My neighbor got catfished

@NJChicaa (110754)
United States
November 28, 2022 7:59pm CST
I think that is the term. I haven't been on the dating scene in literally 20 years so I could be wrong. Anyway she had been chatting with some guy who lives a few towns over for a couple of weeks. She was really excited about meeting him and said that they had a good connection. She told me that, if it didn't work out, then she was just going to give up on having a relationship. She is younger than I am so her stance didn't make sense but I was just supportive. She was so nervous on Saturday which was the day of their first in-person date. She had a manicure and pedicure. She got stuff waxed. *ouch* She bought expensive Chanel slides to wear. I took Whiskey puppy in, told her to have a good time, and said I'd put the pup back in his crate in her apartment when I was going to bed. I texted her yesterday to see how it went and she said not well. She said his pictures were not current and filtered. My understanding is that is what "catfishing" is: putting highly altered/old images out there as if they were taken yesterday. She was upset that he wasn't fit. She said they kissed and she found it gross. You get the idea. I'm disappointed for her because she was pinning all of her hopes on this guy as being her new man. Personally I would never do that but I am not her. Catfishing is apparently a common thing which must make online dating a total hell. Like why show heavily filtered or years old pictures of yourself when you eventually are going to have to meet someone in person? They are going to be shocked, possibly horrified, and definitely less trusting. I'd love to go out with someone just for a drink, appetizers, and laughs. I'd never represent myself as anything other than I am. People are going to see you in person without a filter eventually.
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@DaddyEvil (112350)
• United States
29 Nov
I saw a short video of a guy being asked if he'd ever been catfished. He said he was catfished all the time and to prove it, he asked a woman walking past if she had an Instagram account. When she said she did, he asked if she's mind showing him her avatar there. She said she didn't mind and showed him a photo of a young, slim girl. The woman wasn't slim anymore and was easily 15 years older than in the photo she showed him. At least I tell people the avatar I use on myLot is based on a photo taken of me when I was 25 years old. (I've also showed people pictures of how I currently look when asked in a regular conversation. I'm also not looking to date anyone on myLot, either. )
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@arunima25 (78754)
• Bangalore, India
29 Nov
Sorry about your neighbour friends. It definitely hurts when one is so hopeful. I am not sure about the term catfishing. But that does sound wrong. It's actually cheating with a fake picture.
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@popciclecold (31150)
• United States
29 Nov
Gee, too bad for her, I heard about catfishing on the news today, didn't what know what it meant. It is bad.
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@NJChicaa (110754)
• United States
29 Nov
Like I just don't get the filters that Instagram and other things offer. You can blur all of the wrinkles out all you want but if someone sees you in person they are going to be like what the hell? That filter Kari Lake was using in interviews was absurd. She was all blurry to obscure her wrinkles.
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• United States
29 Nov
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@LindaOHio (114177)
• United States
29 Nov
People do it all the time. Have you ever watched the TV program "Catfish"? I feel so sorry for her; but she should have never pinned all her hopes on this one unknown guy.
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@sarik1 (5975)
29 Nov
Sorry to hear about news.
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• Indonesia
29 Nov
Being honest and being yourself is always good in the end. Agree with you @NJChicaa (109821)
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@dodo19 (46674)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Nov
I'm sorry to hear that she found herself in this situation. I don't really understand why people do this, but that's just me.
@LadyDuck (426407)
• Switzerland
29 Nov
Oh no! This is too bad, I feel sorry for her. I never trust those who post photos to date online, most of them are retouched or VERY old.
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@JESSY3236 (17354)
• United States
29 Nov
I would never do that either.
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@solidcodes (1519)
• Philippines
29 Nov
and the photo of the cat fish?
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@NanaMc (655)
29 Nov
I am so glad I am married, have been for 37 years and no longer have to worry about all that mess. If I were a young girl I would probably try to avoid the entire online dating scene because of the amount of this kind of deception. I understand wanting to look good, but when you have somoene expecting one thing and portraying something else, then that is just plain ridiculous!