It finally happened.
@kaylachan (84823)
Daytona Beach, Florida
June 19, 2025 9:30am CST
Well, for a while, now at least. George finally hit his rock bottom, again. He'd been so against me cleaning the site around his stoma, that it'd go days without treatment. Last night, he asked me for, and allowed me, to put on some cream and a drain sponage. And, well, he slept better then he had in a long time. He even said it was quicker and easier.
And, I just finished changing it. Given how bad it'd gotten, I was happy to do it.
As they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink.
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 Jun
He always has been. He never liked asking me for anything.-- now he has to ask for almost, everything. It's a huge dynamic shift, and something that's a lot harder for him to process. Plus, when something is uncomfortable, you tend to want to leave it alone.
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 Jun
@porwest I'm the same way, so when people tell me I 'need help' I can't imagine what 'help' they think I need.
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@porwest (112864)
• United States
20 Jun
@kaylachan I can definitely relate being an EXTREMELY independent person myself.
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 Jun
Yeah. When we first got back from rehab, he was much better about it. I've struggled and fought with him over it for the better part of a year.
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
21 Jun
@rakski Yeah. I half expected things to go sideways, again, but I wound up cleaning it last night and putting a new drain spounage on.
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@rakski (156547)
• Philippines
21 Jun
@kaylachan at least this time he asked you to clean it this time
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@GardenGerty (169489)
• United States
19 Jun
He had to deal with the consequences of his own stubbornness. I am glad it did not get a bad infection and give him a set back.
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Jun
Me, too. I'd been intermentally been able to keep it clean, just not as often as I would've fliked.
@xstitcher (39047)
• Petaluma, California
19 Jun
My grandmother was super stubborn about using a walker--but Mom and I just couldn't have her hanging on our arms all the time.
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Jun
Yeah. George chose to start using one a while back.
@RasmaSandra (98026)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Jun
So glad that this was finally resolved and hopefully you both will be sleeping better now, Outside it looks like rain is on the way getting darker by the minute,
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Jun
Don't know how long this will last, but George didn't physically fight me and actually asked for it. And, that's a win.
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@Marilynda1225 (91127)
• United States
19 Jun
Glad he finally let you clean it
As others have already said, he's lucky it didn't get infected
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Jun
Agreed. I think it's only because I've forced myself on him and physically fought him at times to get it done. Plus he's had several rounds of antibotics.
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@snowy22315 (209054)
• United States
19 Jun
Glad you were able to clean it. No doubt it is dangerous letting it fester like that.
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@kaylachan (84823)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Jun
It's very dangerous. So far it's mild redness that's painful to touch, but it could lead to infection quick. George's been on several rounds of antibotics, because he was so stubborn about getting it clean. but once he realized having it clean helped, he let me.
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@thislittlepennyearns (68246)
• Defuniak Springs, Florida
22 Jun
That has got to be frustrating for you.
You do so good with him.
I'm so glad he has you.
@sw8sincere (6032)
• Philippines
20 Jun
Hopefully this marks a turning point in him accepting more support going forward. You're doing an amazing job.
