Old-Fashioned?
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (159538)
Boise, Idaho
November 20, 2023 2:48pm CST
I was watching an old movie the other day and the ending got me thinking. The man and woman got back together and went walking down the busy city street as the movie ended and the man moved to the outside as gentlemen used to do. (In days of old men were protective and would step to the outside to protect women from being splashed by coaches going by.) Nowadays I don't see this kind of behavior as much. Less opening of the door, walking their date to the door, etc. The generation of men who might have been taught to treat women in this way is going to die out. I am just wondering what kind of treatment women should expect. Women used to be "taken care of" by men. They were thought of as the weaker sex. Nowadays women are seeing a lot more independence and are enjoying feeling some power coming their way. Should women still expect men to be gentlemanly or are those days gone? What are your thoughts on this issue?
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
20 Nov
I've always done the gentlemanly behavior for women around me... but have been soundly told off for doing it, too. I held the door at Walmart once for a woman and she refused to walk through unless I turned the door loose... I was just going into work and was half an hour early. I told her I'd continue to hold the door as long as she stood there waiting to go in...
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@celticeagle (159538)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Nov
That's just weird. I was reading something that said holding the door is seen as an act of aggression. The world is just getting so weird.
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@celticeagle (159538)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Nov
@DaddyEvil .......I think that is polite and people should treat each other this way. I am such a traditionalist I hate to see such things go away.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
20 Nov
@celticeagle Sometimes I hold the door for men, too. They usually thank me and go on in. Some of them will take the door and say "After you." At which point, I go in. No big deal.
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@celticeagle (159538)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Nov
That's a gentleman for ya. I always found it respectful and I think women don't see a need for it any longer.
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@sallypup (58142)
• Centralia, Washington
20 Nov
@celticeagle There is just a way of being decent to another human. When I'm going into the gym or out, I keep a lookout for others-man or woman. If anybody is coming up kind of near me, I wait and hold the door for them. It doesn't kill me to wait a moment or two.
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@celticeagle (159538)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Nov
@sallypup .........And probably burns a couple of calories. Haha!
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@RebeccasFarm (86819)
• United States
21 Nov
Well seeing that I don't bother these days, I am certain it does not concern me what kind of manners they don't have..and they don't have any, that is certain.
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@xander6464 (40902)
• Wapello, Iowa
21 Nov
I've read that walking on the outside was a ruse...Oh, it did protect women from mud splashes but at the same time, a lot of people emptied chamber pots out their windows onto the sidewalk and the person walking on the inside would get hit with that. So the men decided they'd rather get splashed with mud. And since the mud was full of horse exhaust, it really worked out to being about equal.
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@xander6464 (40902)
• Wapello, Iowa
23 Nov
@celticeagle It's not as romantic as the "protecting from mud" theory.
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@LindaOHio (157243)
• United States
21 Nov
I like a little chivalry from time to time. I open my own car door though.
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@wolfgirl569 (95748)
• Marion, Ohio
20 Nov
It depends on the people and the relationship. My hubby often does that stuff but I don't expect him too
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@celticeagle (159538)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Nov
I don't really 'expect' it but I find it gentlemanly. I wonder if I am just too old-fashioned to live in this world as it is today. I can see your point. I just think that gentlemanly attention is so nice and rather endearing.
@Deepizzaguy (94902)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
20 Nov
I am afraid that the days of men acting like gentlemen with the opposite gender is going out of style.
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