For Some Reason I Recalled This Incident

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I think I must have had a weird dream. I don't remember them but perhaps my mind brought it to mind anyway. I recalled a time when a neighbor came over and set down on the blanket I was using out by the old oak tree we had at the apartment we rented before moving here. She had befriended my daughter and my daughter spent a lot of time at her place. The woman started asking me questions about myself and saying rather derogatory things about my relationship with my daughter. **A little background** My daughter has a learning disability and also a very bad memory. She and I have gone through a lot due to her immaturity and her being bipolar. She was very hard to get along with and there were issues about her children and her irresponsibility until the docs finally found the right medication to put her on. We get along great now. This woman was basically telling me I was a bad mother. I asked her if my daughter had told her about this or that. Not really. She just had been told that I take care of certain things and I have all her money(I am her payee because the SSA court wanted her finances overseen)The woman went on and on. Not really saying anything directly but going around and about if you see what I mean. She had a low tone that was rather weird. Not sure if she was trying to be intimidating or what. I knew that my daughter valued this person. I knew that they had a close friendship. I didn't want to be nasty or disrespectful but I surely was not going to put up with any more of her little comments. I felt a bit angry because some of what she said was correct. I told the woman just that. We are not all perfect in this world. My daughter and I both have made mistakes. But, we have also worked through much of it too. I told her I knew she meant well and I'm sure she and my daughter had a good relationship. But, she was only her friend, not her mother. I know that I have made mistakes and I am working on those things. I thanked her for reminding me of these things and the work that needed to be done and then I excused myself and started for the door. I remember she gave me the weirdest look. As if she were startled or surprised by what I had said. I wondered what she expected. For me to lash out and yell at her? Why? What good would that do? This incident left me with a weird feeling. Not sure why. It was almost as if this woman thought she was better than me, and knew more than I did. That's how she came off. I am not one to let people get the better of me. That was one reason my last husband and I didn't get along. He seemed to think he was the only one that knew how things should go and I argued that point. Maybe this is among the reasons I stay homebound. I don't want to argue with people. I have my truth and I will live with that truth. I know others have their opinions and, if they state those opinions in a constructive manner I will listen to them. But, when they act like they are better than me, or know more I tend to end the conversation and walk away just like I did with that woman. Your thoughts.