teenage love

Did you marry early?

@Jenaisle No, I just remember being distracted at 15 by all the pretty girls at school. Ruined my grades!

@Orson_Kart

@Jenaisle I don't really think so. You know teenagers are rebellious. When you stop your son to keep a contact with that girl very much, then problem it will be a drive for them to get closer. If you let it go, probably things will be better than you expect. You know sometimes young people's love can't keep for a very long time. As to marriage? It will still be a long term for teenagers to think about.

I'm afraid it might truly result in something serious.

@Jenaisle Then it will be up to them to figure things out. You can't protect them from everything.

Yes, I suppose.

Exactly!

@DaddyEvil I am afraid.

That's Star Wars. One of my favorite movie series. Yes, smitten is the correct term. What should I do?

@Vikingswest1 I did that already, reminded him that he couldn't even support himself. I don't think this registered in his mind. He's just smitten! Thanks for the great advice, it's relevant and applicable.

@Jenaisle That's a tough one. I went with this girl for three years. We split because I was older and went to another school. There wasn't anything that could have come between us, except that. We weren't together all the time and just drifted apart. If your grandson is as smitten as I was, the reality of what it will take to make a life with her may bring his focus back. Talk seriously about what he wants five years from now. Ten. Twenty. Explain the hard work that's necessary now, to put him in a position to have success and reach goals. He has to take care to get his education to have the best chance at University. He has to excel at University to get a good career. He has to make hard choices now that lead to that goal. You can ask how he will support his family. How he will buy a home. How he will finance his family. How he will save for his children's education. Rather than discouraging him, make him think it through. Don't ask him to forget about her, ask him how he plans on supporting her. Very tough position you're in right now. You have to remind him of the "big picture" without crushing his dreams of love.

I am afraid he believes she's THE ONE. I told him he would still meet many girls in the future, but he refuses to listen.

@DaddyEvil So true.

@Jenaisle Of course he won't listen... Kids believe they know everything and adults are stupid.

How are you so sure? MY eldest son married his high school sweetheart at age 17.

@Ineeddentures

@Jenaisle Just a feeling. He will probably see a more pretty girl and fall in love with her Or some older boy will steal his girlfriend from him

@Jenaisle Maybe try speaking in a tone that matches his age, like you're a cool radio host instead of a broken record. It might feel less like nagging, which could be why he's tuning you out. Or hey, maybe he's already mulling it over but hasn't quite found the right words to respond yet.

@rsa101 I hope you're right.

I did that many times. I said, 'If you truly love her, think about how you can support her well.' He doesn't reply but just stares into space. Thanks for the great advice. It's a practical and good way to channel his energy into something productive.

Yes, that's the impression I get.

Yes, they do not. It's frustrating.

@Jenaisle - We all should try to remember how we were at their age.

I hope so.

Exactly! We adults are the villains.

@rakski I hope so.

@Jenaisle true so it is better to let them be and hopefully they will open up to us adults

I hope that would be the case.

Yes, that's true. My son married his teenage sweetheart and they're still together happily.

That's my prayer too.