Is it just me..

@sol_cee (39040)

Philippines

November 4, 2022 6:06pm CST

or does anyone else not enjoy attending parties as much as they used to? I'm not a recluse or anything. I like having fun. I'm a Gemini, for God's sake. We enjoy conversations, random chitchats, exchanging stories, and just shooting the breeze. But lately, I've noticed that I just don't have much desire to go anywhere. It's my brother's birthday, and we're supposed to attend his birthday dinner tonight. The thing is, I want to be there... But at the same time, I don't feel like going. I'd honestly rather stay home, mind the store, browse myLot, and enjoy the peace and quiet. The problem is that I'm running out of excuses. I missed my niece's birthday party a month ago, but at least I had a legitimate reason. I wasn't feeling well, and I didn't want to risk passing a virus to the kids or to my senior-citizen mom. This time, I don't really have an excuse. Just a lack of enthusiasm. And now I'm torn. Part of me says, "Stay home and recharge." The other part says, "It's your brother's birthday. Just show up, eat some cake, and be present." Thankfully, I still have about ten hours to decide.

What would you do in my situation? Do you ever want to support the people you love but also feel completely drained by the idea of socializing? Photo above is of my favorite little guy.

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@Happy2BeMe (99353)

• Canada

5 Nov 22

Some times it is just the thought of going but once you get there you will have a good time. I get like that but I will make myself go. I agree with Carol. Life is too short, go out, have fun snd make some wonderful memories with your brother. Happy birthday to him.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

6 Nov 22

I didn’t go but I talked to my brother and told him my condition

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@Happy2BeMe (99353)

• Canada

7 Nov 22

@sol_cee That is good then,

@Neil43 (4549)

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5 Nov 22

You could probably pretend that you are sick. Anyways, a lot of people are getting sick this season. I am still sick by the way.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

6 Nov 22

Oh no, I’m afraid of lying about one’s health

@DaddyEvil (176555)

• United States

5 Nov 22

Pretty and I haven't been to parties in, probably, five or six years. I just don't feel like going anymore. (Pretty is agoraphobic and has never wanted to go to them.) Most of our family have stopped asking us to go to their parties. One sister and one brother still call and invite us. I still turn them down. I quit giving "excuses" and just started telling them we just don't want to go. Let them deal with me being mildly rude if that's the only thing they can understand. I still talk to friends via texts or calls, if I can't avoid them.

And, of course, I still have my myLot family to visit with.... OH! And you, of course.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

5 Nov 22

How do you say no without hurting their feelings?

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@DaddyEvil (176555)

• United States

6 Nov 22

@sol_cee I say, "I'm sorry, but we don't feel like attending this party. Happy birthday (or whatever the occasion happens to be.)" If they want to be upset about it, then that's their problem. My family and friends aren't allowed to run my life any more than I'm allowed to force them to do things they don't want to do. A real adult family or friend will accept that with good grace. Anyone that still tries to force us to attend by wheedling or trying to guilt me into attending isn't an adult and I feel free to simply tell them to grow up and be an adult.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

6 Nov 22

@DaddyEvil thank you for the wisdom

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@thelme55 (79821)

• Germany

5 Nov 22

I know that feeling. I can’t just say, no I don’t like to go. Sometimes, I just go and think about the yummy food that would be served.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

5 Nov 22

Maybe it’s just for us Filipinos. That feeling of not being able to say no easily huhu

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

6 Nov 22

@thelme55 really? I always think people from other countries have no trouble telling what they feel regardless while Filipinos are more emotionally forward

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@thelme55 (79821)

• Germany

6 Nov 22

@sol_cee I don’t think it is only for Filipinos.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Nov 22

I wish I had the chance to see my brother again. I would go for that reason. You never know what tomorrow holds. Happy Birthday to him. And I don't like attending parties any more either.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

5 Nov 22

I’m sorry to hear about your brother

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

6 Nov 22

@sol_cee Thank you. My entire family actually. But I have memories.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

you always make me

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@MrDenata (12954)

• Indonesia

6 Nov 22

Me too, i'm not into party but if i have to attend ones (mostly it was part of the job) i dont mind at all, just come and out after several minutes

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

I know your type lolll

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

11 Nov 22

@MrDenata do I?

