot. But I’m running out of excuses. I didn’t go to his daughter’s birthday a month ago but I had a legit reason for that. I wasn’t feeling well and I was afraid to spread the virus to the little ones and to my senior citizen mom so I skipped the party. And now, another dilemma. I still have ten hours to think.
What would you do?
Photo is of my favorite little guy.
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18 responses
@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Nov 22
@Beestring 
it's not a good excuse for sol cee. She must attend to make her family happy.
it's not a good excuse for sol cee. She must attend to make her family happy.1 person likes this
@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
4 Nov 22
Some times it is just the thought of going but once you get there you will have a good time. I get like that but I will make myself go. I agree with Carol. Life is too short, go out, have fun snd make some wonderful memories with your brother. Happy birthday to him.
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@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
5 Nov 22
Pretty and I haven't been to parties in, probably, five or six years. I just don't feel like going anymore. (Pretty is agoraphobic and has never wanted to go to them.) Most of our family have stopped asking us to go to their parties.
One sister and one brother still call and invite us. I still turn them down. I quit giving "excuses" and just started telling them we just don't want to go. Let them deal with me being mildly rude if that's the only thing they can understand.
I still talk to friends via texts or calls, if I can't avoid them. 
And, of course, I still have my myLot family to visit with.... OH! And you, of course. 
And, of course, I still have my myLot family to visit with.... OH! And you, of course. 2 people like this
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
5 Nov 22
@sol_cee I say, "I'm sorry, but we don't feel like attending this party. Happy birthday (or whatever the occasion happens to be.)" If they want to be upset about it, then that's their problem. My family and friends aren't allowed to run my life any more than I'm allowed to force them to do things they don't want to do.
A real adult family or friend will accept that with good grace. Anyone that still tries to force us to attend by wheedling or trying to guilt me into attending isn't an adult and I feel free to simply tell them to grow up and be an adult.
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@RasmaSandra (73408)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Nov 22
I would just be honest about how I felt and I am sure your brother will understand. It is never a good idea to push yourself into a situation you do not want to be in.
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@Beestring (13315)
• Hong Kong
5 Nov 22
I would tell my brother honestly I'm not in a mood for parties. But I'll buy him a birthday gift.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Nov 22
@Beestring your bro surely feels happy.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
8 Nov 22
Well, I am a very introverted person so I really do not want to go to parties as well. Even at our company parties, I am just forced to attend because it is required but if I have a valid reason not to attend, I would choose that one.
I think these lockdowns and the pandemic have changed our perspective on life. We were forced to just stay with our families and enjoy our time with them. Now that we are slowly opening up and lessening restrictions, we are somehow still skeptical about going out of our places and feeling safe.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
8 Nov 22
@sol_cee I hear they wanted to do face to face Christmas Party already since we had two years doing online parties which are kind of boring to them already. I admit I am not fond of attending but I have to attend since I will be handling the finance portion of it so I need to be there to monitor everything that concerns money. 
@allknowing (130066)
• India
5 Nov 22
I do not attend parties any more but I throw a party for the poor kids and seniors Christmas time and that I have to attend.
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@kaylachan (57630)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Nov 22
Some people just get less social. Nothing wrong with that. Be honest.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Nov 22
@kaylachan, I also denied the invitation from my boss to attend the year end Christmas party on December 3.I feel do not like to attend.
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@brokenbee (11090)
• Philippines
7 Nov 22
I am not comfortable going to parties... Even if there are lots of foods, I feel that I am not satisfied with what I eat... LOL Even parties at home. I usually don't mingle with the visitors. I just go out of my room when they are gone.
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@moffittjc (118435)
• Gainesville, Florida
8 Nov 22
I’d buy a t-shirt with the saying that is in your photo, wear it to the party, and show up an hour late. Then eat all their food and leave. Haha
Just kidding!
Hey, I’m a Gemini too. When’s your birthday?
@abe2547 (96)
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19 Nov 22
I think your reasons are valid especially when it comes to spreading viruses , very risky for kids
