first impressions

First impressions

@Jenaisle (16568)

Philippines

April 26, 2023 4:37am CST

Do you believe that first impressions last? For me, it does not happen all the time. But most of the time, I can quite judge a person's character through first impressions. Not his/her appearance but through his/her actions and statements. I don't judge by appearances, because I believe that you cannot judge a book by its cover. What about you?

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@rakski (156478)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

No. they always tell me I look strict and formal. But of course when they get to know me, they realize it is the opposite

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

Why do I see myself in you? That's what they tell me too.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

@rakski Yup, really! I tend to not smile during the first meetings in my college classes when I was still working so that they will be scared of me. But later on, they would learn I was not really strict.

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@rakski (156478)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

really??

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@TheHorse (238306)

• Walnut Creek, California

29 Apr 23

First impressions matter. But they're not always based on looks.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

I agree, I base mine on actions and words not on looks

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

@TheHorse That's an unpleasant experience. Then, he must be a good actor to be able to give that impression for long. But truth will always reveal itself in the end. As they say: "Truth prevails." I'm glad you discovered his true character in the end.

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@TheHorse (238306)

• Walnut Creek, California

29 Apr 23

@Jenaisle Even so, first impressions can be wrong. I worked with a musician who pretended to be honest, compassionate, a friend to the poor, etc. As I got to know him, I grew a bit wary. In the end, he turned out to be a Donald Trump-level exploiter of others. He claims to be a "Liberal," and a "good person," but he is not.

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@shaggin (74987)

• United States

29 Apr 23

I always give really bad first impressions. I am a very awkward person.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

So, you're like a mystery that has to be unraveled

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@averygirl72 (38848)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

I don't believe. First impressions are just impressions you need to get to know the person well before making a final judgement

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

It's good you make the final judgment after all the facts.

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@RebeccasFarm (91297)

• United States

26 Apr 23

Well usually they are correct for me I find.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

27 Apr 23

For me too. Give me five, my friend.

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@RebeccasFarm (91297)

• United States

27 Apr 23

@Jenaisle Smash

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@LadyDuck (502466)

• Italy

26 Apr 23

I do not believe that first impressions last. Many times I noticed how people can be different once you know them. I had a very bad first impression of my husband and other people told me the same. He gains to be known.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

I see. That's true. Even if you have lived with someone, there are still things you don't truly know about them.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

27 Apr 23

@LadyDuck That's good.

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@LadyDuck (502466)

• Italy

27 Apr 23

@Jenaisle - I learnt to know him almost immediately, as I worked with/for him. Anyway my first impression was not positive. I thought he was picky and arrogant, it is true that he is picky, but he is a sweet man.

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@m_audrey6788 (58468)

• Germany

26 Apr 23

No. I don`t believe in that saying because I believe more in the saying ``You can`t judge a person by its looks`` I can`t even say that I know the person when that person is a stranger

People change and can change. So why must I tell that the person is like that when I don`t know the reasons? And base on my experience, there are people who sometimes have different intentions than what they are suppose to be doing. I`d rather ask and know more first before I can tell who they really are

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

What you say is true. I like what you said that people change because one of the constant things in this world is change. It's good to know more about the person before passing any judgment. I'm a little bit rash, at times. I know I shouldn't be, but that's me.

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@snowy22315 (208913)

• United States

26 Apr 23

Sometimes it is hard not to judge by impressions. There is a reason they call it first judgments.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

Indeed, it often sticks to one's mind, especially if the first impression was bad.

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@allknowing (153530)

• India

27 Apr 23

I need time to know a person

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

27 Apr 23

That's a good reaction - no rash judgments.

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@Letranknight2015 (52665)

• Philippines

28 Apr 23

It's kinda dangerous to judge but many people do it and gossip among others who are just as ignorant as the other.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

Yes, judgment is dangerous with little knowledge,

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@Marilynda1225 (91086)

• United States

26 Apr 23

I also go by peoples actions and not looks. Looks can be deceiving.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

Yes, they can be. I often seen that happen.

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@aureliah (24687)

• Kenya

26 Apr 23

Yes I do believe this narrative. Cant forget the first time I met someone

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

Same here. The first time always leaves an impression.

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@pitsipeahie (5758)

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27 Apr 23

First impression seems to last in the sense that we tend to remember that first thing more about the person or experience and we hold on to it. But impressions definitely changes over time once we get to know more about the person and proved that our thoughts are not true after all. But there are times too when that encounter is already the first and the last and we do not have the chance anymore to correct a bad impression.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

27 Apr 23

Indeed. first impressions may progress that way. You have an enlightening insight. thank you.

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@jiwonnie (443)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

I don't believe in that saying because personally, I'm the type of person who has a resting mean face. The people I'm friends with now thought I was standoffish but thankfully, they tried to get to know me better and knew the real me.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

That's good. So, your real friends truly know who you are.

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@innertalks (23740)

• Australia

29 Apr 23

If you are like me, and if a negative, non-loving person walks past me, I get a cool feeling going up my spine, like a shiver, so you can tell by feeling what type of a person is, inwardly, like that. I know to be wary of them, or to stay clear of them, then.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

@innertalks That's understandable. It's good you trust people, but I'm a bit wary of strangers.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

29 Apr 23

That's a great "skill' that you have. I don't have the same experience but my gut feeling is often not wrong. It's not the person's appearance but the way he behaves or the content of his statements.

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@innertalks (23740)

• Australia

29 Apr 23

@Jenaisle It happens with bad types, but sometimes I do not get any feeling, and I give the person the benefit of the doubt. When I have done this, usually the person will live up to what I felt that they would do. Sometimes, there is a delay, in their doing what was expected of them to do, but then, in the end, all usually ends up ok. I tend to trust people, if I do not get a bad feeling about them.

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@LindaOHio (222302)

• United States

30 Apr 23

I have found that many people disguise who they really are. It's only when the situation is serious does the true person comes out. This is not in ALL cases; but just my personal experience.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

30 Apr 23

This is true, Sometimes, I experienced this. In fact, even if you have lived with someone, you can never tell their true colors unless you have encountered serious situations.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

1 May 23

@LindaOHio AWESOME! that's quite a long time. Congratulations!

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@LindaOHio (222302)

• United States

1 May 23

@Jenaisle I am lucky that I have a good man who has been married to me for 53 years this October.

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@sarik1 (7816)

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26 Apr 23

No ,i do not believe.

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@Jenaisle (16568)

• Philippines

26 Apr 23

I see. Do you have any experience with wrong first impressions?

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@sarik1 (7816)

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28 Apr 23

@Jenaisle No dear.

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