My uncle is not doing well
By snowy
@snowy22315 (188970)
United States
December 4, 2023 9:49am CST
My mom let me know that my uncle, the one with terminal cancer is not doing well, which is sad but not unexpected. He was able to get a hospital bed for his home though, and a smaller wheelchair and transport chair. It was all set up by my cousin's employer who must be an angel.
. However, I asked my mom how much time he has left, whether it is days, weeks or months, she did not answer..so I guess it is unknown at this point. I was wondering if he could get some kind of hospice care at home? My aunt must be so tired of dealing with the burden mostly by herself. I had several relatives pass away in January after the holidays..I wonder if this will be the case now? I think if he can make it to his doctor's appointment on Weds. we will know more.
. He was always sis and I's favorite uncle..although we were closer to one of my other uncles since he was such a good brother to my dad and visited us fairly often.
. However, I asked my mom how much time he has left, whether it is days, weeks or months, she did not answer..so I guess it is unknown at this point. I was wondering if he could get some kind of hospice care at home? My aunt must be so tired of dealing with the burden mostly by herself. I had several relatives pass away in January after the holidays..I wonder if this will be the case now? I think if he can make it to his doctor's appointment on Weds. we will know more.. He was always sis and I's favorite uncle..although we were closer to one of my other uncles since he was such a good brother to my dad and visited us fairly often.14 people like this
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@1creekgirl (43479)
• United States
6 Dec 23
@snowy22315 Those are wonderful memories for you. Our son Robert has always been the fun uncle (the Funcle) to Tammy's kids.
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@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
7 Dec 23
@snowy22315 I am envy you for having an uncle like him. Both of my parents' side do not like us. So, I never experience having precious moments with our uncles and aunts.
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@LadyDuck (473770)
• Switzerland
4 Dec 23
I am ver sorry for your uncle. The doctor will give a guessing about how long he can still live, but they are never precise. I think you aunt should be able to get some kind of hospice care at home. My neighbor had this service when his husband was at a terminal stage of cancer.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
4 Dec 23
They aren't precise because they can only give an educated guess. They may not want their patients stressing unduly, but I think more would be stressed that they didn't get everything done they wanted to. Yes, I sure hope so. I think it would be too hard and stressful for the family to deal with alone.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
4 Dec 23
@LadyDuck Yes, they usually have a pretty good idea.
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@LadyDuck (473770)
• Switzerland
4 Dec 23
@snowy22315 - Sometimes they make big mistakes, but when the patient is very bad they usually know for how long the patient can live.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
4 Dec 23
I am too. We used to always spend holidays together, but after my grandparents passed we didn't do it anymore which was a shame.
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@cacay1 (84631)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Dec 23
@snowy22315 I understand, it's not easy. It breaks a heart
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
5 Dec 23
She may need to be encouraged to do this, but it would take some of the burden off for sure.
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@MarieCoyle (43526)
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4 Dec 23
I am very sorry about your uncle. I hope he is able to have Hospice if that would help.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
4 Dec 23
Yes, hopefully something can be arranged. My aunt needs support.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
7 Dec 23
I think they could the only problem might be the weather as they live in the snowbelt,and it can really gets snowy out there.We got stuck out there a few times.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
4 Dec 23
No, I don't think so. I tried to see them at Easter .but it didn't work out. My plans are to go up there for Christmas..I will talk to him then..if not before. I did talk to him at Easter time.I also text with my aunt.
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@marguicha (226286)
• Chile
4 Dec 23
Doctors never tell how much time people have left. And they are right. I don´t believe in miracles but miracles do happen. For me the most important part of the end of life is that our loved ones don´t suffer.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
4 Dec 23
They do give them a general time frame though like 6 months to two years or whatever. Medicine isn't a precise science.Although I do believe he is in the final stages. We will see.
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@FourWalls (74401)
• United States
4 Dec 23
I’m so sorry. I hope he can get hospice to help your aunt and himself. 
I hope he can get hospice to help your aunt and himself. 2 people like this
@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
4 Dec 23
Thanks Four Walls... I really think that would be the best thing in this situation. Poor uncle..I hate this for him.
. I really think that would be the best thing in this situation. Poor uncle..I hate this for him.2 people like this
@1creekgirl (43479)
• United States
6 Dec 23
This is really sad about your uncle. I hope you and your family will have more time with him.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
7 Dec 23
Yeah, just don't know at this point,but if he is in pain maybe an easy passing would be best.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
5 Dec 23
Thank you Jessica. We all feel bad about it.
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@LindaOHio (187979)
• United States
5 Dec 23
I'm so sorry to hear this, snowy. Sending prayers and thoughts. I would think your aunt should be able to get some hospice care at home for him.
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@snowy22315 (188970)
• United States
5 Dec 23
I hope so. I hope he gets to his appointment tomorrow.
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