I did something I am not proud of, but then,,
By Anish Asokan
@RevivedWarrior (3853)
India
October 8, 2024 12:58pm CST
I have been here in mylot for almost 6 months. I believe I made good friends and enjoy the company , discussion and the comments to my discussion . I do not think I have made any provoking or distasteful comments ( I am open to apologise if there was ever a one ). None of my discussions had any hate speeches or discrimination and I have been open to hear all thoughts of my mylot family .
For one of my discussions , I received a not so welcome comment. The person could have chose to ignore my discussion , if it was not worthy . However, I received a provoking one with an emoji. I choose to be gentle in my response , but then I again receive a more provoking one ( I do not want to go to the details). I had also noticed this person to have sent a provoking comment to a previous discussion a month ago. Checked his other comments and discussions, but none of them seemed provoking or distasteful.This time , however, I had enough of the person and decided to block him! Yes , I did that and I am not proud of it!
I gave a thought of what I was going to do and then decided to block the person. I cannot help but feel negative vibes from the person. Worse, I have not responded in any provoking way to his discussions throughout my time here. I should be a gentleman when I have to be , but then this was not something I could understand. I do not have any previous acquaintance with the person and I do not know his real name or details.
I believe atleast some of you consider me as a friend or atleast as a mylot acquaintance. Was there a better way of handling this or what I did was right ( I am not proud for this action)?
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11 responses
@MarieCoyle (59402)
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8 Oct 24
If someone doesn’t make you feel good enough for just being you, I would think that is a good reason to not want interaction from that person. Don’t stress over it. It’s all good.
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@MarieCoyle (59402)
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11 Oct 24
@RevivedWarrior
Many of us have gone through this, it's disconcerting, but the option is always there to block the person.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
I would have let the user go .However, when he followed up with a second provoking statement , it was clear there is something negative. I feel much better now. Thanks for being supportive!
@snowy22315 (209193)
• United States
8 Oct 24
Well you could have tried sending them a message, but he probably doesn't think he has done anything wrong. I have a few blocked on here, not because they are terrible people, but I just didn't like the way they were responding to me.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
I would not have blcoked him , had he not sent a second provoking statement . It was clear it was going to be negative talk and hence blocked the user. We should not be spoiling our thoughts for such users. I feel much better now. Thanks for sharing!
@snowy22315 (209193)
• United States
10 Oct 24
@RevivedWarrior I never block anyone on a first offense but maybe 3x of the same behavior is more than enough.
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@marguicha (230365)
• Chile
8 Oct 24
Fortunatly I haven´t had any problems with any lotters, including some that have different political or religious points of view.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
Except for this particular mylotter , I never had issues with any others , nor I create any for others as far as I am aware of. When he was after me with a second provoking statement , decided to block the user. I am feeling better now. Thanks for sharing!
@allknowing (153529)
• India
9 Oct 24
We are here to relax and if anyone comes in the way myLot has a method and that is to block them You have done no wrong.
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
10 Oct 24
@RevivedWarrior It would be interesting to know why he behaved the way he did
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
I have not really understood the reasons why the person had to provke me. Any case I am not thinking about the user and feel much better now. Thanks for your supportive words!
@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
I would not have blocked the user had the second provoking statement was sent across. I have never really understood the reasons for the particular behaviour. Never had issues with any other mylotters . Thanks for your support!
@somewitch (1466)
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8 Oct 24
@sallypup Agreed, I don't get why some people seem to be here just to be a pain in the neck. Luckily they're a minority.
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@somewitch (1466)
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8 Oct 24
Sorry you had a bad interaction with that user but well done on setting some boundaries.
I think you handled it very well, I had a similar experience with the same user and the conversation kept on going for a while when it should have been clear to me from the start there was no point in discussing with someone who doesn't listen or puts any effort whatsoever.
So you are not alone. 
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
I am surprised you have understood the particular user. I did not want to disclose the identity as it seems the user had been ok in some responses that I checked through. When the second provoking message was sent , it was time to get the person blocked. Thanks for your supportive words!
@somewitch (1466)
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10 Oct 24
@RevivedWarrior Sometimes I can get a little nosy. 
But the response where the exchange took place is no longer there now.
Oh well, not a huge loss if I gotta be frank. It's just frustrating an otherwise okay user decided we were good targets to "troll".
But the response where the exchange took place is no longer there now.
Oh well, not a huge loss if I gotta be frank. It's just frustrating an otherwise okay user decided we were good targets to "troll".1 person likes this
@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
The first response was provoking and I decided to let go , but then the user was adamant to send another one. I love to have my time in mylot enjoyable and not entertain negativity. I feel much better now. Thanks for your supportive words!
@kaylachan (84916)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Oct 24
It's never nice to have to come to the decision to block a person, but it happens that you kind of have to. You're going to run into people who may not like what you have to say. For the most part, you'll find kind people who are respectful. However, there's going to be one or two people who just rub you the wrong way.
For the most part I'm calm, cool and collected. But, I have been blocked by a few memebers who just don't like what I have to say, because I'll speak my mind.
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@kaylachan (84916)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Oct 24
@RevivedWarrior I'm glad to hear you're feeling a little better about it.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
I blocked the person , when a second provoking statement was sent. I have come terms with it and feel much better now. Thanks for your support!
@luisadannointed (11886)
• Philippines
13 Oct 24
That's very nice of you to still think positively. Anyway you cannot please everyone, and we are here in mylot to earn and have a great time while doing so. I think it is okay to not just read any of his blog post if its kinda giving you stress or provoke you in anyway; you also need your peace while working... and as you mentioned it on your previous... we need to choose what we do to at least avoid fatigue.
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@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
14 Oct 24
Well, I feel much better. I did not think about the person or incident after that day. I have moved on . Thanks for yoru supporting words!
@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
Except the ones I mentioned from the particular ones, most mylotters I interacted have been civil and respectful. I had no choice but to block him , but feel much better now. Thanks for sharing!
@RevivedWarrior (3853)
• India
10 Oct 24
Thanks for your kinds. I feel much better now. Thanks for supporting!