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@MrDenata (12954)

• Indonesia

11 Nov 22

@sol_cee you do?

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@rsa101 (41555)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

Well, I am a very introverted person so I really do not want to go to parties as well. Even at our company parties, I am just forced to attend because it is required but if I have a valid reason not to attend, I would choose that one. I think these lockdowns and the pandemic have changed our perspective on life. We were forced to just stay with our families and enjoy our time with them. Now that we are slowly opening up and lessening restrictions, we are somehow still skeptical about going out of our places and feeling safe.

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@rsa101 (41555)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

@sol_cee I hear they wanted to do face to face Christmas Party already since we had two years doing online parties which are kind of boring to them already. I admit I am not fond of attending but I have to attend since I will be handling the finance portion of it so I need to be there to monitor everything that concerns money.

@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

Speaking of parties, will you have a Christmas party this year?

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@allknowing (153526)

• India

6 Nov 22

I do not attend parties any more but I throw a party for the poor kids and seniors Christmas time and that I have to attend.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

6 Nov 22

Yes that party which you are preparing as early as now

@kaylachan (85853)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

5 Nov 22

Some people just get less social. Nothing wrong with that. Be honest.

@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

6 Nov 22

I was too tired to go even though I wanted to. Had a lot of errands which drained me too much

@LadyDuck (506380)

• Italy

5 Nov 22

I loved to go out but I do not like anymore. At least I can blame my old age for this. I do not invent excuses, I clearly say to people that I prefer to stay at home.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

5 Nov 22

I didn’t go. I was too tired to go anyway

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@LadyDuck (506380)

• Italy

6 Nov 22

@sol_cee - After a while you cannot invent new excuses, better to let them know that we do not go because we do not feel to go.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

@LadyDuck you’re absolutely right

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@RasmaSandra (99580)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

5 Nov 22

I would just be honest about how I felt and I am sure your brother will understand. It is never a good idea to push yourself into a situation you do not want to be in.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

5 Nov 22

I didn’t go. I was too tired to go anyway

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@JudyEv (385478)

• Rockingham, Australia

5 Nov 22

I suppose I'd bite the bullet and go. Otherwise, you might have to live with the guilt if you're one of those who have a well-developed conscience!

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

5 Nov 22

Haha I was too tired to go. I went shopping for my store and after that I had to organize everything. By the time I was finished, I was done lol

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@brokenbee (11949)

• Philippines

7 Nov 22

I am not comfortable going to parties... Even if there are lots of foods, I feel that I am not satisfied with what I eat... LOL Even parties at home. I usually don't mingle with the visitors. I just go out of my room when they are gone.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

Really? Don’t they look for you?

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@brokenbee (11949)

• Philippines

8 Nov 22

@sol_cee They look for me everytime... I don't care anymore... LOL

@Beestring (15372)

• Hong Kong

5 Nov 22

I would tell my brother honestly I'm not in a mood for parties. But I'll buy him a birthday gift.

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@sol_cee (39040)

• Philippines

5 Nov 22

Oh gifts are awesome! But in my family, we don’t give gifts

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@much2say (57760)

• Los Angeles, California

19 Nov 22

We have not gathered with people mostly because of covid. But that has been fine with me. We have found ways to at least visit people . . . but we just haven't had "parties" or "get togethers".

@moffittjc (129446)

• Gainesville, Florida

8 Nov 22

I’d buy a t-shirt with the saying that is in your photo, wear it to the party, and show up an hour late. Then eat all their food and leave. Haha Just kidding! Hey, I’m a Gemini too. When’s your birthday?

Gino M. Dela Cruz

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19 Nov 22

I think your reasons are valid especially when it comes to spreading viruses , very risky for kids