The Dilemma / myLot

@YrNemo (20370)

March 19, 2023 1:37am CST

If you had a staff member who wanted to leave the company after causing a lot of disruptions to the team, and that specific person then asked you to be her referee, what would you do? -warn the new potential boss of the danger (and risk being stuck with that member until whenever), or -give a wonderful recommendation (a lie, but you ended up saving your team). At the end of the day, hiring a new staff based on recommendations of strangers is a real risky business isn't it.

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@DaddyEvil (118286)

• United States

19 Mar

I would tell them I couldn't give an honest recommendation but they were welcome to quit before I had to fire them. As a matter of fact, I did tell a person that once. They chose to quit.

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Darcy Nemo

@YrNemo (20370)

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19 Mar

for private company, guess you can fire staff. If it is for government coorperation, everything links to contract and everything becomes complicated.

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@DaddyEvil (118286)

• United States

19 Mar

@YrNemo I don't know. I've never worked under contract.

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relcap23

@florelway (22608)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Mar

In my organisation I don't get to choose my staff because the head of the agency just assign them to my office. But I did one big blow to the head when I told him that the person is more of a liability than an asset and I don't want to spend and waste time training her.

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Darcy Nemo

@YrNemo (20370)

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20 Mar

Good on you

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relcap23

@florelway (22608)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

20 Mar

@YrNemo

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ShannyBananny

@shaggin (68199)

• United States

19 Mar

Yikes I really don’t know what I would do. I would want to be fully honest but would feel bad at the same time.

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Shavkat

@Shavkat (130517)

• Philippines

19 Mar

If I were her boss, I will not give her a recommendation letter.

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Darcy Nemo

@YrNemo (20370)

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19 Mar

but you would be stuck with her! As it is, I think one of my new colleagues's previous company was so relieved to say goodbye to her, that they did whatever it took just to see her gone. (She didn't like her former colleagues either, so it was mutual.)

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Anna

@LadyDuck (428176)

• Switzerland

19 Mar

I would tell them that I do not feel comfortable writing a recommendation, go ask to someone else.

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Darcy Nemo

@YrNemo (20370)

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19 Mar

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (73066)

• Marion, Ohio

19 Mar

What DE said

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Always smiling

@allknowing (114743)

• India

20 Mar

If I was fully aware of the wrong doings and then I am asked to give a recommendation I would never be able to do it.

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Sanjeev

@sjvg1976 (40150)

• Delhi, India

19 Mar

It's a tough situation to decide but I will choose the second option.

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (127030)

• Roseburg, Oregon

19 Mar

You have to decide what is best for you to do. I would not do it.

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Darcy Nemo

@YrNemo (20370)

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19 Mar

but you would have that staff with you forever.

(Unless that staff memeber really really wanted to leave...)

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rakski

@rakski (107043)

• Philippines

19 Mar

Maybe you should be honest with all the people concern

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solcee

@sol_cee (36796)

• Philippines

19 Mar

Referee? I think blackmailer loll

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MerryBelle

@merrybelle2021 (1312)

• Philippines

19 Mar

It sounds like she will be bouncing around (as you said the other company was relieved to get rid of her) until there's nowhere for her to transfer to and/or she decides to leave the whole organization or retire early.

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