Who pays at a party?
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (52204)
Staten Island, New York
August 7, 2024 4:34pm CST
Say someone wants to throw a surprise party for someone and thinks of having everyone pay for themselves. The only person not paying is the one for whom the surprise is for. What are your thoughts on that?
I think it would depend on how many people are invited and what restaurant the party is held at. If it’s an expensive place doesn’t seem right to have everyone pay for themselves. And if it’s a large party doing that will be inconvenient. Plus, it may make the person who isn’t paying uncomfortable, especially since it’s a surprise party. And if someone doesn’t drink that person should have to pay less than those that drink. Also, just because someone decided to order something very expensive shouldn’t mean everyone pays for that.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
7 Aug 24
The couple of times that I´ve been in surprise parties, the persone for whom the party is does not pay. And we choose a place where everyone can pay his share. The amount per person should include a drink. But if someone wants to drink more, he must pay for his drinks.
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
7 Aug 24
I went somewhere once and didn’t get any drinks yet had to pay what others were paying. And the amount per person turned out to be over $200. Had I known that I wouldn’t have gone.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
8 Aug 24
@lovebuglena You have to know who is directing the whole thing. And those parties cannot be more expensive than what people who attend have. I would have asked beforehand how much I had to pay. I would not go to a surprise party so expensive. There are lots of better things I can do with that money.
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Aug 24
@marguicha when picking a place you definitely have to be mindful of the guests and not go somewhere very expensive if you plan on everyone paying.
@JudyEv (382412)
• Rockingham, Australia
9 Aug 24
@lovebuglena I agree completely.
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Aug 24
It doesn’t seem right to do that.
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@kaylachan (84842)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Aug 24
The last "party" I attended was with George's family for his mom's 90'th birthday. We wound up paying for our own meals, and people kind of broke off into groups. George and I had a bill, and other family members paid for themselves or other family members. So I guess it depends on the party, who's throwing it, where it is.... etc.
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@RasmaSandra (98080)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Aug 24
Yep, the birthday boy or girl gets their surprise and pays for nothing,
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
7 Aug 24
I think unless it is a decision made by everyone where the party is whoever does the party shouldn’t ask people to pay for themselves.
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@NJChicaa (127172)
• United States
7 Aug 24
@lovebuglena They shouldn't unless it is made very clear in the invitation that it is a pay-for-yourself situation.
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@LindaOHio (222726)
• United States
8 Aug 24
I agree with @NJChicaa. For the most part, the host pays for everyone's dinner. Have a good day.
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Aug 24
As it should be unless everyone decides where to go and agrees on it being everyone pays for themselves.
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Aug 24
If one or two people are the ones who decided to throw a party and chose the place they should not tell others everyone will have to pay for themselves.
@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
10 Aug 24
@lovebuglena My thought about it if you want to party you have to pay.
Now..the person who does not know there is a party..meaning the person who the party is for..shouldn't have to pay of course..
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Aug 24
But what are your thoughts on this?
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@lovebuglena (52204)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Aug 24
@RebeccasFarm It's great to have a party and not have to pay for it but you can't expect the guests to pay for themselves. Not fair.
