Should I call Claudia? / myLot

Chile

June 2, 2023 7:07pm CST

Claudia has called me only once in the month since I did not accept her idea of going to a senior home. More than that, after I wrote a letter ther day after, still angry at their way of suggesting that as an only idea, she wrote to me a letter full of resentment. Her letter came the same day that I wrote a second letter of apologies. Claudia called me sking me politely how I was. Next week is my birthday. Should I call her to invite her with her children (noone else) to a cup of coffee and a piece of cake?Should I wait to see if she makes a move? Should I just forget it? I think about this all day. Please help me friends and tell me what are your thoughts about it.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (120871)

• United States

3 Jun 23

I think it would be very kind of you to invite her and her children for coffee and a piece of cake. It shows that you carry yourself with grace, and you are willing to move on.

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (59250)

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3 Jun 23

Yes, it speaks well for Marga for sure. But in all seriousness it would be more than wonderful if the daughters would bring her a cake!! Marga, I would have been so happy to have a loving and caring mother like you are. They will come around to see your side eventually. I just hope for your sake it’s sooner rather than later.

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marguicha

@marguicha (230350)

• Chile

3 Jun 23

@MarieCoyle I hope for THEIR sake that it´s sooner rather than later. Their lives would not be nice if they did not make up with me and something happened to me later.

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (59250)

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3 Jun 23

@marguicha I totally understand, and I know you want them to be nicer and more understanding. I can certainly get that, you deserve to be treated with love and respect, always.

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (148734)

• Roseburg, Oregon

3 Jun 23

That will have to be your decision to make. You should invite her and leave it at that. Hopefully she will come.

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marguicha

@marguicha (230350)

• Chile

3 Jun 23

Y will invite her.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (153529)

• India

3 Jun 23

The earlier the situations are diffused the better it is I did something myself My maid is on leave and I had asked my earlier maid to leave as she kept taking leave often. But I called her to work for two hours. She was so happy to be back. Sometimes we have to eat the humble pie.

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marguicha

@marguicha (230350)

• Chile

3 Jun 23

I called my daughter. She hasn´t answered me yet.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (153529)

• India

3 Jun 23

@marguicha She will surely contact you.

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (135819)

• Marion, Ohio

3 Jun 23

Only you can decide for sure. But reaching out could maybe help mend things.

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marguicha

@marguicha (230350)

• Chile

3 Jun 23

It seems that she wanted to take me out that day for a piece of cake. But I already invited Daniel to my home and he accepted. And I have the gut feeling that Claudia wants to do something without her children. And I will not accept that.

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (135819)

• Marion, Ohio

3 Jun 23

@marguicha You could always go a different day.

Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78833)

• East Tawas, Michigan

3 Jun 23

I would politely invite Claudia to your Birthday gathering, never mention any harsh words that were exchanged. We all say things that we don't mean, whenever we get angry or end up with hurt feelings. Exchange hugs and words of kindness, from today forward:) Forgiveness is a very powerful tool, that can heal up a mother/daughter relationship.

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marguicha

@marguicha (230350)

• Chile

3 Jun 23

I will not mention the hash words that were said. But I will not forget some of the things she said. Not yet at least.

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Kharla Jolly

@kobesbuddy (78833)

• East Tawas, Michigan

3 Jun 23

@marguicha Forgetting cruel attacks are possible, if we make a firm decision to do this. Yes, Claudia was wrong, that's obvious. Her words injured you, which was uncalled for. She never should have blurted out those things!

Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (59250)

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3 Jun 23

@marguicha Sometimes there are words said that we cannot forget, even when we want to. All we can do is try to forgive and get along. It can be very hard. I hope it works out for you, Marga.

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

3 Jun 23

If it were me, I’d invite her and the children. Then if she doesn’t come, she can’t say you didn’t invite her.

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marguicha

@marguicha (230350)

• Chile

3 Jun 23

I messaged Carolina. And I have tried to call Claudia but she did not answer. I´ll call her later.

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99367)

• Atlanta, Georgia

3 Jun 23

@marguicha Hopefully you can reach her later.

Anna

@LadyDuck (502573)

• Italy

3 Jun 23

I would call and invite her and her children. If she does not answer your call or does not call back, at least you know that you made a first step and you tried.

Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (69183)

• Centralia, Washington

3 Jun 23

Do what your heart tells you to. Happy early birthday to you!

LindaOH

@LindaOHio (222534)

• United States

3 Jun 23

I think you should be the bigger person and invite her over. If she doesn't want to come, then that's on her.

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@Nakitakona (59987)

• Philippines

3 Jun 23

Sorry I'm not following what's going on between you and Claudia. By the way, advanced happy Birthday