Do you think people are "basically the same" from place to place? Or do they vary by region?

@TheHorse (207664)
Walnut Creek, California
March 6, 2023 11:09am CST
There' a part of me that believes people are basically the same everywhere. At a deep level, I think we all have the same needs: for love, meaning, comfort, etc. But I have also noticed regional differences in areas I'm sensitive to. In Montana, I feel safe. Even though many people up there have guns, I do not worry I will be mugged on an average day up there. People also seem to be basically "honest," though I could be naive, as I only spend a week or two a year up there these days. In Iowa, it was similar. Fewer guns, perhaps, but people were generally honest. In Santa Barbara, where I spent six years in Graduate School, people were quite beauty-orinted. Even many of the street people were "good looking." But I never worked a job there where I sensed a lack of honesty or integrity. Here in the San Francisco Bay Area, my experience has been different. People are more "Machiavellian" than anywhere else I've lived, including Chicago. Not most, but a greater PERCENTAGE than anywhere else I've lived. When I worked in Oakland, Ms Horse and I donated closes to the mother-and-child rehab program where I worked. I later saw those clothes not on the backs of the poor children I worked with, but on the Director's children. At my previous residence my live-in landlord accused Ms Horse and myself of "stealing her bassoon." Ms Horse and I looked at each other, confused. The bassoonist landlord found it moments later behind her BMW, where she had misplaced it while taking her groceries in. Some musicians here often "throw each other under the bus," in almost Trumpian fashion, when other musicians have "better connections." One cocaine-addicted preschool teacher I worked with was abusive to the children at said preschool, but did house-sitting at managers' places so she had their favor and would not get fired. I have seen different pay scales, based on race and ethnicity. The "intellectual hippy love dove" Bay Area of my early childhood days is long gone. It could be because I've lived here for a long time now, and have had more of a chance to see the "dark underbelly" of the Bay Area. But I hope you can see why I'm thinking of moving on. In what ways do you think people are "basically the same"? And in what ways do you think they differ by region? Or upbringing? Or twists of fate? Or anything else you can think of? I must be feeling better or I couldn't have written this tome.
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@JudyEv (327039)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Mar 23
We have 'good' and 'bad' suburbs here. I'd like to be able to say country people are more honest but I'm not really sure that that is correct.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar 23
It seems to be true here. Maybe it's because "everybody knows everybody."
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar 23
What differentiates the "good" from the "bad" suburbs?
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@JudyEv (327039)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Mar 23
@TheHorse Just the amount of crime. Low socio-economic suburbs don't have good reputations.
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@Plethos (13560)
• United States
6 Mar 23
i agree with @LouAvul , its mostly a suburban, urban and rural difference.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar 23
But there's a lot of variability within areas too.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar 23
@Plethos Can you elaborate? I guess I'm thinking "statistically" today, for whatever reason. There are good, weird, and bad people everywhere. But my experience in Northern California has been...odd.
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@Plethos (13560)
• United States
6 Mar 23
@TheHorse - of course, but the importance of things are different.
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@LadyDuck (460784)
• Switzerland
7 Mar 23
People are not the same, there are a first difference between those who live in the big cities and those who live in small communities where everybody knows the others. then there are cultural differences, different habits, different believes. Those "more primitive" are also more real. The "civilized" people always wear a mask. They have to look quiet, happy, not annoyed by the others. Very few feel free enough to show their real face.
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@LadyDuck (460784)
• Switzerland
8 Mar 23
@TheHorse I agree the urban/rural differences are important.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
8 Mar 23
@LadyDuck I'm sure all sorts of "demographic" variables are relevant.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
8 Mar 23
The urban/rural differences are pretty big.
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@xander6464 (40960)
• Wapello, Iowa
6 Mar 23
I've never really thought about it but now that you mention it, I don't really see much difference between people here and elsewhere. Like when I lived in Philadelphia, everything just seemed magnified. More good people, more bad people, more in-between people. Maybe I should move to San Fransisco for a few years to see if I notice the same things you do.
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@xander6464 (40960)
• Wapello, Iowa
7 Mar 23
@TheHorse Understood. I bet they still have good clam chowder there. But replacing the windows on my truck would be a pain. ---------------I hope they still have good clam chowder. I'll be disappointed if they don't. Are the broken windows a guarantee if you go down there?
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@xander6464 (40960)
• Wapello, Iowa
6 Mar 23
@TheHorse But you still have Fisherman's Wharf. I love having lunch there.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar 23
@xander6464 Understood. I bet they still have good clam chowder there. But replacing the windows on my truck would be a pain.
