Today is a sad day for me
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (52199)
Staten Island, New York
May 10, 2023 1:07pm CST
It was on this day last year that my dad passed away. 
I can’t believe that a year already passed. It’s so surreal.
He was only 70 when he left us. He didn’t get to celebrate his birthday that year as it’s in June. Seventy is too young to go. He should still be here...
I never imagined that my dad would pass away in a hospital chained to a ventilator. I always hoped that when his time came it would be at home in his own bed, just like his mom. Wishful thinking.
There will be a lot of people at the gravestone unveiling this Friday. Gonna be an emotional day.
I can’t believe that a year already passed. It’s so surreal.
He was only 70 when he left us. He didn’t get to celebrate his birthday that year as it’s in June. Seventy is too young to go. He should still be here...
I never imagined that my dad would pass away in a hospital chained to a ventilator. I always hoped that when his time came it would be at home in his own bed, just like his mom. Wishful thinking.
There will be a lot of people at the gravestone unveiling this Friday. Gonna be an emotional day.16 people like this
11 responses
@kaylachan (84834)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 May 23
Losing a parent is never easy. I wish you well during this difficult time.
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@kaylachan (84834)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 May 23
@lovebuglena That, I can't answer. But, I can send give good vibes your way.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
11 May 23
@kaylachan It is very touching that so many people are coming for the gravestone unveiling and the dinner after. Close to 40 people.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
11 May 23
Thank you! I am overwhelmed by how many people are going to come for the unveiling.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
11 May 23
My dad passed away at the age of 65 when I was in my late twenties. My husband passed away at the age of 71. Eternal separations are always painful.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
11 May 23
Yeah. Even though it is inevitable the pain isn’t any less when people we love leave us.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
14 May 23
@aninditasen Unfortunately, can't make them go away and never return.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
12 May 23
@lovebuglena The sad memories keep coming up time and again throughout life.
@rsa101 (41005)
• Philippines
11 May 23
I believe that experiencing the sadness of losing a loved one is a universal emotion. It is never easy to handle, especially if you were there when the person passed away. When I lost my mother in 2013, which was almost precisely 10 years ago, I was also in that circumstance at the time. Time went by so quickly, and every time I read something like this, I'm reminded of how painful it is to recall them.
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@rsa101 (41005)
• Philippines
12 May 23
@lovebuglenaGiven that it was early in the morning, I was not by her side. My sister took over the vigil the previous night as I had made the decision to sleep at home. Me and my father were home at the time because it happened quite early in the morning. Simply said, it is incredibly depressing to think that she was in excellent spirits the night before we went, but only a few hours later, she was already gone..
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
11 May 23
I was not next to him when he passed away: it would’ve been harder to handle probably if I had been there at that moment.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
14 May 23
@rsa101 It is really devastating when a person we care about is fine one minute and the next things go downhill and the person leaves us.
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@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
11 May 23
Sorry to know about your father.
Two years ago my father in law also passed away and the doctor told it was because of pneumunia. He was discharged from the hospital once and the things were going well but after few days the things started getting worse and he was admitted to the hospital again. He was on the ventilator and passed away in a day.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
14 May 23
@sjvg1976 That is terrible. Things can take a turn for the worse, especially when a person ends up in the hospital.
@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
11 May 23
I am sorry Lena once again. I know this pain well.
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
11 May 23
@lovebuglena Yes when it does it is really hard Lena
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
11 May 23
All we can of is try to move on from the pain. Sometimes it’s ok but sometimes the sadness hits.
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@RasmaSandra (98072)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 May 23
Virtual hugs to you, You know he is with you in spirit and shining his love down on you, I lost my father when I was ten but I still remember him today, Best of luck to you on Friday,
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@RasmaSandra (98072)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 May 23
@lovebuglena poor mom got to go through my terrible teen years alone but we managed and later on became the best of friends but I know she didn't have it easy
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
14 May 23
@RasmaSandra It's great to be best friends with your mom.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
10 May 23
Thank you! I remember when one of the doctors called my mom and told her to come quick because my dad was going to leave us that day. We didn't make it by 15 minutes.
Losing your father at such a young age has to be very tough.
Losing your father at such a young age has to be very tough.1 person likes this
@TheHorse (238349)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 May 23
@lovebuglena Mothers Day is like that for me.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
15 May 23
@TheHorse that has to be tough.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
14 May 23
Thank you! It is still surreal at times that he is no longer here. I had his phone saved in my favorites on my iPhone. I removed it from there as there is no one to call anymore. Plus, we cancelled his number. And seeing it in my favorites at times got me down.
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@JudyEv (382408)
• Rockingham, Australia
11 May 23
Sending condolences and hugs. This will be a tough few days and yes, 70 is way too young to pass away.
@JudyEv (382408)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 May 23
@lovebuglena You are so right.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
11 May 23
Thank you. We all go but it’s never easier knowing that.
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@Deepizzaguy (122269)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 May 23
I feel your pain losing your dad one year ago today.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
10 May 23
I spoke to my dad earlier in the day that he ended up in the hospital and he sounded fine, like nothing was wrong with him. And then later in the day he had trouble breathing... He ended up in the hospital and that was his end. Over a month of suffering on a ventilator only to never come back home.
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@Deepizzaguy (122269)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
11 May 23
@lovebuglena I am deeply sorry what happened to your dad at the time of his passing.
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@LindaOHio (222639)
• United States
11 May 23
I'm so sorry, Lena. 70 is still young; and it's a shame that your father passed away. I hope that the gravestone unveiling goes well and that it provides some sense of closure and comfort for you and your family.
@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
11 May 23
Thank you. He shouldn’t have gone they way he did.
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@LindaOHio (222639)
• United States
11 May 23
@lovebuglena I understand. I'm really sorry.
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@lovebuglena (52199)
• Staten Island, New York
10 May 23
Sorry for your loss! We all have an expiration date but it doesn’t make it any easier when our loved ones pass away.
