If the Shoe Was on the Other Foot

@porwest (110598)
United States
September 10, 2025 4:56pm CST
I have no complaints about being married. I love my wife, and we have a good life together. We work together to help each other out as much as we can. But there's something that makes me wonder, and perhaps a little discussion might shed some light on a very important question. Well, what may be an important one depending on one's perspective of course. You see, the dynamics of marriage are not the same for a man as they are for a woman. Case in point, if I got up, poured my cup of coffee and turned to the wife and said, "I'd like you to do a load of laundry today, maybe dust that ceiling fan, give a good hand washing to these bowls, and get all the carpets vacuumed," I would probably be dead. But my wife on the other hand? She can offer me any chores she likes, without hesitation on her part, and she always feels well justified to tell me what I ought to be doing that she wants done. A woman can say, "Tote that barge! Lift that bail!" and have no consequence other than hubby might bat an eye or grumble a little bit. But how come the shoe can't be on the other foot? What's the difference in the eyes of a woman that she can spout orders but a man can't, and there's hell to pay if he does. Now granted, it may take me 6 months to do something on my own. But that's not the point here.
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@kareng (79658)
• United States
11 Sep
Because the women know what needs to be done. The men are clueless. If we didn't say something, it would NEVER get done!!!
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@kareng (79658)
• United States
13 Sep
@moffittjc Oh a male is admitting that! Amazing! Geaux Tigers!!!
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@moffittjc (126077)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Sep
@kareng I'm an expert on the subject of being clueless! Big game tonight! I don't have much faith in my Gators after last week's humiliating loss to USF.
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@moffittjc (126077)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
There's a lot of truth to what you said! lol
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@xFiacre (14574)
• Ireland
10 Sep
@porwest Oh yes, you’re on to something!! And the secret of a successful marriage is that the husband should remember to say those two little words every day, words that mean so much, “Yes dear”.
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@porwest (110598)
• United States
11 Sep
"Yes, dear," is actually a life saver, and I have found this to be true on more than one occasion. lol
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@moffittjc (126077)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
The two most important words in a husband's vocabulary! YES, DEAR!
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@porwest (110598)
• United States
17 Sep
@moffittjc It can save lives. I am sure of that. lol
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@DaddyEvil (160813)
• United States
11 Sep
I KNOW! The wife can keep a running list of honey-do things and nobody bats an eye but if the hubby did that, OMG! the sparks would fly, not only from your wife, but also from every female in 50 miles of your home! And now you know why I'm not married anymore. I got tired of things like that happening.
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@moffittjc (126077)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 Sep
That's so hilarious, but totally true! Women keep a running "honey-do" list for the men to complete, and men--if they know what's good for them--just need to fall in line and complete that list as the women dictate it to them. Men do keep a list in their heads of things that need to get done, but it's not things we bark orders at our significant others to complete. Our list in our heads is more a mental note for stuff WE need to do....like mow the lawn, change the oil in the car, watch that big football game on TV, etc.
@JudyEv (364874)
• Rockingham, Australia
11 Sep
I think part of it is that the wife is more likely to have stuff in hand while some husbands seem to go round with blinkers on and never see cobwebs or dirty windows. But of course that much too much of a generalisation.
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@LindaOHio (205102)
• United States
11 Sep
Because the woman does her share; and the man should help her...especially if he's not working.
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@LindaOHio (205102)
• United States
12 Sep
@porwest When my hubby retired on disability before me, he would make me a PB&J dinner along with a banana every day before I got home. That's basically all he did until I could no longer shop....then he practically lived at Walmart.
@porwest (110598)
• United States
11 Sep
Even when we were a full working household, I still had specific chores handed over to me. I'm calling foul here. lol
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@noni1959 (10971)
• United States
11 Sep
A woman is doing a million things (OK, exaggeration, sort of), and a man is content to sit watching TV and let her. He ay have worked all day but so has she. Many times, those "things" divvied out might not be done right either so hence the nagging commencement. Case in point. I asked nicely (first two times), if my ex could fix the iron fence before our escape donkey got out again. He finally went out when I yelled Jr was on the move outside the pasture. Then, he doesn't weld it. He ties baling string and said it was good. So, at that point I TOLD him to get out there and do it right.
@aninditasen (17739)
• Raurkela, India
11 Sep
In India most men keep ordering about their wives but about themselves like I need this that for example a early lunch, late dinner and so on. They seldom help with household chores.
11 Sep
I have one thing in my mind when it comes to couple...have seen among many ...Right from the beginning Men should obey his women.sadly that is not the scenario between many couple.men will ultimately start listening to his women only after his things gone in a different direction or ran out of what he imagined.There comes certain things into picture like It is not your foot or shoes .Ok then solve it or get it done by your own why men always feel to have their shoe in women's foot?