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@Fleura (29288)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar 23
Yes people are 'basically the same' in many ways, and yet of course there are a lot of cultural differences. I think of this more in a historic context. If we visit a Roman or bronze age site for example, I am always struck by how similar people's lives were to our own, in spite of the huge differences in technology etc. And yet of course there are also huge differences over time and place.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar 23
Yeppers. When I read Plato, I realize that the "Ancient Greeks" were asking a lot of the same questions we ask today.
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@Fleura (29288)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar 23
@TheHorse And do you know what the really stupid thing is? They are asking the same questions but then ignoring the answers just like people did all those thousands of years ago.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
6 Mar 23
@Fleura Maybe they have no answers.
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• Eugene, Oregon
7 Mar 23
I think that there are huge regional differences, political, educational, religious beliefs too.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
Have any examples stood out to you? I don't wanna put you on the spot, though.
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• Eugene, Oregon
7 Mar 23
@TheHorse I think that people in the deep south are quite different, evidenced by the red state status. There are variations, parts of Georgia are even blue. Parts of that area are far more religious than people on the west coast and northeast too.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
@JamesHxstatic It brings up the interesting question of What does it mean to be religious? But yes, I catch your drift.
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@celticeagle (160216)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Mar 23
I think that there is good in everyone. It is the experiences we have that make us who we are. Something breaks in some that make them hateful and mean. I want to trust and find good in everyone. It is not always there. I used to go out and socialize but I don't anymore. People aren't as good as they used to be and I just don't trust them like I used to. When I do find goodness I am so happy.
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@celticeagle (160216)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Mar 23
@TheHorse .........That's very true. Sometimes you really have to look hard to find some good and, even then is it real?
@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
I have tried to live my life finding the good in everyone. But some people are too damaged NOT to try and take advantage of others.
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@much2say (53940)
• Los Angeles, California
7 Mar 23
I could go on and on about this topic. Perhaps the core of human beings are the same . . . about being a good person and trying to live happily. But outwardly not all are going to be the same. There are lots of factors that make everyone different . . . including culture and maybe even religion, politics, economics, generation (to add to your list). In a region, there may be a general common attitude amongst people in since they all coexist . . . and they may be known for that attitude . . . though of course not everyone is that way. I've lived in L.A. all my life. Here there is a mish mash of attitudes . . . regional and other differences everywhere. For me it's a feeling of folks not ever getting on the same page to feel like a community that works as a team. My world feels soooo divided.
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@much2say (53940)
• Los Angeles, California
8 Mar 23
@TheHorse I get that and like to think I get along with all sorts of people too. But sadly I don't necessarily feel the "warmth" in the same way. There are judgey people everywhere and they base things on what they think they know about certain groups instead of getting to know individuals. I've never lived anywhere else. But in general, I feel like honesty/integrity has gone downhill, at least here anyway. And from what everyone is saying, it seems it's like that all around the world to some degree.
@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
I try to create my own community, and get along with people of many different religious, ethnicities, educational levels, etc. But I've never seen so much outright exploitation as in this place, the Bay Area. I've visited LA several times, but I've never lived there.
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@wolfgirl569 (96693)
• Marion, Ohio
7 Mar 23
I think it mostly depends on the area. Rural usually feels safer.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
It does to me too.
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@RasmaSandra (74245)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
6 Mar 23
I have not been among people except for my friends below me and I hardly even see them that I am not sure about anything. I can say that the people in our neighborhood in Latvia were always very friendly and nice and even if you had not met someone you could easily get along with them and eventually call them friend.
@JESSY3236 (19101)
• United States
7 Mar 23
Everyone has a brain, blood, etc. Yes places are different. Like the north and the south.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
Urban and rurral stands out to me. And, alas, rich and poor.
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@Shiva49 (26254)
• Singapore
7 Mar 23
Circumstances make us behave in different ways too though I stick to my basics like honesty, hard work, sincerity of purpose, etc. It is also said, we are not the same person every ten years or so. We can be affected by the vicissitudes of life to change our outlook on life. I have lived in a few countries for an extended period of time. I have found the culture and history of countries leave their mark on them. Citi folks are more materialistic with less time in their hands for interactions with each other. They are more migratory by nature. And then politics is taboo in some countries and people in those countries are not comfortable talking to others.
@LindaOHio (159080)
• United States
7 Mar 23
Glad you are feeling better. You're going to find differences in inner-city to suburban people and suburban to rural. Cultural differences are also evident. Peer pressure also plays a part.
@Adie04 (17360)
7 Mar 23
I think they are all humans But maybe, mindset, perceptions, are different based of places, cultural beliefs and so on.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
All contribute, I reckon. Because of my training, I tend to focus on the early years. I disagree with much of Freud, but I do believe the earliest years are important for development.
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@TheHorse (207664)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Mar 23
@Adie04 Which? "that's the important part of early years though"
@Adie04 (17360)
7 Mar 23
@TheHorse I believe that's the important part of early years though
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