My dad
By snowy
@snowy22315 (205438)
United States
November 29, 2025 11:39am CST
So, I have always been pleased when I see my dad, although he does ask repetive questions, his personality is much intact and he shows little decline other than that. I was mentioning to someone that his doctor must be really good. In fact, I have thought of writing a Thank you note to them. I still might. However, I did notice a bit of decline this Thanksgiving. My brother in law told a funny story, and my dad said I used to know a story like that but I have forgotten it. He has historically been able to relate a lot of stories from the past..and he didn't seem to remember any on this trip which is a departure. I just don't know what is going to happen there. My mom doesn't seem to want to refill out the application for the senior center. She did it once for both of them, but I think you have to re apply every year.
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@snowy22315 (205438)
• United States
30 Nov
He was really good at remembering the past. He was pretty quiet on this trip though.
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@LadyDuck (497117)
• Italy
30 Nov
@snowy22315 - I hope he is well, sometimes they get confused when more people are around them.
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@snowy22315 (205438)
• United States
29 Nov
I think it would be a sweet gesture on my part.
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@kaylachan (83737)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Nov
He might not be ready for that yet.
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@snowy22315 (205438)
• United States
29 Nov
That doesn't mean you don't lay plans so they are there when needed.
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@snowy22315 (205438)
• United States
30 Nov
@kaylachan I hope you are looking into alternatives if they are needed. They have the option to decline placement at the time it is offered. I think they already have. It doesn't go against you, at least at that particular facility. I am well aware of their thoughts and fears on it. However, it is better to have something lined up rather than being in a crunch and looking for options under duress.
@kaylachan (83737)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Nov
@snowy22315 You can do research, sure, but you can't force someone to do something they're not ready for. Many people, including older people, and most especially the elderly want to hold onto their independance for as long as they can. Stay in their homes for as long as possible. It's one thing to get priceses and see what your options are in your area, it's another to apply and get accepted only to decide you're not going to go through with it and back out. The second, can lower your chances of getting a spot when the time comes. So, tour places, check out pricing and find out what insurance will and won't cover, put money aside, but don't rush it. There's a right way and a wrong to plan.
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@snowy22315 (205438)
• United States
30 Nov
Yep, no stories from him on Thanksgiving...He did complain loudly about the football game he was watching and how the particular play needed to be thrown out of the playbook.
. I can't say I disagreed!
. I can't say I disagreed!1 person likes this
@snowy22315 (205438)
• United States
30 Nov
I don't perform as well on cognitive tests as I have once.
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@LindaOHio (217834)
• United States
30 Nov
I hope your father's decline is a temporary one. That would be nice of you to write a note to the doctors. The senior center would be a good idea.
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@rsa101 (40615)
• Philippines
2 Dec
I guess that’s just part of getting older. My father was always good at remembering things, but as he aged, he started repeating his stories and often forgot that he had already told or asked us the same thing. What matters most is appreciating him while he’s still with you. My father has passed, and there are times I wish I could hear those stories again, even if they were often repetitive, but that’s no longer possible.
@RasmaSandra (95917)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Nov
Good idea about the thank you note,
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