Why don't parents equally love their kids?

@sjvg1976 (41132)
Delhi, India
May 18, 2023 11:09am CST
I always think why do parents are partial in loving their kids. My parents love my younger brother more than other siblings. This is clear from their behaviour towards him and others. It is understandable but it hurts when they take favour of my younger brother always. Have you ever felt the same way like me?
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@LadyDuck (461555)
• Switzerland
19 May 23
My father loved my brother and I the same, but Mom loved more my younger brother. I know it hurts, also considering that my brother is a brat.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
Yes it always hurts .
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• United States
19 May 23
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@LadyDuck (461555)
• Switzerland
23 May 23
@sjvg1976 Then we pretend that humans are treated "equally". How is this possible when even inside your family parents have preferred children!
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@AmbiePam (86251)
• United States
18 May 23
I am so sorry that you feel that way. Growing up, I felt my father greatly favored my older sister while my mom loved my sister and me equally. As an adult I realize it isn’t that my dad loves my sister more, it’s just that he and my sister have more in common, and it is easier for them to get along because they understand each other.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
That may be the reason but in my case it may be because I have younger step brothers and my step mother is still alive
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@AmbiePam (86251)
• United States
23 May 23
@sjvg1976 I am sorry. You deserve better treatment.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
@AmbiePam my father always remain in the favour of my step mom and that's the reason I am always unfavoured.
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@ptrikha_2 (45693)
• India
23 May 23
Such things unfortunately, do happen in the families. But don't you think that you should be bringing out this here? Anyways I can understand your hurt and can relate to it in some ways personally. In reality, things are far from ideal but parents should not discriminate between their kids, unless one of the child is too harsh and cruel towards the parents.
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@ptrikha_2 (45693)
• India
24 May 23
@sjvg1976 Yeah it is fine if you feel that way.
@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
I don't feel bad if I bring out such things here because I guess mylot to be the most personal platform for me to discuss.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49359)
• United States
19 May 23
I only have one child. I would hope if i had more than one that id love them equally.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
You seem to be good mother then.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49359)
• United States
23 May 23
@sjvg1976 I try.
@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
19 May 23
It is very hard when one child is loved more than another but it does seem to happen a lot.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
Do you love your son's equally?
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
@JudyEv Why do you do that?
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 May 23
@sjvg1976 I treat them equally but the younger one is a bit of a favourite.
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@Kandae11 (53829)
18 May 23
It does happen unfortunately, some children are loved more than others. I have only one child so he has all my love.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
Your son is fortunate that he cannot face what other kids do .
@RebeccasFarm (87051)
• United States
19 May 23
Well, I did feel like that Sanjeev, but now my Mother is gone RIP..I am so sorry I even cared about who she favored. It is a long story now and a very sad bad one.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
That's fine. We should not mind such thing as we cannot change our parents.
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@wolfgirl569 (97088)
• Marion, Ohio
19 May 23
When I was a child I did. But when I had my boys I understood that it was because of things we did or did not have in common
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
That's true.
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• Pakistan
18 May 23
Remember, each family dynamic is unique, and love can be expressed differently. While it can be difficult, try not to compare yourself to your younger brother or dwell too much on the differences in your parents' treatment. Focus on building your own self-worth, pursuing your passions, and surrounding yourself with a support system that appreciates and values you for who you are.
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
I always try not to compare but my mind goes to it and I get hurt when I notice even the small things too.
@CarolDM (203449)
• Nashville, Tennessee
29 May 23
This is really sad to see parents favor other children. I only had one and I loved him more than the world itself. But I too have witnessed this behavior and do not understand. I have asked this question and many will deny they are doing it. I can see where you would feel pain. So sorry.
• India
18 May 23
Yes because I have received more love as compared to my elder siblings
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@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
23 May 23
You were lucky then.
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