The Dilemma

@YrNemo (20370)
March 19, 2023 1:37am CST
If you had a staff member who wanted to leave the company after causing a lot of disruptions to the team, and that specific person then asked you to be her referee, what would you do? -warn the new potential boss of the danger (and risk being stuck with that member until whenever), or -give a wonderful recommendation (a lie, but you ended up saving your team). At the end of the day, hiring a new staff based on recommendations of strangers is a real risky business isn't it.
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@DaddyEvil (118286)
• United States
19 Mar
I would tell them I couldn't give an honest recommendation but they were welcome to quit before I had to fire them. As a matter of fact, I did tell a person that once. They chose to quit.
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@YrNemo (20370)
19 Mar
for private company, guess you can fire staff. If it is for government coorperation, everything links to contract and everything becomes complicated.
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@DaddyEvil (118286)
• United States
19 Mar
@YrNemo I don't know. I've never worked under contract.
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@florelway (22608)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Mar
In my organisation I don't get to choose my staff because the head of the agency just assign them to my office. But I did one big blow to the head when I told him that the person is more of a liability than an asset and I don't want to spend and waste time training her.
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@YrNemo (20370)
20 Mar
Good on you.
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@florelway (22608)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Mar
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@shaggin (68199)
• United States
19 Mar
Yikes I really don’t know what I would do. I would want to be fully honest but would feel bad at the same time.
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@Shavkat (130517)
• Philippines
19 Mar
If I were her boss, I will not give her a recommendation letter.
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@YrNemo (20370)
19 Mar
but you would be stuck with her! As it is, I think one of my new colleagues's previous company was so relieved to say goodbye to her, that they did whatever it took just to see her gone. (She didn't like her former colleagues either, so it was mutual.)
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@LadyDuck (428176)
• Switzerland
19 Mar
I would tell them that I do not feel comfortable writing a recommendation, go ask to someone else.
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@YrNemo (20370)
19 Mar
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@wolfgirl569 (73066)
• Marion, Ohio
19 Mar
What DE said
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@allknowing (114743)
• India
20 Mar
If I was fully aware of the wrong doings and then I am asked to give a recommendation I would never be able to do it.
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@sjvg1976 (40150)
• Delhi, India
19 Mar
It's a tough situation to decide but I will choose the second option.
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@jstory07 (127030)
• Roseburg, Oregon
19 Mar
You have to decide what is best for you to do. I would not do it.
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@YrNemo (20370)
19 Mar
but you would have that staff with you forever. (Unless that staff memeber really really wanted to leave...)
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@rakski (107043)
• Philippines
19 Mar
Maybe you should be honest with all the people concern
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@sol_cee (36796)
• Philippines
19 Mar
Referee? I think blackmailer loll
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• Philippines
19 Mar
It sounds like she will be bouncing around (as you said the other company was relieved to get rid of her) until there's nowhere for her to transfer to and/or she decides to leave the whole organization or retire early.
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@coldplay8 (1976)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
21 Mar
sometims teambe wrong too. you cqn give a letter but if you're convinced she deserves it at least 1%.
@queenerr (137)
• Kisumu, Kenya
19 Mar
that is a very difficult choise to make but i recommend you choose what is best for you
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@quantum2020 (12042)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
21 Mar
I simply would not give a recommendation. That person would have to start a new job without my recommendation
@just4him (273131)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Mar
I wouldn't give a reference for a person who caused trouble.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
20 Mar
I would recommend a wonderful recommendation.