Good morning 12/8 This is going fast
By snowy
@snowy22315 (199747)
United States
December 8, 2025 8:08am CST
So, I had mentioned about my dad going in the hospital, they didn't want to admit him and my mother told the hospital she couldn't take care of him. I thought she meant under to those circumstances with Covid, however although she is good at giving him his meds..taking him to doctor's appointments etc She is not the best caretaker honestly. She gets stressed out etc. and doesn't want anyone around who could possibly help..no support groups etc.
Anyway, the hospital has decided to discharge him to rehab..and sis has a place picked out near her that she knows is nice for both of them I think they could probably stay at home with maybe visiting nurses once a week. I think I should ask whether she really wants this assisted living situation..or would prefer for them to stay at home with help...I don't gather this option has been discussed much. The facility options are going to be so expensive, but then again neither of them are going to get any better My mom said she was in a state of shock..not the best place to make decisions from.
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@AmbiePam (107748)
• United States
2h
@snowy22315 That’s good then. My mom’s home health aide was helpful, and took a little pressure off my dad.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
2h
@AmbiePam My mom was talking about the health aide just being for a couple of weeks, but they need to have it on an ongoing basis. The washer and dryer are downstairs, and that is really too much for her to manage. I worry about her falling on the steps..and if something happened, my dad wouldn't be able to help her. I think I should insist she has a phone on her when she makes that trek, or with a health aide hopefully she won't have to.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
2h
I think they are going for the option that is probably best for them now. They are going to have a Home Health Aide come in periodically, and he will have a walker at home. My mother understands that he may get to a place where he can not stay home, but as for now..that is what will be the most comfortable.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
3h
They are both 88,she will be next month anyway. Dad has Alzheimers..late moderate stage.
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@Tampa_girl7 (53923)
• United States
2h
My sister and I looked around and yes the facilities can be super expensive. In the end we kept both of my parents home. It was very challenging and felt so overwhelming. It was not easy, but in the end we are so glad we had them home until they each passed. I hope that whatever happens you are comfortable in the choice that is made.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
2h
Thanks, well I think what is important is that they are comfortable. Personally, I think it would take a blast furnace to get them out of there. However, my dad may reach a point where he can't be home any longer. My mother, not sure about that.
@wolfgirl569 (126074)
• Marion, Ohio
3h
They need to be included in the decision if they can be.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
3h
Yes, I wasn't party to everything that has been discussed so far. I did discuss my rehab..AKA assisted living..nursing home memory care etc.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
3h
Just talked to her, the plan everyone is feeling the most comfortable with is his coming home having a home health aide and a walker available for him to use.
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@just4him (319190)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
3h
@snowy22315 I'm glad that's the best decision.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
40m
Yeah, well arranged to have him to come home with a walker, and a home health aide. They will also being using someone from a nursing home nearby to wash the sheets and make the bed periodically. That is really too hard for my mom to do at this point.
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@snowy22315 (199747)
• United States
3h
Sis thinks she has the answer..but I don't know .There goes my inheritance..
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