Making friends as an adult

I really understand what you mean. Making friends at work can be very different from making friends in school or college. At first, people seem friendly because you’re new, and you naturally hope those connections will grow. But then you realise for many, the bond doesn’t go beyond the office walls. It can feel disappointing when your invitations don’t get the same energy back. Over time though, learning to do things alone can actually feel freeing. Going to lunch, movies, or even just enjoying your own company means you’re not relying on others for your happiness. It takes a bit of adjustment, but it also makes you stronger and more comfortable in your own skin. It doesn’t mean you’ll never find a true friend at work. Sometimes the best connections take time to develop, and they might appear when you least expect it. Even if most remain just colleagues, there’s still value in the teamwork and the casual chats. And outside of work, you can still nurture deeper friendships.

I worked at my last job for 15 years. I didn't take away one friend since I was a manager. I think they were nice to me just because of my position.

I don't know about things in India but in the US, I did make friends at the various jobs I had over my lifetime... Some stick around and you can depend on them and others don't. It just depends on what type of person they are and how well you retain friends. A lot of people prefer to remain only colleagues and depend on friends they made before they started working. I never understood that mindset. *shrug* I hope you make some friends. Being alone all the time isn't healthy for you.

I'd give it a bit more time. It's also really good to learn to enjoy your own company.

Friends happen but colleagues are what they really are. When I started working, I had some real good friends and I recall memories we shared, most of them pleasant

I also felt this.friendships require shared interests and trust, which is often lacking in a professional setting where relationships are transactional and professional boundaries are necessary. Workplace dynamics, competition for promotions, different goals, high job turnover, and the potential for career-damaging conflicts create significant barriers to forming deep, genuine friendships with colleagues. What I feel personally is, there is no need to be friends.atleast They should not any harm leaving all ethics . Thats enough for me

It can be tough making real friends at work. At first people seem open, but then you realize most just keep it at the “colleague” level. It feels a bit lonely, but like you said, you eventually learn to enjoy doing things on your own. That’s actually a great strength, being able to value your own company. And who knows, sometimes the best friendships show up when you least expect them. Do you still hope to find at least one real friend at work?

I would say it depends on the attitude of people. Some people really don't prioritize friendship when it comes to work. Remember when you are in a workplace, your primary concern is doing your job right. Friendship will just be a bonus. All are classified as colleagues. Don't get your hopes high. Not all can be welcoming and will want to become a friend to anyone. But gaining friends in a workplace really will be fun. Hope you'll gain friends there to help you more motivated in coming to work everyday.

When people are getting old, they tend to spend their time alone or with their families, unlike the younger ones who loves to explore the world with friends. Almost most of my friends are married the only time to get together is through messenger, hehehehe they are so busy building their homes and take care of their spouse and kids.

Oh you have tried and this is how they behave? I am sorry to know this. I will come have coffee with you friend.

I made friends at work but they were different from friends I made elsewhere.

Making friends as an adult is actually much more difficult than expected. If you move to a new location to live or to a new job, then of course most of the people there already have their friends and are not really looking to make new friends as their lives are already busy. I hope you have other friends outside of work. If not, then it is often easier to make friends through hobbies, then at least you have interests in common.

office is a competitive environment. So these friends are not long time friends. Friends made during school life college life have longer ties