Do you pass the hat around relatives? / myLot

Philippines

June 21, 2025 12:36am CST

When you need financial help badly and don't have any other options, do you pass the hat around your relatives? A cousin of mine did this. I was quite shocked because I never did that. I mean, I asked for help from relatives I am close to, but I do not oblige every relative, even those distant from me, to do so. I want to help, too, but I myself need some financial assistance for the surgery of my son. What would you do in this case?

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@Nakitakona (58405)

• Philippines

21 Jun

We never do that. If we have some extra money, we give. If we don't, we're very sorry.

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Jenaisle

@Jenaisle (16350)

• Philippines

22 Jun

It's not voluntary. It is forced. Like, relatives have to come up with a certain amount. I was thinking that when I had financial problems, they never helped us out, but now that they are, they're obligating us all to give. I would have given whatever I had if it had been done properly, but they were demanding.

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Thelma

@thelme55 (77692)

• Germany

22 Jun

@Jenaisle That is bad. They should not force you. It is not an obligation. Why are they demanding? Do you owe them something?

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@Nakitakona (58405)

• Philippines

22 Jun

@Jenaisle Financial problem always lead to family misunderstanding. There's a saying thst blood is thicker rhan water. But family feud is unavoidable.

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Jim Bauer

@porwest (106671)

• United States

22 Jun

I have never seen anyone do this, although many people ask for money. What do I do? Nothing. My small contribution won't ever solve the reason someone feels the need to ask for money, and therefore it does not truly help. No one gets a penny from me. I'll give advice. But never money.

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Jenaisle

@Jenaisle (16350)

• Philippines

23 Jun

I see. Good advice is valuable more than money.

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Jim Bauer

@porwest (106671)

• United States

23 Jun

@Jenaisle 100 times more valuable. 100%.

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@allknowing (152639)

• India

21 Jun

Touch wood. I never got into that situation but I have extended help here and there.

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Jenaisle

@Jenaisle (16350)

• Philippines

21 Jun

You're one of the blessed ones.

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@allknowing (152639)

• India

21 Jun

@Jenaisle I think so Priase the Lord

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Anna

@LadyDuck (482672)

• Italy

21 Jun

I am been lucky enough not to have got into that situation so far. I helped my niece when she needed, but it was for a short time.

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Jenaisle

@Jenaisle (16350)

• Philippines

21 Jun

That's good. You're blessed.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (482672)

• Italy

21 Jun

@Jenaisle Yes, this is true.

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rakski

@rakski (147570)

• Philippines

21 Jun

We are blessed that we have not got into that kind of situation. Me and my immediate family, we help each other but not to the extent of other relatives. Just our siblings on both sides

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Jenaisle

@Jenaisle (16350)

• Philippines

22 Jun

That's understandable. I have done that too, but demanding that everyone should give, despite their own financial problems, is not right.

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rakski

@rakski (147570)

• Philippines

22 Jun

@Jenaisle that's true